KunFuZed Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Last mothers day I made the mistake of sleeping with my co-worker for the second time. The first time I we did I was not in a relationship and the 2nd time I cheated on my bf. He knew I have a boyfriend but before we engaged in our 2nd fling I was sure to ask him if he had a girlfriend which he told me no. It may seem a bit selfish but I am not comfortable sleeping with another womans man. I gave him the choice if he wants to sleep with another man's woman. A few days after our encounter I over heard him talking to some one about his girlfriend. He felt the need to come and explain to me that this girl he speaks of is his ex. which is the same story he told me before we has sex. I really didnt care that he did have a gf, I was more upset that he lied to me n didnt let me decislde if I wanted to sleep with someone bf. He accused me of being to attached because i got upset which I'm not. Was I wrong for getting upset about being lied to? Does that make me seem attached? Link to post Share on other sites
hats Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 No, he's wrong for lying to you. But to be fair he probably assumed you don't have much of a problem with lying and betrayal considering you cheated on your bf with him. If you don't care about betraying your own bf why would you care about indirectly betraying some stranger? The logical conclusion is that you're really actually upset because you were hoping he didn't have a gf. So yes it makes you seem attached. Link to post Share on other sites
blair08 Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 The bigger issues here isn't about if you need to be upset at him for lying. Its more about WHY you feel the need to cheat on your b/f. That's the main issue. It doesn't matter if he lied, or you should be upset, anyway. You're basically living a lie anyway, by running around on your b/f. If he doesn't do anything for you, drop him, then you're free to do whatever. Link to post Share on other sites
BubbleFreak Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 No, he's wrong for lying to you. But to be fair he probably assumed you don't have much of a problem with lying and betrayal considering you cheated on your bf with him. If you don't care about betraying your own bf why would you care about indirectly betraying some stranger? The logical conclusion is that you're really actually upset because you were hoping he didn't have a gf. So yes it makes you seem attached. hats, another one of your posts I have to agree with. No, I'm not stalking you:P Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 I'm going to agree with the fact there is a bigger picture here that needs to be looked at,instead of worrying about him lying or if you have the right to be upset. As far as your signature goes, are you meaning you're hoping there are guys who aren't the same as in just wanting one thing? If thats the case, you're helping some out there continue on, by cheating with them. I hope you find what you're looking for in a relationship. But you wont find it by doing what you're doing. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 How would you feel if your boyfriend was cheating on you and putting your health at risk for STD's? You clearly have no problem cheating on your boyfriend. What is wrong with this picture? Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Was I wrong for getting upset about being lied to?You're not the victim here. Your boyfriend is. You cheated on him and are presumably lying by omission since I doubt you told him about it. You're betraying your bf and could be exposing him to STD's. Your bf is dating a cheater - he's the victim here. THAT's what you should be upset about - why are you a cheater and liar and why aren't you upset about THAT? Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Tell your b/f what you told us here, then ask HIM if you have the right to be upset. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted May 16, 2010 Share Posted May 16, 2010 They cheat with you they will cheat on you What did you expect? Your lying to your BF and he's going to be honest to you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author KunFuZed Posted May 16, 2010 Author Share Posted May 16, 2010 Wow! I was expecting to get replies about MY dilemma not my bf. Its time to be honest. From the 1st time I saw my co-worker, it was like love at first sight, we had sex then he told me he wasn't interested in me the same way I was in him. I thought I moved on once I found my bf. Me n my co-worker had became good friends. He'd give hints here n there that he wanted to hook up again but Ive been denying him and I eventually fell week n gave in, coming out with no regets untill now hearing this girlfriend bs. Although its not a good excuse I'm not happy in my relationship and if I had known he had a girlfriend I would not have cheated on my bf to be sitting here with this gulit on my chest. Im not mad that he had/has a gf, I'm mad he didnt give me a choice instead he choose for me. Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted May 16, 2010 Share Posted May 16, 2010 Im not mad that he had/has a gf, I'm mad he didnt give me a choice instead he choose for me. He chose for you, just like you didn't give your bf a choice and chose for him. If you could do that to your bf, why are you so surprised and mad when it's done to you? Your first clue should have been that he knew you had a bf and was ok having sex with you anyway. A guy isn't going to be honest with you if he doesn't respect you, and how could he respect you when he knew you were cheating in order to have sex with him? And how could you expect honesty from a guy who was willing to have sex with you when he knows you have a bf? He knows you were lying to and cheating on your bf, so it makes it easier for him to lie to you. He lied just so he could get you in the sack. He's no prize. Link to post Share on other sites
PandorasBox Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 You were a booty call for him, nothing more nothing less. He will lead you to believe whatever you want as long as he gets what he wants. He already told you he wasn't interested in you the way you were in him. SO, it shouldn't be a surprise if he lies to you etc. Link to post Share on other sites
reservoirdog1 Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 Although its not a good excuse I'm not happy in my relationship Then for god's sake, just let your BF go. You're not happy in your relationship with him and you clearly don't care much about him. Why are you keeping him around? Let him go so he can find somebody who cares about him. Link to post Share on other sites
hats Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 Wow! I was expecting to get replies about MY dilemma not my bf. Its time to be honest. From the 1st time I saw my co-worker, it was like love at first sight, we had sex then he told me he wasn't interested in me the same way I was in him. I thought I moved on once I found my bf. Me n my co-worker had became good friends. He'd give hints here n there that he wanted to hook up again but Ive been denying him and I eventually fell week n gave in, coming out with no regets untill now hearing this girlfriend bs. Although its not a good excuse I'm not happy in my relationship and if I had known he had a girlfriend I would not have cheated on my bf to be sitting here with this gulit on my chest. Im not mad that he had/has a gf, I'm mad he didnt give me a choice instead he choose for me. Give you a choice for what? It sounds like you cheated with this guy because you hoped there was a potential for more, and felt betrayed because that wasn't the case. So yes it sounds like he's right that you are attached. You don't want to admit this to yourself so you came up with some nonsensical justification to be upset him with the moral upperhand. Which is hilarious because after cheating on your bf you have no right to be morally indignant towards anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KunFuZed Posted May 18, 2010 Author Share Posted May 18, 2010 Give you a choice for what? It sounds like you cheated with this guy because you hoped there was a potential for more, and felt betrayed because that wasn't the case. So yes it sounds like he's right that you are attached. You don't want to admit this to yourself so you came up with some nonsensical justification to be upset him with the moral upperhand. Which is hilarious because after cheating on your bf you have no right to be morally indignant towards anyone. It hurts to say this but I think you might have hit the nail on the head. When it put in that perspective it makes sense. Link to post Share on other sites
Mimolicious Posted May 18, 2010 Share Posted May 18, 2010 Wow! I was expecting to get replies about MY dilemma not my bf. Its time to be honest. From the 1st time I saw my co-worker, it was like love at first sight, we had sex then he told me he wasn't interested in me the same way I was in him. I thought I moved on once I found my bf. Me n my co-worker had became good friends. He'd give hints here n there that he wanted to hook up again but Ive been denying him and I eventually fell week n gave in, coming out with no regets untill now hearing this girlfriend bs. Although its not a good excuse I'm not happy in my relationship and if I had known he had a girlfriend I would not have cheated on my bf to be sitting here with this gulit on my chest. Im not mad that he had/has a gf, I'm mad he didnt give me a choice instead he choose for me. Honestly, you need to take responsibility for what you have done. This sounds like straight up BS and I dont think that you actually understand what you are doing. The only choice that you needed to make was to NOT CHEAT on your BF. That's about it! So talking about "choices" sounds cheap right about now... If you are not happy in your relationship then end it. When did you realize that you are not happy in your relationship? Before or after you found out ROMEO overthere has a GF? Yes, you are sounding attached. A the end of the day you have a BF and it kind of takes away your credibility or rights to demand anything from this other guy. People are going to treat you how you treat yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted May 19, 2010 Share Posted May 19, 2010 Are you really serious about this post. You are pi**ed off cuz you are being played---when you don't even have ties to your worker, all the while you are the cheater----GROW UP LITTLE GIRL Link to post Share on other sites
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