Really like this girl, past getting in the way.

[smca07]

I'll try to keep this short.

 

I've been crazy about this one girl for years. I knew her in high school and, looking back now, there were times when I could have made something happen, but I was too insecure and shy back then. I know she liked me back then as I had heard things through mutual friends of her talking about me.

 

Cut to today, I'm 21 and just finished 2 years at a community college. I haven't had a girlfriend since way back in high school, and that wasn't very serious. After not seeing this girl for a couple years, she moved around a bit, she is recently back in town and single. I ran into her a couple times, but here's where it starts to get problematic. She had a fling with my best friend in high school who is a couple years older than me and still lives at home with no job and no car. I was with this friend when I saw her on both occasions and I can't help but feel that she thinks I am just like my friend. I have a job, a car and am much better looking and have come a along way since high school.

 

I am really uncomfortable with asking her to hang out while my friend is present as I am afraid he will want to come along. I've thought about talking to her online, but I also don't want to ask her out via the internet, it's very impersonal. I really don't want to let her get away again, I just can't seem to find a time to talk to her alone. Any advice or suggestions, don't hesitate to contribute. Thanks.

[Brokendreams875]

If you don't want to outright ask her out online maybe ask for her number online and give her a call? Chat with her first, make sure she knows your not like your friend but Girls are very observant so dont underestimate her she is probably aware of it already.

 

Also maybe you should talk to your friend about how you feel. Its obviously been years since the fling so just tell him you were thinking about asking her out. If hes a real friend im sure he will be fine with it. If you really like this girl you cant hide that from your friend forever its better to be up front about it.