Mixin6 Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 Guy at work is dating my ex. Her and I had a brief relationship years ago. It's done. She's not the one for me. I moved on but she kept tabs on me up until she met the new guy. Anyway, he and I work together and I've noticed within the last two weeks, he's been uncomfortable around me and I see that he can't look me in the eye. Just the other day we were walking towards each other. I tried to make eye contact to acknowledge him but he looked away and just ducked into a computer terminal and started working right away. I don't know what, if anything, she's told him about us. Yes we did sleep together a few times but not long after that, it ended. Should I say something to him to let him know that her and I are done? I doubt he'll approach me. As nice as he is, he's also very timid and not the type to confront someone. Like I said, we work together and if this keeps up, you'll be able to cut the tension with a knife. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 Corner him one day. "Hey, I hear you're dating <*Insert her name here*>! That's great news, good on you man! Enjoy! I wish you both well! Things looking good?" Then just let him open up..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mixin6 Posted May 12, 2010 Author Share Posted May 12, 2010 Yeah I could do that BUT knowing my ex, she'll see it as either I'm trying to rile something up or that I want her back or something else. I know I have nothing to lose if I keep my mouth shut. However, I know the new guy is going to get really uncomfortable especially if she starts working there again. It's their relationship now and I'm not looking to be a third party. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted May 12, 2010 Share Posted May 12, 2010 (edited) Should I say something to him to let him know that her and I are done? Yes, you could (not "should") say something to him. No, do not mention your ex. I'd suggest something more along the lines of, "I've noticed you've been avoiding me lately...have I done something and how can I fix it? I don't want us to have an uncomfortable working relationship." If his 'avoidance' behaviour persists, then you can ask if he's uncomfortable that you have a past with his current girlfriend, and if he'd like to speak with you about it. Ask questions, don't make guesses and assumptions about what may be troubling him, what he may or may not have been told, or what she may or may not think about any of your future actions or conversations with your coworker. Edited May 12, 2010 by Ronni_W Link to post Share on other sites
milkmaterial Posted May 13, 2010 Share Posted May 13, 2010 i hope he doesnt duck into a bunch of live wires next time. just leave him alone..hes obviously avoiding u. u probably feel guilty - dont. Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Is he single or married? Link to post Share on other sites
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