Author DENTALASSISTANT Posted February 18, 2004 Author Share Posted February 18, 2004 I didn't tell you all this, listen to how twisted this is....he is looking to buy a new car and my husband is a gm for a dealership so he goes and sees him and takes him to dinner and everything then in the same breath he will say to me...maybe in a few years you won't be together....what? so not only is he hitting on me in a sense he is having dinner with my husband.....what is that? Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Bottom line: this guy does not make you feel good about yourself. He is a user. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DENTALASSISTANT Posted February 18, 2004 Author Share Posted February 18, 2004 I really don't get the dinner thing with my husband and then flirting with me prefusely...no sense at all. Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 So you think he has no intention of becoming sexually involved with me, he just toying with the idea. I think he's playing with you. He's a man, and many men are weak. But your description of his behaviour does not fit the classic boss-seduction model. He seems more interested in playing with your mind and emotions than with your body. It doesn't sound healthy. I suspect you're giving zero attention to your marriage, and that all your energy, thoughts and passion are directed towards these mind games being played out at work. If your marriage is as bad as you make it sound, get a divorce, find a single guy and f**k his brains out. It's much easier, and alot more pleasant than what's going on, now. Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Bottom line: this guy does not make you feel good about yourself. He is a user. Good point, meanon. I suspect it's more about power than orgasm for the good doctor. He probably enjoys humiliating the poor husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DENTALASSISTANT Posted February 18, 2004 Author Share Posted February 18, 2004 True, makes sense. So why does he always try to be alone with me and when will he draw the line and not make it physical because I do think a part of him wants to but he has way to much on the line not knowing how I might react. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DENTALASSISTANT Posted February 18, 2004 Author Share Posted February 18, 2004 My husband thought maybe he had done that to get a idea of how strong are marriage is because come to find out he doesn't want to buy a car at all!! Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 I wonder if he has ever been accused of sexual harassment? If so, that explains the hot/cold thing. He's staying just on that side of the line that should not be crossed. He's being litigation prudent. Title VII is such a mood killer. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DENTALASSISTANT Posted February 18, 2004 Author Share Posted February 18, 2004 lol....see how confusing it all is... Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 There is absolutely no confusion here. You may have an armful of degrees and have achieved the ripe old age of thirty, but you are behaving like a schoolgirl. Grow up. Take responsibility for your life. You want to bounce from boy to boy, sucking up attention. Your constant requests for information/validation are part of the attention-seeking. Divorce your husband, leave your job, and act like an adult woman. Take care of whatever unresolved issues you have and then get into a relationship with a man who is unattached. This is turning into one of the longest threads ever. I predict that you will continue to ask your questions and beg for information to aid in your 'confusion' for another two hundred posts - I'm astonished that people are still falling for this. You have been told dozens of times exactly what's going on. Now go do something about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Skittles Posted February 18, 2004 Share Posted February 18, 2004 Originally posted by DENTALASSISTANT True, makes sense. So why does he always try to be alone with me and when will he draw the line and not make it physical because I do think a part of him wants to but he has way to much on the line not knowing how I might react. In my opinion, I think he wants you to make the first move sexually. That way he gets to either accept or reject your advances. If he does accept, then of course, the affair will be all your fault....He is in the power seat no matter how the scenario plays. I am not name-calling or judging, never have as a poster... But I think your boss is a jerk, and what are you thinking...you seem to have so much going for you. Link to post Share on other sites
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