MrsPeaSoup Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Hello fellow LSers! Yesterday I had the most peculiar day. Yesterday my ex and I had agreed to meet to have a cup of coffee somewhere. And so we did We were supposed to go just as friends and have some casual time or something. And we did. BUT...! There was SO much love tention in the air. And no, it was not just my stupid brain who believed the hope monster again. No. It was my ex who couldn't stop looking at me with his tender looking eyes. Sure I also saw he was confused, but that was even better! He wanted to touch my hands when we were sitting on the table (after I 'accidentally' put my hands on the table) and one time he almost kissed my head. When I turned back to look at him he quickly said 'It's really good to see you again'. The day was full.. no I mean LOADED with all those little things. Oh, especially his smile.... it ALMOST was that same smile he always used to have just for me. As we parted I asked him if he wanted to see me again. And he said he really wanted to. I have a week holiday next week and he would e-mail me to say when I can come over. Oh and we hugged and I saw he wanted to kiss me....! But I was playing hard to get, ignored it and just hugged him instead.. So he kissed my neck.... Overall it was a good day, right? ^^ I still think he is really confused. But now I know there still is some connection from his part. So I have this tiny little bit of advantage which I'll try to use as best as possible! --------------------------------------- Hope you enjoyed my little 'hope' post, cuz I know I did ^^ Link to post Share on other sites
mickleb Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 The 'love tension' you speak of sounds suspiciously like the behaviour of a man who has missed sex, to me. Sorry. You appear to have been trying to read this guy's gestures and body language for quite a while, claiming that 'he doesn't communicate his feelings very well' in your first post. However, the words he spoke, explaining to you that he 'doesn't have that magical feeling anymore', were pretty clear, surely? Only ever go by what is clearly the case: his words and actions (by leaving you) show he doesn't care as much for you as you do for him. Why want him? x Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Hello. Please tread carefully here. You need to ask yourself, that a month or so after he broke up with you citing that he didnt' love you anymore, to come back now - what has changed in that time. I know the instinct is to want to jump back in, but you have to figure out his motivations for his behaviour. Does he truly think he made a mistake (and that he still does love you) and wants to do anything to prove it to you? Or his he lonely or miss companionship/sex? Sit down with him again in short while and discuss this with him. Because it's rare that someone will tell you they no longer love you and then change their mind in such a short time. Link to post Share on other sites
Stephie Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 Well I think its awesome I know that feeling but I also know it didn't end up the way I wanted... Everyone is different everyone says things they don't believe/mean and now maybe he has realized what a mistake he has made. If you do try again sit down and have that talk what you both want and need. You both need to realize where it went wrong and if you are both willing to fix the problems that put you here in the first place. Take things slow and no sex, if it doesn't work out you will only feel worse about yourself. I'm a firm believer if it comes back it was so mant to be and he's yours and your his forever. I wish you the best of luck because that feeling can be the best feeling in the world keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 In my experience, men only contact ex's for one reason: to try to rekindle something. I doubt very much your ex was confused about anything. I don't know this guy, so I cannot say for sure, but I'd bet that if your meetings persist, sooner or later he'll try to lure youy into some sort of FWB arrangement. I guess time will tell. Link to post Share on other sites
Author MrsPeaSoup Posted May 3, 2010 Author Share Posted May 3, 2010 Thank you all for your replies Your warnings are fair, I know I should look out. I will take it slowly and I will not become a fwb I will not allow that. But we'll see what happens. I don't think I am ready yet to love him the way I did before. I doubt he is, too. It was nice to see there was still some connection, though I'll keep you posted if we'll have a second meeting. but for today; I have a date with a new guy! Let's see how that works out, lol. Thank you again for your concerns and warnings! Link to post Share on other sites
lullaby Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 Hey! any news in your story? I've just read it! Quite similar to mine, read it. Let's see where our hopes take us, right??? Wish you the best! Link to post Share on other sites
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