lattimershotgun Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 well many of you are keen on my story.. well after me and my ex took some space and aurgued like a million times, we recently got along and started to talk again. after like 2 weeks of tlaking freindly with each other i asked her about if she sitll planned on trying again after her personal problems are over with. (the original plan) she said that during our break we had grown aprat more becaue we argued so much during the break and had so much drama.. so she didnt know how she felt about me anymore. She said she coudlnt have feeling for anyone rihg tnow at this time in her life, becaue of her mdeical problems. She gave me the line, "we will jstu be pateint and see what happens in the future".. but we all know waht that line really means. I mean she was able to go out wiht her freinds liek 3 nights ago and stay out all night dirnking and such, so how bad is htis medical problem? ahha umm if i was jsut her ferind coudlnt we see each other and hangout once or twice? so anways liek a week after we had this talk and agreed to be freinds i told ehr i coulndt be freinds because it wasnt fair for her or me. I said it hurt me and i know i woudl be jealous and unpleasent to be around. Cause i know i coudlnt bare to see her with another guy i mean she likes me as a freind and i still have so many feeligns for her. I know she said she dint want to be with any guys at all but i still think there is a good chacne that it woudl happen and i dint totaly believe her, i htink she was jsut letting me down easy. I told her that i needed no contact from her at all and mabey later on when i get my own probelms together (depression anxiety complusive thougths) that maybe we can be freinds then but right now i needed to dissapear.. seh said she ddidnt know if she coudl be my freind 3 months from now if i leave for a while. she was really pissed but i todl her I coudtln hold on to her nd get better, this was the best thign for me. I todl ehr i loved her and that i had to go, we wished each toehr goodluck and said goodbye. I todl ehr that if she ever needed anyting i woudl be there. does that sound fair or does it sound like a dickish thing to do? i feel horrible but at teh same time, i feel bad and i cant go back on my word, i went back on my word the whoel relatoinship and that is waht caused so many arguements i was so unsure of any of my actions adn insecure acting. i took a stand and did this beauc ei hae to get my anxiety and **** together before i can be her freind or her BF or wahtever. I do love her but i jsut cant do it. does this seem resonable? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lattimershotgun Posted January 26, 2004 Author Share Posted January 26, 2004 so? Link to post Share on other sites
calithin83 Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 Yes it does seem reasonable, i think you did the right thing. She cant expect u to be her friend when u have much more feelings for her. I think its best and the space of not talking will help both of u. Either it can get u guys back together or it can help u both see ure better off without eachother, and dont worry i know its tough right now for u but remain strong and keep ure word, dont call her....just keep busy and dont feel guilty! Link to post Share on other sites
calithin83 Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 YES DONT GO BACK ON YOUR WORD,t hats the worse u can do, soemtimes when u love someone u forget about ure pride, but u gotta keep some pride, if she really cares she should come and try to talk to u, if she doesnt then..O'well..BE STRONG! and goodluck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author lattimershotgun Posted January 26, 2004 Author Share Posted January 26, 2004 wow not to change the subject but ...calithin83 you are looking fine. thanks for the advice, i dont plan on going back on my word hell on it. I am doing better right now anyways, the anxiety is going back down and i am starting to feel normal again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lattimershotgun Posted January 26, 2004 Author Share Posted January 26, 2004 everyone agree? Link to post Share on other sites
Velveteel Posted January 26, 2004 Share Posted January 26, 2004 This is such a healthy decision. You were honest, and faced a difficult talk with her, and even stuck to your guns when she threatened to cut off the possibility of a later friendship. From everything you've said about the two of you, I'd say this is the best possible course of action for you, and that you'll feel much stronger in three or six months (or longer). You'll also look like a better man. Take this time to do something you've always wanted to--travel, learn a new sport, learn a language, get in shape, whatever. Set a big goal and break it into small, everyday steps. This will help take your mind off the heartache. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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