JamesM Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 Actually, I think the point is...if you meet an escort as a client, then you should be suspicious of her friendship. While escorts are certainly people with feelings and a need for friendship, many guys assume that because said escort is good at her job, then said escort must like him as more than a client. Such an assumption can lead to heartbreak and hurt feelings. Case in point. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 23, 2010 Share Posted June 23, 2010 I've completley ****ed things up thanks to the advice. She said that she can't believe I went to the police, she dosen't want to talk to me, or see me and her friend will meet me to give me the money at the end of the week. She asked me to stop calling her personal number because this is for "Good friends" I had to tell her how I really feel, yes I do love her so I I left her a voicemail telling her that I love her and I haven't heard back yet. This may be because of her sister still being in hospital though. I am not going to contact her I am going to give her some space. This girl played you, fooled you and now she is making seem like she did nothing wrong. Before you posted, you felt something in your gut, something was off. WE ALL just guided you, so don't blame us here. Trust has been issue with her because of the escort business. If she truly liked you, wanted you in her life, thought of you as a good friend, she would not be telling you to go away. Link to post Share on other sites
Gold Pile Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 Be polite...you don't want an angry person you met in this way (embarassing) making a scene Claiming you called the police isn't polite:mad: You can't really salvage the dignity you've lost, but you can keep this from getting worse. STOP it now. We'll feel pretty bad if next month you post about her calling the cops on you. You've got heart broken potentail stalker written all over you. Get yoursel another sexual outlet, another escort if you want, but keep your heart safe...just have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 People giving you to many excuses for not contacting you IS A EXCUSE. She used you and you need to accept that. You will never get your money from this person. Walk away and chalk it up as a leason learned. Link to post Share on other sites
xpaperxcutx Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 Yeah, if you were in her homeroom in high school, you can no longer be friends. If you've known her family for 1000 years, you can no longer be friends. If she was a bridesmaid at your first wedding, or your third wedding, you can no longer be friends. If you have a sister her age and have known her since they were seven years old, you can no longer be friends. That's really sage advice. Maybe escorts shouldn't be allowed to know anyone. Does that sound more appropriate? Case in point: ESCORT If you really think being friends with an escort is fun, especially if you're the client go ahead and repeat Scottie's mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
Gold Pile Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 Case in point: ESCORT If you really think being friends with an escort is fun, especially if you're the client go ahead and repeat Scottie's mistake. Escorts are people too, some are very good people to be sure. A worldly wise man whos been around some, could befriend such a lady and not loose his head. The OP isn't such a person. Perhaps some day, but not now. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 I don't have feelings for her. Help! I am a total idiot! I lent this girl some money to pay off some debt collectors. Before anyone asks she didn't ask to borrow. I offered to help her out because she was really upset and she has had a tough time of late. She has been suffering from depression as I am. At first she didn't want to take it because she didn't want to put that on our friendship. She took my offer and she seemed really greatfull. She thanked me about six or seven times! She had a big job coming up in which she would have been paid a lot of money so she would have been able to pay me back. However when I text her to see how things went she replied "Not Good, I'll phone you in the morning" I asked to know straight away and she replied "Can't talk I am at hospital because my sister had her baby" I knew her sister was pregnaunt. She said she would phone me the next day. However she didn't. It was the weekend and her family don't know of me because they don't know shes an escort so I left it to monday morning. I called but no answer. A few hours later I text her. She text back straight away "I'll phone you later, I've been with my family, sorry" However today I have heard nothing and I saw her driving in her car so I know she isn't with her family. I called and left a voice mail and still nothing from her. I think I've been had, maybe I should go the police. £500 ! She agreed she would pay me back, I made it clear she had to pay me back and she said she would pay me back after the big job came in but it seems to have been cancelled, possibly because of her sister giving birth and her being the only member of the family who can drive. I am thinking that I don't want to see her anymore but I don't really want that because our friendship seems so real and she said before she would miss me and would miss her too. Maybe I do or don't have feelings for her, its to early for her so I can't tell her how I feel. A party with another girl. I don't like it one bit by the way.QUOTE] Re-read all your posts again and you'll see what I'm talking about. Claiming you called the police isn't polite:mad: You can't really salvage the dignity you've lost, but you can keep this from getting worse. STOP it now. We'll feel pretty bad if next month you post about her calling the cops on you. You've got heart broken potentail stalker written all over you. For someone claiming to not have feelings for this girl, you certainly have pushed yourself INTO her life. Calling, texting, daily, probably more than once or twice a day. She's in your head way too much for someone who is 'just' a friend. It's too much! Even if you did like her, it's STILL too much. Back off.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scottie Posted June 24, 2010 Author Share Posted June 24, 2010 You may think I am mad but I have booked up with another escort who happens to ber her best friend. I then get a text from the escort who lent money too asking "Why are you emailing --- asking to see her this weekend" She says she dosent want to talk to me but then she texts me this! Its nothing to do with her if I see another escort, even it is her friend, all the girls who work at the same place are all friends so no matter who I see they will know them. I guess that this girl was so charming that I couldn't see what was going on, lesson learnt, never get close to an escort even if try to get you close to them like this girl has to me. I thought she wanted a friend. What a fool but I know for one thing I am going to get my money back, if I have to go the police then I will. I know her real name, the area she lives in, her kids and sisters names, her car and index the lot... Link to post Share on other sites
CollectiveVelvet Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 You may think I am mad but I have booked up with another escort who happens to ber her best friend. I then get a text from the escort who lent money too asking "Why are you emailing --- asking to see her this weekend" She says she dosent want to talk to me but then she texts me this! Its nothing to do with her if I see another escort, even it is her friend, all the girls who work at the same place are all friends so no matter who I see they will know them. I guess that this girl was so charming that I couldn't see what was going on, lesson learnt, never get close to an escort even if try to get you close to them like this girl has to me. I thought she wanted a friend. What a fool but I know for one thing I am going to get my money back, if I have to go the police then I will. I know her real name, the area she lives in, her kids and sisters names, her car and index the lot... You are so going to end up with an order of protection banning you from contact with this girl. leave her alone. You're not going to get your money back and you're starting to sound scary-stalker. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scottie Posted June 24, 2010 Author Share Posted June 24, 2010 You are so going to end up with an order of protection banning you from contact with this girl. leave her alone. You're not going to get your money back and you're starting to sound scary-stalker. Oh my god, I am really this bad? What the heck is going on? Link to post Share on other sites
sam light Posted June 24, 2010 Share Posted June 24, 2010 Its nothing to do with her if I see another escort, even it is her friend, She may be concerned that you're seeing her co-worker to pump her for info (hey, a pun there). Could that be your plan? Surely there are other services besides hers that you could use. Chill out, let your head clear for a few months. The police are going to laugh in your face or pity the crap out of you. Let the whole thing go. I don't think you are "that bad" but you likely are inexperianced with these emotions. Your 1st (?) love and heartbreak was'nt what you thought it was and you got played. This is your turning point, walk away or turn stalker. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scottie Posted June 25, 2010 Author Share Posted June 25, 2010 This will be my last post... I wrote this girl a letter of apology. I was in the wrong not her. It takes a man to say sorry. I knew that she was in my town so I was going to go and pass it on to her but she wasn’t there. I called her and she didn’t answer but 5 minutes later she called me back. She told me she has the money but she is waiting for a cheque to clear and when it does she will call me and arrange to give me the money back. I told her that I had written a letter but I was unable to pass it on so I told her down the phone that how sorry I was and how wrong I was, she was very upset and still quite angry, she said she couldn’t believe that I said what I said and she is fuming with me. I asked if we could put this behind us and continue our friendship, she said she wasn’t sure, to wait until she has paid me back and see how she feels. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 26, 2010 Share Posted June 26, 2010 Just get your money and leave her alone. Clients that cause trouble like this are bad for 'business'. Don't try to make friends with strippers, hookers, escorts or any other woman you have to pay to have sex with. You will end up with a world of hurt in the end. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scottie Posted November 21, 2010 Author Share Posted November 21, 2010 (edited) Sorry guys wrong thread edited. Edited November 21, 2010 by Scottie Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 21, 2010 Share Posted November 21, 2010 £500 ! She agreed she would pay me back, I made it clear she had to pay me back and she said she would pay me back after the big job came in but it seems to have been cancelled, possibly because of her sister giving birth and her being the only member of the family who can drive. I am thinking that I don't want to see her anymore but I don't really want that because our friendship seems so real and she said before she would miss me and would miss her too. Maybe I do or don't have feelings for her, its to early for her so I can't tell her how I feel. Show enough common sense to allow her to pay you back with services rendered and then exhibit further common sense in never seeing or communicating with her again beyond that. If you're lucky, the time together will be so unsatisfying that you will be instantly cured of this never-ending crush you have. Link to post Share on other sites
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