Slept with a friend

[Justanotherdude]

I'll keep this short. Recently, it was a friend's birthday. Someone I haven't seen in awhile, but used to live with. (roommate) We have always got along great, there is great chemistry between us - I am not exaggerating. She had a boyfriend while I was living with her and after they broke up we were just friends that would see eachother every few months or so. One night she accidentally left a voicemail on my phone right after I was dropped off at my house by her and her friends. She was talking about me to them in a very good way. I didn't think anything of it, because I was dating someone, didn't care.

 

Fast forward to today, months later, it's her birthday. I meet up with them, we're drinking, having good conversation, etc etc and well, we end up back at her place. We sleep together and in the morning she is cuddling with me.

 

She tells me I can sleep in some more, she takes off to church, I leave shortly after. We hung out again very recently (she cooked dinner) and I basically let her know I was interested (bad idea i guess) but it has nothing to do with the fact we slept together. She has always been an awesome girl and we get along great.

 

I got the "im not into guys right now" speech, given - I kind of dropped this on her in the car, put her on the spot..but still. Doesn't look good. I also know she REALLY wants to move back home (which is out of state) and told me she isn't wanting to get attached to anything here.

 

I'm not stupid, generally when I hear something along these lines it's not good. What do you think? Aside from this comment, nothing else she does says not interested. She was all over me and excited to see me the night of her birthday..both before the bar and after.

Edited May 11, 2010 by Justanotherdude

[mitchell]

She's not interested. Perhaps she just wanted some sex on her birthday and you were available.

[hurtandheartbroken]

I feel bad laughing at the "slept together" then "off to church" bit right after.

Honestly, it may have just been opportunity and she may realize the friendship is worth more than potentially ruining it.

 

Or she may like the FWB situation.

[Pink Cupcakes]

Do you have a small you know what? Were you a two-pump chump that night? If a woman drops you after sex, the magic just wasn't happening for her in bed and you need to work on your technique. Sorry, but this is coming from a woman.

[Justanotherdude]

Do you have a small you know what? Were you a two-pump chump that night? If a woman drops you after sex, the magic just wasn't happening for her in bed and you need to work on your technique. Sorry, but this is coming from a woman.

 

I won't turn this into a big talk about my junk - but I'm not small at all. Nice width and length. and scratches in my back from that night from her.

 

 

ahem.. but it definitely didn't last long..20 minutes? neither of us got there though, it was too damn hot and we were both drunk and passed out.

 

I feel like talking to her friend (whom im also friends with) .. bad idea?

[sweethearttx]

Do you have a small you know what? Were you a two-pump chump that night? If a woman drops you after sex, the magic just wasn't happening for her in bed and you need to work on your technique. Sorry, but this is coming from a woman.

Ok well that's not how I operate, but I guess some women do apparently.

 

My initial reaction would be that she's just not interested in something serious right now, just as she said, and that may have nothing to do with you. But yeah...I mean if you said you are interested and she gave you a speech about not wanting to get involved, that's probably a bad sign for the two of you.