Toussaint Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 I have a serious problem with relationships, both friendship and romantic. For the last seven years, I have been afraid of knowing other people. I am now twenty and a junior in college; I have yet to have a girlfriend or even group of friends to "hang out" with. The closest I've ever come to kissing someone is a handshake. Almost everyday since I was thirteen, once class was over, I locked myself in my bedroom and did not exit until the next morning. I didn't go to my prom. (The only party I've ever gone to was a sixth grade dance.) I've never gone to a high school or a college sporting event. As I said, I'm now a junior in college. The only people I know are the people in my classes. I'm afraid to approach to them or anybody I don't know. I'm not afraid of being rejected so much as I'm afraid of being accepted. In the last six months I spent five hundred dollars on online dating services, thinking that meeting people as a pen pal would be easier than face to face. In every service I subscribed to, someone sent me a letter wanting to know me. I might have sent one or two letters, each with a nice reply. But when signs say she likes me, I bail out every time. The same thing happens when someone (guy or girl) just wants to be a friend. So here I stand, a twenty year old loner. People all around me enjoy my presence, but I never feel secure around other people. For the last two years, I've attempted to change this with no success. Got any suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 It might be time to see a therapist. There's a disorder that is similar to the situation you describe. Disorders can be treated - and are much easier to get rid of with the help of a trained specialist. Your life is impacted negatively by this, which means it's time to get help. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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