Leoworkshopp Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 Hello, Well, my name is Leo and im 18 years old im totally inlove with this beautiful girl that was my girlfriend like 3 days ago and now she is my ex. We been going out for almost 2 years now and thats a long time. She broke up with me saing that she needed time, that she is confused and that she needs to find the real her. I been going crazy like wanting to call her and try to email her and even try to get her attention by missing school to see if she noticed, but for what I hear i don't think she misses me a bit. I havn't talked to her in 3 days and im depressed not knowing what to do. My friends say give her the time she needs and hopefully everything will come back together, but I honestly can't im way to in to this relationship. I'm scared cause i do understand that you know if your married you take a break well you know you cna't really leave for another person cause it is like kinda really bad, but when your like my age you tend to like move on. Im scared if she does move on. What should I do any help? I'm really really scared and hope that all this break up thing is only for the better. I mean it is almost 2 years on Feb 3, so i don't know. Did it scare her? or you think she dosn't like me anymore. I Love this girl and I want her back. So, please people help, should I call her? should I send her roses telling her that i lvoe her, cause im scared if she does think that i don't love her. I never did nothing to her to do this to me. I love her. HELP Leo Link to post Share on other sites
Marty_McFly Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 Don't continually call her or try to get her attention or whatever. I know that it's really hard, but it's not going to do any good. If she hasn't already responded to your attempts, then she's not going to, and any additional attempts will only make her angry. She knows how you feel, so the only thing you can do now is be her friend if/when she asks you to, and let all the "good" aspects of your personality continue to show and make sure you contain (and correct) any of your "bad" aspects that she may not have liked. I believe that she probably meant it when she said she needed time and needs to find the "real" her. And I think she was probably smart to do so. At you guys' age, you definitely have a lot to learn about who you are and what you want in this world. If there's doubts or questions in her mind, it's the best for both of you that you get some time to figure yourselves out. You may or may not end up back together, but it would really suck if you stayed together unhappily because one or both of you never got the chance to figure yourselves out. I know it feels like she doesn't even care and doesn't miss you. However, unless you did something really bad to make her want to leave, she does miss you. You were together 2 years and no one turns that feeling off overnight. However, she's decided that she needs to be away from you to discover things she needs to discover, and she's making a conscious effort to stick with that decision. She's probably pretending not to notice, and not calling you, because she is trying very hard to push you out of her minds so that she can stick with the decision she's made. Once a woman gets to that point, there's not a lot you can do except what I talked about above. It sucks, dude. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leoworkshopp Posted January 23, 2004 Author Share Posted January 23, 2004 I don't understand, Today she told her friends that we arn't talking cause im mad at her cause she broke up with me. I don't get it and someone also asked her what did he do to you. She said he didn't do anything, he is perfect i just don't know. What is all this suppose to mean? please help. Link to post Share on other sites
Medgirl Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 Hi Leoworkshop, I'm really sorry to hear about your breakup. I know how you feel. My boyfriend and I just broke up last night and I'm way depressed too. However, I've been in a situation like yours before. In fact it was just before this relationship that just ended. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were planning on getting married. We're both 19 now. I loved him and he never did any harm to me but I broke up with him because I realized how young I am, and I realized that I wanted to date other people. I didn't like feeling married when I was only 19. I felt old. I've heard of a lot of other girls that do this as well. So, you just need to understand that it's not you. I think you also need to move on. I know it'll be very hard for you. I wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
julieg Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 leo it is definately not you. i was once your ex girlfriend. i broke up for the same reasons medgirl. we are just young and growing up. when i was 19 the last thing on my list was getting engaged and married. i broke up with the greatest guy just because i didnt like the serious nature things were evolving into. i believe it all has to do with timing and maturity. Link to post Share on other sites
doniker Posted January 23, 2004 Share Posted January 23, 2004 I am a 40 year old married man. God, I would do anything to be 18 and single again. Stop bumming out and go out and have fun. Your young and free to live the rest of your life and do and be whatever you want. don't waste a minute on depression over some chick, you will regret it later. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Leoworkshopp Posted January 24, 2004 Author Share Posted January 24, 2004 Well, Today I got my girlfriend after school and i got stuff off my back. Well she told me that she never wants to speak again unless im willing to be friends and it is way to hard to be friends and see her move on to other guys and stuff so i said, you do your life and i will do mine. and i left. Also, went to a club my friend wanted to take me too, never had such a good time. I think you guys are right. IM free, no girl, no extra money to waste on. I got it mad now. Im free, Wemon, in the Orlando, Florida area? lol. and umm Medgirl? wow your hot. kissses muah lol bye bye. Thanks ALL. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 Dude....being single in Orlando sucks. It sucks big time. Most women here are f*cking insane. Sorry to hear about your breakups, folks. Just sit around and sulk, cry it out, be sad, be angry, get it out of your system. Don't start dating immediately, don't make yourself do stuff you don't really want to do, you can't fool your heart. Link to post Share on other sites
lakeishap43 Posted January 24, 2004 Share Posted January 24, 2004 I really need some help. My boyfriend for 3 yrs. just broke up with me 2 sat. ago (jan 10, 04) I'm so confused about what happen. See we lived together and even talked about getting married. Actually he was going to ask me to marry him today (jan 24, 2004) when we went to a hockey game. he sat me down that sat. morning and told me that he just didn't think it was going to work out between me and him as a marriage but he still wanted me and him to be together. I was soooo confused because Christmas day he told everyone about his plan on asking me to marry him and he even bought the ring. He had all this planned out and then he did this to me. I don't know what to do?? is there anyone out there that can help me. then to beat it all off that night he broke up with me my best friend spent the night with him. needless to say i lost my temper with both of them. Not only that my so called best friend is my ex boyfriend best friend ex girlfriend. How could they do this to either one of us. I just don't understand. life got worse today when i called him and asked him who got my ticket for the hockey game and low and behold it's his ex girl ticket now!!!! HELP ME GET OVER THIS BEFORE I LOSE MY MIND, ANYONE!!! thanks, Keisha Link to post Share on other sites
cantsleep02 Posted January 25, 2004 Share Posted January 25, 2004 hey the same thing just happened to me, my girfriend who was really sweet and inocent and telling me things like "forever" and so on had to go try to find herself the same way, i wanted to call her and talk to her, and occasionally shed come to see me and still say she wants to marry me and all that, im 18 also and totally in love with this girl, then she just disapeared then i found out she slept with this other kid and now has a boyfriend who was her bestfriend before she started going out with me, on top of this, i have my own problems like paranoia, anxiety, deprression and insomnia and im having a really hard time with this, shes changed and i miss her, she was so sweet and innocent and we had plans for eachother, now shes gone and doing things that blow my mind, i still havent heard from her, 2 years of this, shed even cry sometimes because she loved me so much and i know she does, but i started to have poroblems of my own dealing with how i was raised and drug addictions and i have always been there for her and when im weak she just dispears. it really is bad and really depressing and i already could barely sleep, like 3 hours a night, and barely eat now i cant do anything, i havent slept since or eaten, so shes probably cheating on you right now, will probably find someone else who is depressed and feel like he knows everything and sleep with him, but thats life, and when a guys love a girl its alot harder Link to post Share on other sites
Hendrix Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 well i have a similer prob to the first post, my girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago after 2 and a half years, and im not taking it to well, im just depressed and i missed school to, she saids she needs space, i know it isnt a great year since we have exams etc coming up in a few months, and she has family problems, i cant help calling her and txt her i just need to talk to her and miss her way to much, i hate being without her. I know she needs time, but can't stand being without her, i open my heart to her and she knows how i feel but she doesnt seem to take it into consideration a week before we broke up she was always telling me how much she loved me and special i am, and a week later she breaks up with me, Im not sure what to do we had a small fight on the fone and we didnt talk for a few days just before the breakup, but if she loved me as much as she said she does i cant really come to terms with this yesterday she said she didnt love me just as a best friend but i hate being like this. Im just not sure what to do Link to post Share on other sites
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