StressedGirl24 Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=indigo][/color] I have been in my current relationship for a year, my boyfriend has currently gone into the military so there has been some added stress lately. I know that due to his current duties in the service and restrictions he cannot contol, certain promises such as phone calls, exact dates he will be home, etc. are never for sure. Since he's been gone and he is so far away from me, the topic of cheating has crossed my mind, not me cheating, but him cheating on me. I know its hard to have a long distance relationship, but I am commited and I would never do anything to jeopardize what we have. Before he left we had a talk about the cheating thing because I was so concerned and he promised he loved me and only me and he'd always come home to me. I know he is into posting himself on those online dating sites just "for fun" or whatever, but the other day I purposely went and found him on one just to see what really is going on. In his little profile were somethings about women and some were sex related. It sounded like he wasn't at all with someone and considering how committed I am to him, he didnt seem at all committed to anything but a little romp in the bed. So, I know this sound stalker-ish, but I check his email and he had paid and subscribed to this site so he could get emails form the girls... he's been talking to two of them. Not for too long it seems, but he has actually sent them messages when I, his girlfriend, barely get phone calls! The emails werepretty short, but they were, send me your pic, lets meet somewhere soon, "i'd like to show you what I can do" type of things. What my question is: I need some advise, is he cheating or is it all talk?!
CaterpillarGirl Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 Totally inappropriate behavior on his part. Confront him about the status of your relationship. He is definitely disrespecting you, at the very least. I'd move on, if I were you.
TMCM Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 Originally posted by StressedGirl24 [font=arial][/font][color=indigo][/color] I know he is into posting himself on those online dating sites just "for fun" or whatever, but the other day I purposely went and found him on one just to see what really is going on. In his little profile were somethings about women and some were sex related. It sounded like he wasn't at all with someone and considering how committed I am to him, he didnt seem at all committed to anything but a little romp in the bed. So, I know this sound stalker-ish, but I check his email and he had paid and subscribed to this site so he could get emails form the girls... he's been talking to two of them. Not for too long it seems, but he has actually sent them messages when I, his girlfriend, barely get phone calls! The emails werepretty short, but they were, send me your pic, lets meet somewhere soon, "i'd like to show you what I can do" type of things. What my question is: I need some advise, is he cheating or is it all talk?! How did you know about his online posting to dating sites? Did he tell you or did you find out for yourself? If it's the latter then he is indeed cheating on you. But either way it is still very inaproppriate for a man in a committed relationship with a woman to be engaged in that kind of disrespectful behavior for I doubt very much that he would be please if the roles were reverse, wouldn't he?
Author StressedGirl24 Posted January 23, 2004 Author Posted January 23, 2004 I know about the online dating stuff because he told me... we both posted ourselves for fun, but I never check that stuff and apparently he does and he updates himself... maybe I should just come right out and tell him "How would you feel if I was messing with guys like that!?" Thanks for the advise so far, but more is welcome because I'm sure it'll be awhile for me to gather my thoughts on what to say to him
jester Posted January 23, 2004 Posted January 23, 2004 Totally inappropriate behavior on his part. Confront him about the status of your relationship. He is definitely disrespecting you, at the very least. I'd move on, if I were you. Good advice, here.
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