anne1707 Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I have noticed in a number of public settings that women choose to breast feed their babies in plain view. Some are more discreet about this than others. I have seen some women with their breasts exposed and did a double take as I walked past. I don't think it is appropriate to do this. Surely you can find a more discreet place than at a park bench or on a commuter train. If they have more than one child then sometimes they get distracted by the toddler and oops everything is exposed. Come on ladies have some tact. So accidental exposure is considered as flaunting by some on here.... I just consider it as accidental. Maybe I am being too liberal. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 It's also natural and beautiful to have sex with your loved one. So why is it prohibited in public? Line in the sand of tasteful behaviour in polite company and full exposure while breastfeeding is oh so tasteless. That is truly hilarious TBF! Oh well.. prepare to be cussed out. I wouldnt mess with a woman who is breast feeding... Take care, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Find a valid argument. I don't need to. The court has already decided. By the way, I'm not the one constantly contradicting myself in this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 More tasteless behaviour but then, it kind of falls into place, no? I suppose it depends on the direction of concern. Most mums care firstly about their child, not company.. but I understand all too well that in some circles this is not the case. But if you think that breast feeding is tasteless, fair enough.. Fingers crossed that we dont have a zombie apocalypse in the remaining part of your pregnancy .. or all baby formula runs out .. Take care, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 As expressed way, way earlier in this thread, discreet breastfeeding doesn't bother me. It's the flaunters that disturb my digestion when trying to have a nice, romantic dinner with my partner. Absolutely tasteless. And as you also said way earlier in this thread, "The act of open public breast-feeding disgusts me. The act of breast-feeding itself disgusts me, open or otherwise, which is why it's not my choice." Hmmm...... Contradiction. And the most basic point in this thread, at that. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Waiter... I'll have what he's having ... Works for both breastfeeding and having sex on a table.. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I suppose it depends on the direction of concern. Most mums care firstly about their child, not company.. but I understand all too well that in some circles this is not the case. But if you think that breast feeding is tasteless, fair enough.. Fingers crossed that we dont have a zombie apocalypse in the remaining part of your pregnancy .. or all baby formula runs out .. Take care, Eve xxLet me reit my position one more time out of a billion times already, all in one post. I find breast feeding disgusting, so I don't choose to do it.I support womens' choice to breast feed or not to breast feed.Logically speaking, if women choose to breast feed, there will practically be a component of breast feeding in public but ensure that it's done in a discreet manner aka blanket while breast feeding or go to the bathroom or car.I find breast feeding tasteless when women just whip out their breasts for all to view, particularly at a fine dining venue, hence do not support, actually reject this unnecessary aspect of breastfeeding. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I hope you're joking. The baby needs to eat quickly. A couple can wait until they get home to have sex. How can they be compared?A baby needs to eat but not everyone should be forced to watch the baby eat with full exposure of the mother's teat(s). Contradiction. And the most basic point in this thread, at that.Nothing but agitation since you cannot find a logical argument to rebutt sex in public v. full exposure while breast feeding in public. Link to post Share on other sites
CollectiveVelvet Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Let me reit my position one more time out of a billion times already, all in one post. I find breast feeding disgusting, so I don't choose to do it.I support womens' choice to breast feed or not to breast feed.Logically speaking, if women choose to breast feed, there will practically be a component of breast feeding in public but ensure that it's done in a discreet manner aka blanket while breast feeding or go to the bathroom or car.I find breast feeding tasteless when women just whip out their breasts for all to view, particularly at a fine dining venue, hence do not support, actually reject this unnecessary aspect of breastfeeding. I'm can understand all of these things. I have never seen a woman whipping out her breasts for all to see while breast feeding. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Waiter... I'll have what he's having ... Works for both breastfeeding and having sex on a table..You are too funny! Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I'm can understand all of these things. I have never seen a woman whipping out her breasts for all to see while breast feeding. I've seen maybe ONE woman ever do that, and I have NEVER done that myself. However, when someone calls even discreet breastfeeding "disgusting" and compares it to a guy scratching his balls, it scares me just a tad. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I'm can understand all of these things. I have never seen a woman whipping out her breasts for all to see while breast feeding. I sincerely hope you don't understand someone asking a woman to feed her baby in a public restroom. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 She is feeding her baby. If you can't see the difference between that her exposing her breasts for no reason, well that's sad.There are underlying reasons why women expose themselves in public. This I truly find sad. Have some dignity and decorum. Link to post Share on other sites
CollectiveVelvet Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I sincerely hope you don't understand someone asking a woman to feed her baby in a public restroom. No, of course not. That is incredibly un-sanitary. Link to post Share on other sites
donnamaybe Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 No, of course not. That is incredibly un-sanitary. Agreed. Seems we agree on pretty much all points in this thread. A woman should be able to feed her baby without being harassed for it regardless where they are. It is best to try to maintain a little modesty. This is JUST my opinion and what I always did. However, when I did see a woman breastfeeding in public once without covering, I didn't snipe at her or give her any dirty looks or even THINK anything bad about her. I just wouldn't feel comfortable doing it myself. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 You have absolutely no dignity at all when you are "learning" how to breastfeed in the hospital and the nurses/midwives are grabbing your boob in one hand and your baby in the other and plugging them in! You do get quite used to being in display in that respect after being poked and prodded in the most intimate areas of your body, you definitely end up caring much less, thats for sure. I remember taking a long shirt to give birth in (because there was NO way I was going to do it naked) and the first thing I did when I got into the delivery room was strip everything off and all the kings horses and all the kings men could have seen me birth that baby and I wouldn't have given a monkeys arse. Shirt didn't ever get unpacked! Link to post Share on other sites
CollectiveVelvet Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Agreed. Seems we agree on pretty much all points in this thread. A woman should be able to feed her baby without being harassed for it regardless where they are. It is best to try to maintain a little modesty. This is JUST my opinion and what I always did. However, when I did see a woman breastfeeding in public once without covering, I didn't snipe at her or give her any dirty looks or even THINK anything bad about her. I just wouldn't feel comfortable doing it myself.I agree as well. I would personally not be comfortable but I don't see anything gross or disrespectful in it. As a breast feeding mother I was harassed, stared at, glared at and once asked to leave a public space. And I was very discrete. As a new mother I was blanket clumsy, but I don't think anyone actually saw my breast. Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyLeigh Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I've seen maybe ONE woman ever do that, and I have NEVER done that myself. However, when someone calls even discreet breastfeeding "disgusting" and compares it to a guy scratching his balls, it scares me just a tad. Not to mention that it is not even close to being a valid argument. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 This discussion reminds me of an article I read from some hardline Womens Group that declared that giving birth is degrading to women. Clearly some have more time than others to muse upon these things. The rest of us just get on with it and the world keeps spinning. Take care, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I've seen maybe ONE woman ever do that, and I have NEVER done that myself. However, when someone calls even discreet breastfeeding "disgusting" and compares it to a guy scratching his balls, it scares me just a tad. I've seen women wip out a boob for a breast feeding a few times in my life. Far to often I've seen guy scratch there junk or let there crack hang out and NO ONE EVER SAYS A WORD to these men. I guess its more socialy acceptable to complain about women trying to take care of their babies. Link to post Share on other sites
shadowofman Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Oh My God! Neither is gross or offensive. What is the difference between an itch in the groin or an itch on the head? What is the difference between a woman's bare breast and a bare legs? Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 (edited) ... Anyhow, breast feeding does serve a purpose. It helps with after pains doesnt it? .. You know, the womb contracting back to its normal size after childbirth. So Ha! TBF.. beat that one baby! If there is a medical base (even though it would be silly to have to have one for something as natural breast feeding).. there you have it! So breast feeding is both natural and for those who do it essential for their body to recover. *Please note that I am being playful and not antagonistic, ok? I know what you Americans are like* Take care, Eve xx Edited May 10, 2010 by Eve Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 I love it how Americans put "the hell" into things. It sounds so funny! Link to post Share on other sites
silverfish Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 I love it how Americans put "the hell" into things. It sounds so funny! I'm thinking next year when we go to a fancy restaurant for my Bday, and my sis will have her baby with her (she's 3 months pregnant now), maybe we should get the chef to play along....molecular gastronomy Heston Blumenthal style with breastmilk..... Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 No, I'm not Canadian. Link to post Share on other sites
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