You Go Girl Posted May 26, 2010 Share Posted May 26, 2010 So from a different perspective: A relationship that is worthwhile should not be complicated. Trippi--I don't think we'll ever find an uncomplicated relationship. Just understanding the decisions we made in our heads in the first five minutes of meeting someone--the criteria checklist, the chemistry, the what we seek that is familiar, what we are drawn to that is unfamiliar; it's oh so complicated. But UNNECESSARY complications, must agree there, those I have no need for, drama, addiction, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Ok...I would have to agree there, it does somewhat have to do with your "list", but even that can be as complicated or uncomplicated as you want it to be. I have a friend who has a 3 page list of requirements and hasn't been on a date in 3 years....wonder why? LOL!! Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 I dont buy the time limit rules either, but i believe it was 1.5 to 2 months for every year. I think its more like dad of 2 said, you feel it in your heart when its ready to try. Depends on you, your emotional state and who your looking to date. I've been without my wife for over a year now, have met some women that I honestly don't know what I would do if they and my ex both came knocking I saw so much in them. I have been on dates with others where it felt wrong, like I was cheating. Its a big gray area that has no rules. I would say that if you have to coma and ask the LS brain trust if your ready, then your probably not, but if you cross paths with someone that does make your heart pitter patter, dont be afraid to dip your toe in the water as long as you can be honest with them, and yourself about your state. If they cant accept that, then it was the wrong one anyway. TOJAZ Good advice....also, make sure you get to know them first...just clarifying, the dip the toe in the water probably wouldn't want to be a first date type of thing. I think the hardest part about it all is that you don't want to meet someone at a bar/club scene and I have a huge boundary about dating people I work with. It really doesn't leave much room for finding someone to date. Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Ok...I would have to agree there, it does somewhat have to do with your "list", but even that can be as complicated or uncomplicated as you want it to be. I have a friend who has a 3 page list of requirements and hasn't been on a date in 3 years....wonder why? LOL!! I've simplified mine to a grounded in reality person without addictions, or severe hang-ups. Short list, lol But I think as requirement lists go, it's a winner! Makes me think I have a chance at success. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 I've simplified mine to a grounded in reality person without addictions, or severe hang-ups. Short list, lol But I think as requirement lists go, it's a winner! Makes me think I have a chance at success. LOL!! OK....new thread....Guys can have their own, girls theirs....since we have so many threads on there for getting laid...:laugh::laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 LOL!! OK....new thread....Guys can have their own, girls theirs....since we have so many threads on there for getting laid...:laugh::laugh: Yeah, we should. As for my simple short list...examine it and you will see that it rules out about 80% of the population. lol It may appear short, but it's just very concise. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Yeah, we should. As for my simple short list...examine it and you will see that it rules out about 80% of the population. lol It may appear short, but it's just very concise. You've got that right! At 53? I believe in "Threesomes" Me! Her and a MD! Now days? Sex is something that needs to be discussed before it happens. Otherwise? Its a "fool's game" Condomes be damned! That aside, your right, about 80% are nothing more than a waste of time. Even more so for women than men. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 You've got that right! At 53? I believe in "Threesomes" Me! Her and a MD! Now days? Sex is something that needs to be discussed before it happens. Otherwise? Its a "fool's game" Condomes be damned! That aside, your right, about 80% are nothing more than a waste of time. Even more so for women than men. LOL!!! Gunny, you're a trip!!! :bunny::bunny: Scary thing, everyday that percentage goes up....eeps. Link to post Share on other sites
Shakz Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Great thread so far, LMAO! I have to take exception to a couple of things some people said, though. Just because a guy's over forty and never been married is not a red flag that he's gay. I'm 48, always been single, and I'm a body-builder, so I get that alot! Also, I don't see why I shouldn't go for a woman in her 20's. Not that I'm not attracted to women my age, but they usually seem to be carrying around alot of personal baggage that just gets in the way of anything meaningful. Link to post Share on other sites
floridapad Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Great thread so far, LMAO! Not that I'm not attracted to women my age, but they usually seem to be carrying around alot of personal baggage that just gets in the way of anything meaningful. Uh oh Shakz. I think you may catch some Shikz. Actually I find older women more attractive. I am 43 and dated a 27 yr old. It was fun for a bit but it was not something all that meaningful and it became boring after a while (intellectually speaking). Women (or men) who have been around the block and properly dealt with their "baggage" in a positive healthy way, I find to be extraordinarily attractive (the women I mean). They tend to be nononsense and can spot a BSer a mile away. They get life and if they have left the past in the past they appreciate the present that much more. Young ones are a bit spoiled. Thats my take on it, but WTF do I know. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Uh oh Shakz. I think you may catch some Shikz. Actually I find older women more attractive. I am 43 and dated a 27 yr old. It was fun for a bit but it was not something all that meaningful and it became boring after a while (intellectually speaking). Women (or men) who have been around the block and properly dealt with their "baggage" in a positive healthy way, I find to be extraordinarily attractive (the women I mean). They tend to be nononsense and can spot a BSer a mile away. They get life and if they have left the past in the past they appreciate the present that much more. Young ones are a bit spoiled. Thats my take on it, but WTF do I know. Well, from a woman's perspective on that, when I was in my 20's (between husbands), I dated an older man. There were good things and bad things about it....he seemed to have a better "handle" on things that my young mind hadn't grasped yet, was fun to be around and knew how to treat a lady. We just couldn't agree on raising kids, big age gap there, so we both called it quits. Who's to say, if the stats are right, 80% of us are screwed up anyways...lol. :o:o Link to post Share on other sites
mikeymad Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Trippi....don't you know that oh, about 69.3826% of statistics are made up on the spot? Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Who's to say, if the stats are right, 80% of us are screwed up anyways...lol. :o:o 100% of us are screwed up, 80% met the definition and 20% were so screwed up they got to write it! Besides, when have you ever had any fun being normal??? TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Trippi....don't you know that oh, about 69.3826% of statistics are made up on the spot? Oh, don't even get me started on statistics....they can be made to say anything we want them to really....lol. 100% of us are screwed up, 80% met the definition and 20% were so screwed up they got to write it! Besides, when have you ever had any fun being normal??? TOJAZ I like being in the 20%...actually the top 5% of screwed up, that way I can't be held accountable. Wait, I like this....new wall post.....Who has ever had any fun being normal.....may I borrow? Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 Oh, don't even get me started on statistics....they can be made to say anything we want them to really....lol. I like being in the 20%...actually the top 5% of screwed up, that way I can't be held accountable. Wait, I like this....new wall post.....Who has ever had any fun being normal.....may I borrow? Borrow, rob, steal to your hearts content. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Right now I need to steal a man to come put in electrical outlets for me...grrr. They look real pretty on the wall, would be much better if juice were actually running through them....ick. Link to post Share on other sites
PWSX3 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Right now I need to steal a man to come put in electrical outlets for me...grrr. They look real pretty on the wall, would be much better if juice were actually running through them....ick. Did you check the breaker? Good place to start.... Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Did you check the breaker? Good place to start.... Yep, checked the breakers....all outlets are working except those two...thinking I didn't strip the wires down good enough....will have to work on it later when it gets daylight...don't want a new perm...LOL. Oh, and a couple of the bathroom lights aren't working any more either....no telling... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 They look real pretty on the wall, would be much better if juice were actually running through them... That what she said at the picnic I was on the market as a 39-42 year old and never had any trouble dating or having to settle.. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 That what she said at the picnic I was on the market as a 39-42 year old and never had any trouble dating or having to settle.. :lmao::lmao: This is deserving of a LMAO post....too funny. Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 That what she said at the picnic I was on the market as a 39-42 year old and never had any trouble dating or having to settle.. Maybe it's only my first cup of coffee, or maybe I'm just daft-- I don't get the picnic line, somebody explain it in child's terms to me. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Hell if you think it easy dating as a man when your 45 wait until your 75 and at the nursing home? Link to post Share on other sites
nowomanocry Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Great thread so far, LMAO! I have to take exception to a couple of things some people said, though. Just because a guy's over forty and never been married is not a red flag that he's gay. I'm 48, always been single, and I'm a body-builder, so I get that alot! Also, I don't see why I shouldn't go for a woman in her 20's. Not that I'm not attracted to women my age, but they usually seem to be carrying around alot of personal baggage that just gets in the way of anything meaningful. So true - I 2nd that lol I will be 45 on Sept. Not married and single after all those years and very happy about my current situation when I look back at my relationships in the past lol. Consider myself lucky to have gotten out of it with so little damage...I'm well straight, and don't care if they label me as gay or not When compared to the past, I do not exercise that much, have a slight beer belly, but still fit, friends say I look like in early 30's (as a result I have no chance on Internet dating as women do not believe it is my latest photo lol), go out only once a week if there no footie on the TV, have seen the meaning of life thus not bothered about anyone else's happiness but mine, don't buy women drinks no more (last I was drinking at a pub and a woman started a conversation and I was having vodka-orange and I ordered her a plain orange juice lol. She bored me to hell so I paid the bill and left). I do not bother msning, facebook or anything, go with the flow. If too in a need of a good treat call a couple of girls I know. They make me happy and disappear whenever I want. They never bother starting talking crap because they all know that they don't have a chance. Still work 14 hours a day (since 20 years). Have hobbies and friends, go fishing, hunting, horse-riding. Play my piano and do duets with a friend who plays the guitar. Summer here so beach time now. Going to drive to my summerhouse in a while. Maybe do a trip to Far-east or an exotic island late Sept. as won a ticket for 2 from an airliner. Just need to choose one that would really make the trip nice. At short, I'm 44 but very happy. Stress free, high-life. Highly recommended. They key to a long and healthy life. I apologise for posting such a happy reply here. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Hell if you think it easy dating as a man when your 45 wait until your 75 and at the nursing home? LOL!! Heck Gunny, by that time, men's brains have gone way back to infantile mode...they are just looking to chase women again...oh, when did that ever change...LOL!! Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 speaking of the nursing home. . . this is the kind of old lady I plan to be Link to post Share on other sites
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