Bootsky Posted May 4, 2010 Share Posted May 4, 2010 Just a general question..... Is it possible to be friends for years, become fwb, then be friends? I know circumstances probably play a large role in this.....say that one friend left because they "fell" for someone else romantically along the way.... Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 It can certainly happen, but I think it is unusual. But not because one of the partners discovers a 3rd party. Frankly, many FWB relationships end up being pretty exploitative. Some even start out that way. Many women enter into FWB relationships with the idea that it may blossom into something more. But that almost never happens. As far as most men are concerned, FWB is THE #1 ideal kind of relationship. Many men much prefer having a FWB than having a GF. In a FWB, a guy gets all the benefits of having a GF--affection, sex, companionship--but with no strings. Why would he ever want the relationship to become "something more?" From a male POV, FWB is the ultimate win/win, have-my cake-and-eat-it-too situation. When the female partner wants more--and it is usually she that wants more--the guy will usually refuse. If she presses him, he'll usually just end the relationship. Once a guy gets the ultimate prize--FWB--he doesn't want to go back to some kind of BF/GF thing. That is a step backwards, from the male POV. As you can imagine, this engenders a lot of anger and bitterness. I think this is why FWB relationships only rarley turn into strong, lasting platonic friendships. Link to post Share on other sites
nigh2 Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 interesting.... my ex has recently become "fwb" with a friend of hers form highschool...(about 4 years since highschool now) but they were friends all throughout hs, and recently they have become more than that....Mmy ex told me that she has no feelings for him, but she wont get rid of him....just using him I suppose...I cant see them not being friends. if anything else Im sure they will become more than FWB later on...as Im sure he is begining to have feelings for her of some kind... She told me she still has feelings for me and that she wants to get back with me eventually....I could care less, but whenever I am around her she is constantly texting/getting calls from this guy....so.... in that situation I dont see a FWB relationship being anything other than FWB or BF/GF...just going back to friends with him....dont see it happening Link to post Share on other sites
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