How did you meet your SO?

[BettyBoop]

I just thought this could be a cute thread where we all share how we met our LDR SO. To show that you can find love in any place!

 

I'm not in a LDR but I've been in two before, one I met in a fan forum (UK) and the other I met on a dating site for vegetarians (Australia).

 

My current I met at my work and it was my first time ever of not meeting someone online.

 

But I'd love to hear all your stories!

[Citizen Erased]

I met my VERY handsome American bf here.

 

Best thing that has ever happened to me was joining that place.

[carvidep]

In 2006 I joined polyglot-learn-language.com to find Spanish language sharing pen pals. I found about 8 people but I lost contact with almost all of them, except for one. That was him. We were just language partners until we met in Spain in 2008. Then we became friends. And a month before 2009 we found out we liked each other and the rest is history.

[Rollercoasterr]

I met Mathew on ICQ 7 years ago. My friend was messing around and looking for people with similar interests, and he came up. She added him and we began talking. The rest is history.

 

Of course, we're not in LDR anymore(wheee!) but we were for a very long time.

[Spiritofnow]

I met my bf on a research forum in 2008. Neither of us were genuinely looking for love or a relationship, we were actually looking for common insight, and I guess we found that on a much deeper level - that spark that drew us together grew from there. We started out as friends and he is now my best-friend. We have been in an LDR for 2 years and 3 months. He is my soul-mate.

[Pyro]

I met my Aussie right here on loveshack.

[Green]

I met my gf in class when I heard her called on to answer a question and really liked her voice. I then turned around and couldn't stop staring at her.

 

I met my VERY handsome American bf here.

 

Best thing that has ever happened to me was joining that place.

 

I met my Aussie right here on loveshack.

 

Oh geez

[Pyro]

 

Oh geez

 

Its ok to be envious horny man.

[Spiritofnow]

I just thought this could be a cute thread where we all share how we met our LDR SO. To show that you can find love in any place!

 

I'm not in a LDR but I've been in two before, one I met in a fan forum (UK) and the other I met on a dating site for vegetarians (Australia).

 

My current I met at my work and it was my first time ever of not meeting someone online.

 

But I'd love to hear all your stories!

 

GREAT thread btw BettyBoop.

[KikiW]

World of Warcraft.

 

Wasn't looking, didn't expect it, but here we are over 2 years later living together. One of the things we thought would be awesome would be to play WoW side my side rather than across the US like we used to. Once we were together we completely lost interest in playing LOL. Let our accounts lapse and that was it. Soooo happy

[madjac74]

I met my gf on plentyoffish.com. She didnt even have a pic in her profile but the description she wrote was so witty and made me laugh. We exchanged responses for a few weeks and they always made me smile. finally she sent a few pics. They werent the best quality but she looked pretty good but mostly I was still very interested in her.

 

We then went to texting and a few phone calls and finally set up a meeting at a local bar on a friday. That friday I dont here anything from her. (quick back story I talked to someone before for like months and everytime we set up a meeting they backed out at the last minute) so I send her a text saying I dont let myself get treated like this anymore so good luck. Didnt talk to her again and didnt get a response. Two weeks later on fathers day she sends me a Happy Fathers day text. We start talking again and eventually met that friday and we had the most amazing time together. My jaw almost hit the floor when I saw her. And it wasnt one of those dates where there were awkward silences and I had to carry the convo. We laughed all night and we just felt perfect together. Unfortunately I had to leave her to go to work that night but we talked after I got off work and I ended up going to see her and we layed in bed talking til dawn. And yes I was a gentleman. I caught her staring at me when I tried to sleep and I found myself doing the same thing.

 

After a few more dates I learned that she had gone to the hospital that first night I didnt hear from her.

[mamadee]

hi--i'm new here...i was looking for info about something else, but saw this forum and decided to have a look since i was in an ldr...

 

i met my ldr in a chat room about a music group (the monkees)...neither one of us were looking for love (he had a gf and i was recovering from a failed relationship)...we chatted about the monkees for a month or two and one night i found out he was a guy (ambiguous name, and he wasn't a jerk, and the subject had never really come up before...) anyway we stayed up talking that night about anything and everything...about 8 hours straight (and i had to work the next morning!)...i only knew what he told me...neither one of us had a picture posted online...and when we used snail mail to send each other a photo neither one of us had a recent one to send...but his honesty made me fall for him...he told me everything about himself, good and bad...

 

in any case, a couple months later i drove 2300 miles by myself to meet him...flew to spend 3 weeks with him over christmas of that year...he flew down for his spring break (he was still in college at the time and i was in my first year out)--and he proposed...we got married july of that year and we've been happily married ever since...

 

and this was back when only freaks and creeps met people online...i don't think there were "personal ad" sites like match.com...not sure tho...

 

we'll celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary in a couple of months...

[BettyBoop]

we'll celebrate our 12th wedding anniversary in a couple of months...

 

Mamadee, am so happy for you!!!

 

Spiritofnow: Thank you. ^^ I thought it would be a nice idea.

[maria_patheticsoul]

I met my ldr in a chatroom...we both got chalenged..he started calling by the way he is from belgium...after 2 months we decided to meet in HK so i flew to HK to meet him..stayed there for 10days then he went back with me in PI and he stayed for 11days...after that he went back in forth here in PI and we even lived together for a few months...it was exciting at first but as we go deeper in our relationship it got more complicated.

[SpanksTheMonkey]

Its ok to be envious horny man.

 

You guys are so cute congrats!

 

Mines not a LDR all tho I have been in a few I met my current partner in a mall he was working as the security I luvs me a good man in uniform

[TheLoneSock]

GEEZE. Does no one meet people in person any more? Has the romance of meeting someone by chance in REAL life disappeared? 'You've Got Mail' seems to be a blueprint for people now of days.

[nemi26]

haha nope, met online but i'm glad we did!

[aerogurl87]

I met my boyfriend on a bdsm social/dating site. I wasn't expecting anyone to reply to my profile as other than friends because it was pretty straight forward that either I wanted friends to learn from or I wanted a long term relationship and not a f*ck buddy. And I definitely wasn't expecting a cute, tall, blue eyed Canadian who looked like the type of guy I'd always dreamed of dating to write me. And that's how our love story began.

[SassyKitten]

I met mine on OkCupid. This gorgeous man messaged me one day in response to my profile. I was actually on there as an experiment, as I'm very firm about what I want and don't want, unafraid of showing that I'm ambitious or sarcastic, and basically figured if something happens great, if not oh well. He lives in Hawaii while I live in Georgia, but we had a 94% compatibility score and I'm planning on leaving Georgia anyway as soon as I have my degree, so decided to go for it. It was a very long thought out email talking about his travels, where he's headed in life, he seemed to have a very good head on his shoulders, and he even started out by complementing me for my sarcasm that most people around here don't know how to grasp, saying that as an English person living in this country it's so hard to meet people who appreciate it! Anyone who appreciates my sarcasm instantly wins points with me, our interests and values are on the same wavelength, and he has been such a huge support to me through a rough patch in my life I experienced recently.

 

Emails quickly turned into phone calls and Skype, and I finally get to meet him 3 weeks from this Wednesday!!

[Els]

GEEZE. Does no one meet people in person any more? Has the romance of meeting someone by chance in REAL life disappeared? 'You've Got Mail' seems to be a blueprint for people now of days.

 

Different strokes for different folks, buddy. I don't rant about how 'Nobody meets outside of bars/pubs anymore!', when I honestly think hooking up when both people are drunk/high and fratting it out with friends leads to incredibly shallow and immature relationships, if it even gets past the ONS/fling stage.

[SassyKitten]

^^

 

I couldn't agree more! With dating being a numbers game, the internet exposes you to a much wider selection of partners, making it so much more efficient than bars or even other things such as blind dates and trolling the aisles at the local supermarket.

 

Of course finding that perfect someone often means you have to get on a plane to see them, making it something that can make the right relationship stronger and kill the wrong relationship.

[TheLoneSock]

Different strokes for different folks, buddy. I don't rant about how 'Nobody meets outside of bars/pubs anymore!', when I honestly think hooking up when both people are drunk/high and fratting it out with friends leads to incredibly shallow and immature relationships, if it even gets past the ONS/fling stage.

 

I couldn't agree more, and to each their own. But I still think something is lost when you don't meet that special someone by happen chance in person. At the gym or other hobby, in class, out hiking, the bookstore, a get together with friends, a church function even. These are all places I have met girls and had it turn into a relationship.

 

Call me old fashioned, but there is something instinctive, primal even that you feel when you lock eyes with someone you want, and end up turning it into a relationship - something that is lost when you meet through media that cannot be replaced or matched. The spark you feel when meeting up with someone for the first time after you have already gotten to know them through media is not the same feeling, regardless of how much time/tension has built up.

 

It's how people have done it for thousands of years, and it cannot be replicated over the internet. It feels too generic to me, too much like going to a department store as opposed to the real life chase.

 

It is the difference between taking in a deep breath of fresh mountain air and breathing in the recycled oxygen of an airplane.

[Pyro]

I couldn't agree more, and to each their own. But I still think something is lost when you don't meet that special someone by happen chance in person. At the gym or other hobby, in class, out hiking, the bookstore, a get together with friends, a church function even. These are all places I have met girls and had it turn into a relationship.

 

Call me old fashioned, but there is something instinctive, primal even that you feel when you lock eyes with someone you want, and end up turning it into a relationship - something that is lost when you meet through media that cannot be replaced or matched. The spark you feel when meeting up with someone for the first time after you have already gotten to know them through media is not the same feeling, regardless of how much time/tension has built up.

 

It's how people have done it for thousands of years, and it cannot be replicated over the internet. It feels too generic to me, too much like going to a department store as opposed to the real life chase.

 

It is the difference between taking in a deep breath of fresh mountain air and breathing in the recycled oxygen of an airplane.

 

Have you tried online dating or a long distance relationship?

 

Seeing that person for the very first time in person and the times that follow is a feeling that can't be put into words but I feel that its just as nice, if not better than meeting someone through chance.

 

I have done both and doing long distance feels no less than meeting someone through chance.

[carvidep]

I couldn't agree more, and to each their own. But I still think something is lost when you don't meet that special someone by happen chance in person. At the gym or other hobby, in class, out hiking, the bookstore, a get together with friends, a church function even. These are all places I have met girls and had it turn into a relationship.

 

Call me old fashioned, but there is something instinctive, primal even that you feel when you lock eyes with someone you want, and end up turning it into a relationship - something that is lost when you meet through media that cannot be replaced or matched. The spark you feel when meeting up with someone for the first time after you have already gotten to know them through media is not the same feeling, regardless of how much time/tension has built up.

 

It's how people have done it for thousands of years, and it cannot be replicated over the internet. It feels too generic to me, too much like going to a department store as opposed to the real life chase.

 

It is the difference between taking in a deep breath of fresh mountain air and breathing in the recycled oxygen of an airplane.

 

I have to admit that I would so love to be able to say that I met my SO in person. But for a lot of us, meeting our SO's online wasn't necessarily on purpose. I'm a social butterfly and I'd been looking for someone local at the time when my current SO and I realized that we had an interesting connection that we couldn't ignore, and we were merely language pen pals.

 

But when ever he and I are together in person, all of those primal instincts you mention show up and it's SUCH an incredible feeling, like everything is right when he's around. It's unfortunate that he's so far away, but I don't have a single regret as far as how we met.

[Pyro]

I have to admit that I would so love to be able to say that I met my SO in person. But for a lot of us, meeting our SO's online wasn't necessarily on purpose. I'm a social butterfly and I'd been looking for someone local at the time when my current SO and I realized that we had an interesting connection that we couldn't ignore, and we were merely language pen pals.

 

But when ever he and I are together in person, all of those primal instincts you mention show up and it's SUCH an incredible feeling, like everything is right when he's around. It's unfortunate that he's so far away, but I don't have a single regret as far as how we met.

 

I don't think anyone purposely seeks out a long distance relationship. You are right though that you can't ignore a connection you make with someone. No regrets here either.