I am just so pissed

[zetkin]

I met this guy at an online-dating site. We really liked each other (I mean communication). We both agreed on the fact that we are not really looking for a relationship, but just friendship. We met the next day cause it felt kind of natural. As for me, the date (or so called date) was totally fine, I liked it. So the next day I wrote him in chat but he didn’t answer. I thought that may be he wasn’t there and sent him a message that I wanted to talk to him. He didn’t even give a **** to write me back. WTF? I now feel so obtrusive. And I hate this feeling so much.

 

And I wouldn’t have if he had just told me he was not interested in continuing communication. I mean I am a big girl - I am totally fine with being rejected. Damn, guys, is it really so hard simply to tell a girl that you are not interested? Is that too much to ask? Just say “Sorry, you’re not my type” or “Sorry, but I am married” or at least anything. Don’t leave us guessing what could have been wrong

 

Because I can’t even understand what the hell is wrong. I think the only thing he might have not liked is my looks. I look fine (many guys like me), but may be I’m just not his type. (But then why would it even matter? He said he’s looking for friendship, not a girlfriend.) If not this, then I really have no idea what else could have I done wrong…

 

I probably wouldn’t have written this post if this was the first time this kind of stuff happens to me, but I had exactly the same situation about a year ago. It’s like deja vu.

 

Sorry for the language but I’m just so pissed.

[TouchedByViolet]

So you met a guy through an online dating website, told him you want to be "just friends" and are upset he has stopped communicating... There is no suprise for me here. Do you have a question?

 

Single guys are (generally) not looking for girls to be friends with.

Edited May 6, 2010 by TouchedByViolet

[pureinheart]

That was kinda rude not to say something...most people are evasive rather than being direct. Just usually straight up and say I'm not interested, or not ready...but I'm not on any dating site either.

 

Hey, the right one will come, and you won't even have to look...he'll find you:) ((((((((hugs)))))))))

[RobM]

I've had a lot of online friends that do this, chat everyday, become really good friends, then boom, they're gone, never even say bye, it is rude and it does suck. I'd prefer they just say goodbye.

[zetkin]

So you met a guy through an online dating website, told him you want to be "just friends" and are upset he has stopped communicating... There is no suprise for me here. Do you have a question?

 

Single guys are (generally) not looking for girls to be friends with.

 

It's not that I told him "Sorry, but I want to be just friends with you". He said the same (may be he lied of course:() But it's also not that he said this after I said, just to agree. We both discussed this and we kind of both agreed that we are not really into dating right now, just communicating, finding friends, hanging out, so on, cause we are both young...

 

And you know, people on this kind of sites are not only there to find a date, but may be just to chat, get to know some new people and find friends.

 

 

I've had a lot of online friends that do this, chat everyday, become really good friends, then boom, they're gone, never even say bye, it is rude and it does suck. I'd prefer they just say goodbye.

 

Exactly, that's what I'm talking about.

 

And what sucks most of all - you're just left there guessing if there's anything wrong with you that might have driven them away(((((((((((((((((((((((((

[BlindbyLove]

And you know, people on this kind of sites are not only there to find a date, but may be just to chat, get to know some new people and find friends.

I'll talk to ya and be a friend. why not, I live alone going through a separation. I can use a friend to talk too.