What Does He Want

[Lou8245]

Obviously, I'm just looking for opinions on this one.

 

I have a guy friend whom I'm currently living with. We do pretty much everything with each other including family events,holidays, sharing expenses, etc. We are also pretty cuddly with one another but it's never gone any further. He has said that he loves me and needs me in his life and that I help make him feel good about himself. He has also said that I need someone that deserves me but has made reference to not being happy if i brought any guys home. So my question is this, are these signs that he has more than friend feelings and is scared? He has had a history of, what he sees as bad failed relationships.

 

Yes, I know that I could just ask him but I'm just curious of opinions.

[Engadget]

Sounds like it. There's a girl I like and spend a lot of time with, but I won't get involved with because I'd rather not screw up our friendship. He may be worried about ruining what you guys have.

[jadepeony]

Yes. It's so obvious that he likes you as more than a friend. I was in a similar situation, only I got less hints than you did, and that is why it took almost 3 years for me to figure it out. His failed relationships have probably discouraged him from telling you his feelings. Since you're already living with him and it seems like you guys are pretty compatible, it wouldn't be hard to progress into something more.

[Morals]

Sounds like it. There's a girl I like and spend a lot of time with, but I won't get involved with because I'd rather not screw up our friendship. He may be worried about ruining what you guys have.

 

I respect your opinon. But does that mean you will spend the rest of your life knowing you like someone without ever letting them know how you feel? Just seems rather unfair to yourself. Not that I'm one to talk, as I'm in a similar situation.

 

Yes. It's so obvious that he likes you as more than a friend. I was in a similar situation, only I got less hints than you did, and that is why it took almost 3 years for me to figure it out. His failed relationships have probably discouraged him from telling you his feelings. Since you're already living with him and it seems like you guys are pretty compatible, it wouldn't be hard to progress into something more.

 

Once you figured it out though, what happened?

[jadepeony]

 

 

 

Once you figured it out though, what happened?

 

I am now in the deepest committed relationship I've ever been in with someone I truly love, who loves me back just as much. =) I think the relationships that start off from being friends are the strongest. If you can still love and be attracted to someone who you know inside-out, despite their flaws, then you know you've found someone you're going to be with for a long time. Good luck! =)

[Lou8245]

thanks for the responses. it can be confusing. he does tease me a lot so a lot of the time i see it as like a sisterly relationship, i guess. just look for opinions. thanks.

[ADF]

Men almost NEVER go out of their way to befriend women unless they are attracted to them. Almost never. The fact this man makes any effort at all to cultivate your friendship pretty much proves he has the hots for you. I don't say that as a slight against him. That's just how men are.

 

Might he have some issues that cause him to hesitate? Sure, that's possible. I think you two needs to decide what the nature of your relationship is going to be. If you are going to take this further, great. If not, you need to stop cuddling with him--for men, there is no such thing as non-sexual cuddling--and he needs to stop complaining about your bringing other men home. If the tension gets too high--and usually does--one of you may need to move out.

[Lou8245]

Thanks for the reply. More often than not, he is the one that is initiating the contact and cuddling. And although, Ive never done that with other close guy friends, I was just seeking different opinions.