the other guy

[piroangel2110]

So here's my problem: When I first started my former job I started falling for a co-worker, Mark. We never dated or messed around sexually, but we were constant flirts and became very close friends. It was obvious that there was definitely some chemistry. However, the more I was around him and hung out with him his best friend Weston became a part of the picture.

 

So Weston and I began talking. Initially the only reason I began talking to him was to see if there was any sort of reaction from Mark. (shallow I know) But the more I talked to Weston the more and more I fell in love with him. As soon as we began dating, Mark started dating another girl he had been talking too. We were all still very good friends, and Weston and I have been together for a little over a year now, but my feelings for Mark never went away. Now here comes the problem.

 

Weston and I have been having problems in the bedroom all of the sudden, and I have been secretly consulting with Mark about it. At first it was strictly Mark trying to help, like he has in the past, but now he is also having trouble with his girl friend and we are both very sexually frusturated. So now the more and more Mark and I talk to each other the flirting has gotten much worse then before and it is becoming sexual.

 

So what do I do? Do I break it off with Weston who I do love, to persue what I have fantasized about with Mark? Or do I cut off a friendship with Mark and stay in a relationship that I'm not physically satisfied with?

 

PLEASE HELP!

[Bryanp]

How would you feel if Weston was doing to you behind your back what you are doing to him? If you love somebody you do not cheat on them behind their back. Show some respect toward Weston and be honest with him with what you have been doing with Mark. Let him decide how he wishes to proceed. Right now you are playing Weston for a fool. I don't think you have a clue what love is. You judge a person by their actions and not by their words and your actions speak volumes about your disrespect for Weston. Does he really deserve this from you?

[Dexter Morgan]

break up with Weston. You don't talk to another guy about your sex life with someone else. How disrespectful. As if two timing him wasn't bad enough.

 

So break it off with Weston so that way you don't embarrass him any further, whether he knows you are unloading his dirty laundry with Mark or not.

 

then you can get with Mark and get your sexual satisfaction....until it gets old.

[Reality Drip]

Mark is confusing the situation for you just as much as you're throwing a wrench in his. You need to cool it off and stop fanning these flames.

 

Take a deep breath.

 

Go back to your guy and explore some new options. Anything that may help spice things up in the sex department. Of course Mark suddenly is having problems conveniently around the time you are. He's a guy and will use whatever play he can to expand his options. Play smarter.

 

Get experimental with your man.

 

-Max

[LSNoob]

How come its all of a sudden the sex became bad? So that means it was good before, am I right? So, what you need is to talk to your man about it, not to the office god damn it.

You got with Weston just to make Mark jealous - very shallow.

You cheating on your man because of sexual problems - very very shallow.

You are indeed a shallow person, feel sorry for Weston he deserves so much better than you.

And like others said, Mark is smart fella he just playing you for a **** or two then dumps you and goes back to his woman, then you will be labeled the "slut" of the work place. That's if they not calling you a "slut", "whore" or something already =/

what happened to the decent women?? btw good luck...what ever

[2sure]

Whats done is done, but for future reference:

 

NEVER EVER discuss a man's problems in the bedroom with one of his friends. It is emasculating.

[linwood]

Actually if you just tell your boyfriend you`ve been consulting with his friend about his sexual inadequacies I`m sure your boyfriend will solve your problem for you.

 

Geez!