TwilightSky Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 think the delusional barrier is starting to break down in me. I'm starting to see everyone I know believes I am some sort of loser. A few people kept trying to say that this girl at work likes me. Well one said that same thing to a different co-worker, who replied "you know she's got a boyfriend." The co-worker who relayed this comment to me said the other worker was probably trying to imply that she was out of my league (his perception), or something. Now, I'm not interested in this girl in the slightest, it's just I don't know why these things keep getting assumed about me. Now, the co-worker that gave me the message wasn't really agreeing with him, it was still it irritating. Should I be looking in the mirror for the source of my problems? How do I determine why these things keep getting assumed? Oh, and I'm operating on about two hours sleep, so I'm probably more paranoid and incoherant than usual. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Take the girl out of the equation. Take the colleagues and their comments out of the picture too. Are they clear from your head for at least one minute? Do you think you are a loser? You are the person that controls how happy you are as a person. If someone else thinks or says something that doesn't make it so. Keep positive man, be pleased with yourself and happy about yourself. If you can think of ways to want to improve ask yourself why, what you think you're doing wrong and if its right to change who you are. Stay true to yourself if you believe you are a good person and make any changes for the better if you truly believe they need to be made. Don't even bear other people's throw away comments or the truth that lies in the rumours of a workplace in mind. Trust in yourself. Look within and decide what your true feelings are. Don't delve to deep on introspection to much in one go though, just have a think on things. Get some rest and let the worries go, slowly. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Well one said that same thing to a different co-worker, who replied "you know she's got a boyfriend." The co-worker who relayed this comment to me said the other worker was probably trying to imply that she was out of my league (his perception), or something. No, the "different co-worker" just stated a fact: she's got a boyfriend. (That has nothing to do with YOU, in any way, shape or form.) The "co-worker who relayed this comment" is the one who is all screwed-up, re-interpreting and making wrong/stupid assumptions about the "different co-worker's" statement of fact. I agree with JohnM: Other people can and will ever only support the view of yourself that you already hold -- if you feel like a winner, others' perceptions and dumb-ass comments will not have any power to "turn you" into a loser -- your own mind and self-image will override their image of you. And vice versa -- if you see yourself as, and feel like a loser, nothing outside of you is going to change that, either. Link to post Share on other sites
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