do i love my bestfriend

[roselin.george]

IM 20 years of age and ive been with my boyfriend of the same age for about a year now.But the problem is a while back i kissed my best friend because he told me he loved me,i was so shocked by this i was like i love you too,later on that night i looked at him and we just totally started kissing.Then that was it ,i told my boyfriend and he totally flipped out and told me i could no longer be around my best friend.About a month later my best friend called me asked me for coffee,so of course i went,my boyfriend found us dummped me and went away for the week.The next night me and a couple of friends went out to the bars i got really drunk and all that i could think about was my best friend,i called him, he picked me up at like 2:00 in the morning,and its like a 20 minute drive for him,so he totally went out of his way,he also took my friends home.I went home with my best friend and slept in the same bed as him all we did was kiss and cuddle but the way he makes me feel and the way he treats me i feel so perfect around him knowone has ever made me feel this way.My boyfriend and i are back together but tonight my bestfriend and i made plans for me to spend the night at his house but in different beds.I dont know if love is what i feel for him or if its just nothing someone please help me figure it out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Joshua]

I am having the same problem with my best friend. We have been friends for a year and a half and she is honestly the best person i have ever met in my life. I am not sure if or when I fell in love with her but she had made it clear that she did not want me like that. So we just remained friends. So i finally meet someone and fall in love again and now my best friend wants to be with me. I really want to be with her but I am in a relationship, and I am pretty happy. What do you think? E mail me for replies.

[Tams]

Best Friends do make the best relationships. You have to decide who you love more when chosing between them and your current relationship. Sometimes though it may not be all what you expected to be and then you want the "friend" relationsip back. And that is what is difficult, from going from sharing everything.....wether is be sex or not....to just being friends again. You have to make sure that you positively want it to work. Your boyfriend/girlfriend can not restrict you from seeing your friend just because of a kiss. That makes them insecure, and that causes jealous or posessive behaviour. If you are wanting to have a serious relationship that could eventually lead to marriage, then choosing the best friend that you love may be the best choice of all. You have to be sure the love you feel for them, is in fact love...when all you can think about day and night is being with them. When your best friend is of the opposite sex, you often get confused. Make sure you are 100% positive or you could wreck the friendship. I have seen it happen and all it does is give you a lifelong time of pain....all you do is constantly wish to take back what you did. So be careful. You can't always go back without ALOT of hard work. Keep an open mind, and take a chance....you don't want to look back on this in 4 years and wish that you had gone for it. Just remember you won't be around forever and you don't want to regret your choices in life. If you really love the friend then go for them!