yes Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 sometimes (OK, often) i have a feeling that the only people who truly care about each other are blood-related. sure, many relatives DON'T care, but it seems like unless there's a blood connection, sincere selfless caring is rare, if existent. "significant other"'s do care, but it's tied up with what's given to them - they care about the relationship, not their SO per se. friends also care, and they may even stick around when you're in trouble, but at the end of the day, they can walk away from you - you're not essential to their life. but parents, children, siblings, - they can't just walk away and forget you - they care not because they're getting something out of the relationship, but because they can't help it. again, i know there're exceptions, i'm talking about general trends here. the main distinction i was trying to make was caring about the relationship (basically b/c of what it provides you with) vs. caring just for the heck of it, cuz you just do. do you know what i mean? what are your thoughts? -yes Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 I think you're in danger of turning into a jaded, disillusioned cynic - and you need to hit at least 30 before you should try on that mantle. Life is not that bad. Unrelated people can and do become devoted to each other without needing 'payback'. you're not essential to their life. People can become essential to people. They do it all the time. People who have lost essential people post here all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 I have some wonderful family members...... then I have friends who mean more to me than some of my 'not so wonderful' family members.... and I've met some people who proved to be 'unfit' to be in either category..... This is when you pass thru a phase when you question if anyone you even know is worth knowing. It may just be the 'luck of the draw'. Link to post Share on other sites
brashgal Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 I don't agree that parents and sblings care because they can't help it, there are plenty of broken relationships where individuals walk away because they aren't getting what they need out of a relationship, regardless of 'blood'. Children when they are younger love unconditionally but they too can 'lose that lovin' feeling'. Yes, if you are going to get prosaic about it - in the end we are all alone. But true friendships exist where people feel they are essential to one another. But if you are smart, you will nurture those friendships in good times so they are they for the hard times. If you have one true friend, you have more than your share. ~Thomas Fuller~ You do seem a little world-weary, yes - give yourself a hug from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author yes Posted January 27, 2004 Author Share Posted January 27, 2004 thanks for all your replies. i sure hope the world isn't that bad. regarding turning into a cynic - i do sway between that and an idealist - seems just cannot stop somewhere in the middle! -yes Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 Originally posted by yes regarding turning into a cynic - i do sway between that and an idealist - seems just cannot stop somewhere in the middle! -yes A lot of the time I'm the same way - that is, swaying being two opposites. I just tell myself that being an etremist is certainly not dull! Link to post Share on other sites
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