bentnotbroken Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Its been removed. Along with a bunch of other posts. Oh! Thanks. I wasn't able to get on before now, so I didn't get a chance to read the whole thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Many cheaters are smart but it does not make them good people. Intelligence does not mean a person has character. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OFGnomore Posted May 5, 2010 Author Share Posted May 5, 2010 Many cheaters are smart but it does not make them good people. Intelligence does not mean a person has character. What is smart any way? Certainly, education level, mensa scores, can measure one aspect of aptitude but only a facet IMO. My xMM was book smart and yet, a total social, emotional bonehead in many ways. See this all the time in the medical field too when I used to work with doctors. Link to post Share on other sites
on1wheel Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 I think cheaters are selfish people...period. They will use excuses to try & explain away any grown up guilt..."Couldn't help it...I'm messed up" I am a BS (husband) that was molested as a child, (not my fault) had a fiancè cheat on me, (also not my fault) then of course after I married a woman that swore she would not add to the SH*T list; did just that. My point is that I am messed up as a result, so I could have said "I have been abused, cheated on & wanted a revenge affair". But my morals & one of my core values (which is do unto others, as you would have done to you) would NEVER let me. When I made my promises took my vows in front of God & family; well they bound me. So no matter how bad things gotten for me in my F'ud up marriag I DO NOT CHEAT. Cheating is a mental choice that is made long B4 the pants come off. The most selfish decision I know. Some people just aren't made that way. The sad thing is that 2 moral people hardly ever end up married to each other it seems. It's always a moral person & a person that pretends to be, then decides to satisfy a need that they decide they are entitled to. Makes me sad :-( Link to post Share on other sites
RedDevil66 Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 Some people just aren't made that way. The sad thing is that 2 moral people hardly ever end up married to each other it seems. It's always a moral person & a person that pretends to be, then decides to satisfy a need that they decide they are entitled to. Makes me sad :-( I totally agree about this part Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 I think I must be one of the rare honest people married to another honest person. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 I think I must be one of the rare honest people married to another honest person. honest people talk to their partners about what is bothering them instead of on the internet. I'm just saying. Link to post Share on other sites
turnstone Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 OFGnomore, I'm sure I wouldn't cheat for three reasons; I don't need sex to give me anything emotional but a connection with the person I'm having sex with, I like myself too much to disappoint myself by behaving immorally, and finally I know just how painful it is to be cheated on and I could never inflict that agony on anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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