honesty Posted July 10, 2000 Share Posted July 10, 2000 sometimes my boyfriend lies to me. i don't know why. they are just little simple lies about who called, or paged, or i don't know just simple little stupid things. they are not even associated with other women lies, they are just that, simple and stupid and have no valid reason for the lies. what would cause someone to lie about nothing. i know they are lies cause i can verify some of them. what gives? if he is lying about these "little" things how can i trust him about "big" issues? any advice, any body? Link to post Share on other sites
billy the kid Posted July 10, 2000 Share Posted July 10, 2000 I think you answered your own question sometimes my boyfriend lies to me. i don't know why. they are just little simple lies about who called, or paged, or i don't know just simple little stupid things. they are not even associated with other women lies, they are just that, simple and stupid and have no valid reason for the lies. what would cause someone to lie about nothing. i know they are lies cause i can verify some of them. what gives? if he is lying about these "little" things how can i trust him about "big" issues? any advice, any body? Link to post Share on other sites
Taressa Posted July 10, 2000 Share Posted July 10, 2000 You said it, sister. Faithful in little is faithful in much. Liar in little is liar in much. What have you said and done to show him these lies have an effect on you and and will have consequence in the relationship? The dating relationship is specifically for situations like these in which you learn what type of person you are dating and to see how/if you can work out character issues. Talk to him and set your limits. Link to post Share on other sites
april Posted July 10, 2000 Share Posted July 10, 2000 ya know we have been together for over two years. when i call him on these lies he denies them. he says i blow things out of proportion or he don't know what i am talking about. i can't win. You said it, sister. Faithful in little is faithful in much. Liar in little is liar in much. What have you said and done to show him these lies have an effect on you and and will have consequence in the relationship? The dating relationship is specifically for situations like these in which you learn what type of person you are dating and to see how/if you can work out character issues. Talk to him and set your limits. Link to post Share on other sites
Taressa Posted July 10, 2000 Share Posted July 10, 2000 His denial speaks loudly; his twisting things so the blame falls on you for "blowing things out of proportion" speaks even more loudly. If he loved you he would care about the hurt and discomfort he places on you. You've let his mistakes affect you for too long. Muster up your courage and put some distance between the two of you. Let him reap the pain of what he has sown. You deserve better. Call on your true friends to help you make some tough decisions now. You'll need their strength and their perspective. I'll say it again: you deserve better. You can win. Step out of a losing situation. I've recently read a wonderful book that has given me some tools to be smarter in love. It's called "Boundaries in Dating" and was written by Dr. Henry Cloud. It deals with situations specifically like yours. Link to post Share on other sites
magicklady Posted July 11, 2000 Share Posted July 11, 2000 Yes you can.. you can walk away before the lies get bigger .. NOONE should ever tell you that it is your fault when they are doing something wrong.. he is messing with your self esteem and you need to get out before it gets bad... Link to post Share on other sites
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