Elen Posted July 9, 2000 Share Posted July 9, 2000 Hi I have been going out with my BF for 4 months, and I admit I have acted selfish when it comes to engaging in sex, mainly because I have had bad relationships before, where guys mostly would take control in the beginning and would pretty much make me do things in their own ways. Lost my virginity to a guy, who basically pressed sex on me after 1 week of going out. Well, anyhow, with this guy I decided to take it slow, and take some control on my part. Just wanted to know whether he was here with me for ME or for whatever he can get FROM me. he is the sweetest guy I have met. He is super nice, writes letters to me, emails me everyday, he listens, when I said I wanted a cat, but could not have it cause of my parents, he went out and bought me a soft CAT animal he writes sweet romantic poems for me, surprises me with flowers, he tells me how warm and secure he feels around me. Once he brought up the issue of sex, and I, being a little paranoic, interpreted it as him being pushy, it was after like 1 month of going out, and then he set it straight that he wants ME for ME and not what he can get from me, so basically he is looking for commitment and not the immediate gratification of his sexual urges. I feel so guilty I have acted so selfish. He has not mention ed a word about sex since then, it has been almost 4 months. Now I am scared whether he is losing interest in me or just waiting for me to tell him, that I am ready , and trust me enough... It has been almost 4 months, and we have not had sex yet. DO you guys think, he thinks that I am playing hard to get, and might break up with me if I wont sleep with him anytime soon,,,,,,, But I WANT TO SLEEP WITH HIM, CAUSE I AM FALLING IN LOVE WITH HIM....how do I LET HIM KNOW?!?!?!?!? HELP!!! He is little shy maybe,,,or just does not wanna push me, ntil i would bring it up!!! so NOW WHAT??? dont wanna F@#$K this beautiful relationship for me being stubborn,,,, HELP Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted July 9, 2000 Share Posted July 9, 2000 Tell him, seduce him, whatever you need to do to let him know you are ready. Ladies have a way with words. But do this soon. Happy Trails!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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