sveltskye Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 I am interested in someone who's significantly older than me, I'm not sure exactly how much but late thirties/early forties I'm guessing. I'm twenty five. It doesn't bother me but I am not sure if I'm ever gonna have the nerve to bring it up cause I don't know if it would bother him. Also, we are in a band together and I wouldn't want to screw that up and make the whole dynamic awkward. I don't know what to really think about it, but I really enjoy his company and he has said some really sweet things to me. I just don't know if I should ever bring it up or not. Anybody been in this kind of situation? Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 So he is fifteen/seventeen years older you think? In my experience thats quite a difference. I have been the older man. It seems that after a certain level of age difference there is a gap in such things as future expectations, what is a 'good time' etc. I won't say it never works but there are some significant problems. He may just be being sweet to you. If you say that you are interested in more he may be flattered and it may progress, and it may be a great experience. I have found that girls in their twenties are a little way away from my viewpoint on many things. Drugs, privacy, public behaviour to name a few. I guess its more important that you are on the same wavelength than in the same decade though. So I don't know what you should do. I am a 'give it a go' kind of person, so.......... Its up to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sveltskye Posted May 17, 2010 Author Share Posted May 17, 2010 He very well may, and likely is, just being nice. I dunno. But I feel like I'm over the college aged bull****. I don't do drugs and I'm not into just messing around, honestly I'd rather just be single and don't really date people I don't see potential with. But I don't know if he would think I was too young or something. I'm afraid to ask. Link to post Share on other sites
witabix Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 Ah well sveltskye, fear.... Never be afraid to tell someone something as nice as 'I like you'. That should never be a thing of fear. It'll make you nervous, thats ok. If you like him and want to tell him, do so. Thats something I have learned, be true to your heart whatever it tells you. Good luck, keep us posted.... Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 This topic came up between my friend and I last night. He is dating someone 25 and he is 36. He likes this girl, and I find her delightfully mature for her age. His only complaint is that they can't relate regarding a lot of things. He says he makes a lot of references that someone our age gets and he gets a lot of blank stares and awkward silences instead. I don't doubt that this guy would love to date a younger woman- just keep flirting with him:cool: Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 I am interested in someone who's significantly older than me, I'm not sure exactly how much but late thirties/early forties I'm guessing. I'm twenty five. It doesn't bother me but I am not sure if I'm ever gonna have the nerve to bring it up cause I don't know if it would bother him. Also, we are in a band together and I wouldn't want to screw that up and make the whole dynamic awkward. I don't know what to really think about it, but I really enjoy his company and he has said some really sweet things to me. I just don't know if I should ever bring it up or not. Anybody been in this kind of situation? If age doesn't bother you don't bring it up or think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sveltskye Posted May 17, 2010 Author Share Posted May 17, 2010 (edited) That's stupid. I explicitely said that it doesn't bother me, and yet you tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about. Obviously I'm going to think about something that's kind of the elephant in the room of the situation. I bring it up because I'm afraid that it might bother *him*. And I'm afraid it would make things super awkward if it did cause I see him twice a week. More of a "don't **** where you eat" thing than a "he's too old for me" kind of thing. I actually find the maturity kind of refreshing. I've dated some dumb guys- and they were near their thirties! Edited May 17, 2010 by sveltskye Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 That's stupid. I explicitely said that it doesn't bother me, and yet you tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about. Obviously I'm going to think about something that's kind of staring me in the face. I bring it up because I'm afraid that it might bother *him*. And I'm afraid it would make things super awkward if it did cause I see him twice a week. More of a "don't **** where you eat" thing than a "he's too old for me" kind of thing. I actually find the maturity kind of refreshing. I've dated some dumb guys- and they were near their thirties! Are you talking to me? I'm stupid? I said you don't know what you're talking about? WTF are you talking about? I just told you to to not bring it up since you said you didn't know whether to bring it up or not. Forget it, whatever.......... Link to post Share on other sites
Author sveltskye Posted May 17, 2010 Author Share Posted May 17, 2010 (edited) sorry, Stilla Fool. I completely misunderstood you, I thought you meant the fact that I brought it up in my post negated what I was saying. But nevermind. I see what you were saying now. Edited May 17, 2010 by sveltskye Link to post Share on other sites
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