Author habs53 Posted July 18, 2010 Author Share Posted July 18, 2010 Then you and I will be doing some bantering when the best game on earth begins again in the fall. You're welcome. I see you edited your post.. So, yeah, she's a selfish person for not giving him to you on your bday. Don't ever lower yourself to her level, thoughts are OK, but no follow through. Your son will remember this and other things she's done and one day will resent her. You won't have to do anything, he'll learn it on his own by being around her and seeing how selfish she is. Yuck! he already is starting, she trys to bribe him to like her more. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 19, 2010 Author Share Posted July 19, 2010 well not only did i not see my son on my birthday, she just posted happy birthday to my dad on facebook whos birthday is today. this is a weird woman lol Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 Happy belated birthday my fellow Cancer. I'm sorry you didn't get to spend it with your son, hopefully you get to have some extra time with him soon. Your wife isn't weird, she's being petty- trying to get under your skin. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 he already is starting, she trys to bribe him to like her more. lol And he's a smart kid and won't fall for it. It's sad that she's doing this to her own kid. well not only did i not see my son on my birthday, she just posted happy birthday to my dad on facebook whos birthday is today. this is a weird woman lol What a B. She has some balls to say HBD to him and not allow your son to be with you on your bd. W..T..F is that? Anyway, sooner or later your dad should delete her as a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 19, 2010 Author Share Posted July 19, 2010 Happy belated birthday my fellow Cancer. I'm sorry you didn't get to spend it with your son, hopefully you get to have some extra time with him soon. Your wife isn't weird, she's being petty- trying to get under your skin. Isnt it great to have a birthday in the summer!! Anyway petty sounds about right. I cannot understand why someone would still try to get under your skin after they already left. I just dont get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 19, 2010 Author Share Posted July 19, 2010 And he's a smart kid and won't fall for it. It's sad that she's doing this to her own kid. What a B. She has some balls to say HBD to him and not allow your son to be with you on your bd. W..T..F is that? Anyway, sooner or later your dad should delete her as a friend. Yeah i think i am going to get my whole family to delete her. Nerve of her. Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 Happy belated birthday Habs!!!!! I am sorry to read you didn't get to see your boy on your birthday. That definitely shows more of her character doesn't it?? FB, easy solution for that, remove yourself from that scourge. It is a social wasteland (sorry for the rant but FB disgusts me). Her behavior through it is yet another example of what type of person she has become. She is NO LONGER the woman you married, she is nothing more than the biological mother of your beautiful boy. Chin up my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 19, 2010 Author Share Posted July 19, 2010 Happy belated birthday Habs!!!!! I am sorry to read you didn't get to see your boy on your birthday. That definitely shows more of her character doesn't it?? FB, easy solution for that, remove yourself from that scourge. It is a social wasteland (sorry for the rant but FB disgusts me). Her behavior through it is yet another example of what type of person she has become. She is NO LONGER the woman you married, she is nothing more than the biological mother of your beautiful boy. Chin up my friend. Thanks my friend. Yes my chin is up most of the time. I myself have not seen her facebook in over a month. My family keeps telling me when there is stuff on there. Apparenty she had a housewarming party at her new appt. People were posting how happy she looked. lol My son says says im the happy one, not mommy. Guess she is just trying to make herself look good. Funny thing is, everybody commented to me how ugly her friends are. lol Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 19, 2010 Share Posted July 19, 2010 Lol @ the ugly friends. Tell your family not to report back. They are doing exactly what she wants them to. And if you have to post pictures on fb of how happy your life is, um you aret happy. Real happy people are out living life! I deleted my fb account and I don't miss it a bit. And who has a housewarming party for an apartment? Guess I'm a snob lol. She's sounding a bit pathetic, I almost feel sorry for her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 19, 2010 Author Share Posted July 19, 2010 Lol @ the ugly friends. Tell your family not to report back. They are doing exactly what she wants them to. And if you have to post pictures on fb of how happy your life is, um you aret happy. Real happy people are out living life! I deleted my fb account and I don't miss it a bit. And who has a housewarming party for an apartment? Guess I'm a snob lol. She's sounding a bit pathetic, I almost feel sorry for her. Your a classy lady. I like you. Who has a party for an apartment. lmao Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 20, 2010 Author Share Posted July 20, 2010 Going for dinner with a pretty lady for the first time. Leaving in 20 min. Just a tad nervous Yikes lol Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted July 20, 2010 Share Posted July 20, 2010 hope you had a great time!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 21, 2010 Author Share Posted July 21, 2010 Thank you. We went to a nice restaurant, chatted ate and said goodbye. She mentiioned going for coffee at a later time. So i guess she had a good time. Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Happy Belated Birthday Habs....my ex didn't have his son on his birthday either; however, that was his choice not mine. My birthday is next week, and I plan on having my son with me for it. He might spend the whole day conquering army troops, but at least he's with me. Dividing the children up in the divorce is hard....and just as hard on the child. Link to post Share on other sites
hurt and devastated Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 Dividing the children up in the divorce is hard....and just as hard on the child. I heard that! Especially when they start crying when you drop them off and have to leave. That breaks my heart every time. Link to post Share on other sites
What_Next Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 In a word habs (well 2 actually) atta boy!!!! Happy to hear you're back on the horse and out there again. I wish you nothing but the best my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted July 21, 2010 Share Posted July 21, 2010 In a word habs (well 2 actually) atta boy!!!! Happy to hear you're back on the horse and out there again. I wish you nothing but the best my friend. Personally, I think dating should happen when the heart heals. But, to each their own and some have had success with getting back on that saddle sooner than they should. Just watch that you don't let it bring you down. Sometimes dating, meeting new women, and in my case, men, it can actually make you feel lonelier. That is something that can happen when you are not ready, as I've found out. There is nothing wrong with alone time. It can strengthen you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 21, 2010 Author Share Posted July 21, 2010 Personally, I think dating should happen when the heart heals. But, to each their own and some have had success with getting back on that saddle sooner than they should. Just watch that you don't let it bring you down. Sometimes dating, meeting new women, and in my case, men, it can actually make you feel lonelier. That is something that can happen when you are not ready, as I've found out. There is nothing wrong with alone time. It can strengthen you. You are correct, im taking it slow and its more for companionship. I do have a strong attachement to a lady who lives a long ways away. I find that easier at this time. We were friends years ago and she want to meet in Sept or when im ready. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 28, 2010 Share Posted July 28, 2010 Hey hab, how 'bout an update? Hope things are better with you! Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 Hey hab, how 'bout an update? Hope things are better with you! Hi, i have been quiet with my own post. There is nothing to post about me and my ex. We really dont speak except for txt about our son. Its been 2 months since she left. I have come to the realization that i do not trust her and may never again. This internet stuff she was doing really did a number on me. I dont have much left for her and i think she knows it. I have not even tryed to win her back and dont have any intentions of it. I want an honest person not a person that lies and sneaks around. So really when you think about it, who left who? Link to post Share on other sites
HopelessinDTW Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 Hi, i have been quiet with my own post. There is nothing to post about me and my ex. We really dont speak except for txt about our son. Its been 2 months since she left. I have come to the realization that i do not trust her and may never again. This internet stuff she was doing really did a number on me. I dont have much left for her and i think she knows it. I have not even tryed to win her back and dont have any intentions of it. I want an honest person not a person that lies and sneaks around. So really when you think about it, who left who? Well, my personal opinion is that without honesty and truth in a relationship, love, affections, etc.etc. don't mean anything. I told my stbx that when she repeatedly lied about having an affair, even though I had proof in my hand. It's good to see that you are doing better. I am having my up and down days as usual. The whole thing is very overwhelming if I just sit and think through it all. But, then I catch myself and try to concentrate on TODAY, and what I need to do NOW. It's a constant battle... Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 You are correct. Without honesty there is nothing. Im sure she will do this to her next partner as well. In a way somedays i would like to see my family back together, but most days i dont. She is still in that stage where she tries her best to look like the tuff one. My sister visited her work and gave her a hug. She said my wife was shaking and looked like hell. She told her she was not sleeping well. I do not believe she is a very happy person at this moment. Sucks to be her. Link to post Share on other sites
HopelessinDTW Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 You are correct. Without honesty there is nothing. Im sure she will do this to her next partner as well. In a way somedays i would like to see my family back together, but most days i dont. She is still in that stage where she tries her best to look like the tuff one. My sister visited her work and gave her a hug. She said my wife was shaking and looked like hell. She told her she was not sleeping well. I do not believe she is a very happy person at this moment. Sucks to be her. Well...she already has lied to the OM...at least about me, and about herself as well. I'm just finding it hard to picture the future. With the kids living with her and eventually the OM (yes, I'm pretty sure they will eventually marry), and then spending time with me. It's just not what I throught would ever happen to my family (Divorce is very uncommon in my family). All I have to feel good about is a clear conscience. I am not carrying any guilt about the relationship, whereas she's deep into it. I still feel like she completely gave up on us without even trying, so the feeling of being abondand and betrayed runs through me still. Sometimes it just feels as tough I will never be able to shake off these feelings. It's just very tough to get through today, when your mind keeps on going backward! Link to post Share on other sites
Author habs53 Posted July 29, 2010 Author Share Posted July 29, 2010 Well...she already has lied to the OM...at least about me, and about herself as well. I'm just finding it hard to picture the future. With the kids living with her and eventually the OM (yes, I'm pretty sure they will eventually marry), and then spending time with me. It's just not what I throught would ever happen to my family (Divorce is very uncommon in my family). All I have to feel good about is a clear conscience. I am not carrying any guilt about the relationship, whereas she's deep into it. I still feel like she completely gave up on us without even trying, so the feeling of being abondand and betrayed runs through me still. Sometimes it just feels as tough I will never be able to shake off these feelings. It's just very tough to get through today, when your mind keeps on going backward! I would assume allot of your emotion is coming from losiing your kids. If i was you, i would get a lawyer and fight for them. 50/50 at best. Dont let her get away with this BS. Link to post Share on other sites
HopelessinDTW Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 I would assume allot of your emotion is coming from losiing your kids. If i was you, i would get a lawyer and fight for them. 50/50 at best. Dont let her get away with this BS. I am fighting to get at least 50/50, and some of her behavior through the divorce will really help in achieving that. What I miss is not just the kids, but living as one family. It just seems like anything else than that is so unnatural and unhealthy for the kids, and myself. You're probably going to say it was probably unheathy to stay in the marriage anyways. And you would be right...it just I can't get a handle on what the future will be like. I feel like I have no control at all...a very helpless feeling! It feels like I am going to lose everything I have worked for, and start from square one...it's just very overwheliming at the moment!! Sorry just trying to vent my feelings...and they are all over the place.... Link to post Share on other sites
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