Illiandra Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 We have been together for about 1 year. Currently all of our friends are getting married. 4 of my close friends are getting married, another one is getting engaged. On his side 5 of his friends are getting married and another one is getting engaged. All of the sudden, he has been asking me quesitons such as, what size are your friends getting, how much did the ring cost, what size do i like etc. I explained to him that it is a good idea to go look at rings together bfore making such a big investment. His argument is that it would ruin the surprise. Would it be crazy of me to say we can go check out rings one day just to look? Also, is it weird that he started asking these questions, recently, is it a sign or a subtly hint that he maybe thinking of it. Link to post Share on other sites
GamerGirl Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 Personally, I think 1 year is way too early to get engaged. I've been with my man for over 5 years and we are STILL working out the details of getting married sometime soon. But, I did go looking at rings with him and it really gave us an idea of what we both liked. We already have rings picked out that fit our personalities, budget, etc. to a tee. I think it's essential to take a look at rings together because it will avoid conflicts and serve as a bonding experience. It has for us. I think it's tacky to tell someone the ring they picked out is ugly, but we will be able to completely avoid that situation! It really shouldn't be about the ring, and taking the time to look at them together has really helped us bond and have some discussions about some other MAJOR issues we will face as a married couple. It's made the rings a non-issue and allowed us to focus on what's important! Link to post Share on other sites
VikingPrincess Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 I wouldn't listen to anyone about the amount of time you are together. You get engaged and married when it is right for you. And I do think your boy has marriage on the brain if he asks you questions like that. Guys are not that subtle. I am having issues myself though with this complete surprise thing. That is what my bf wants to do and I said well what if I don't like the ring you haven't even asked me what I like? He said I could exchange it....I was like wth? Anyways good luck with your guy! Link to post Share on other sites
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