xxoo Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Sounds like you are uncomfortable actually talking about what you think about during sex with your SO. It's a pretty personal thing, you know? Anyway, why does it matter what women other than your wife think about during sex? It is little indication of what your wife is thinking about. Why does it matter if your wife "edits"? Is there a trust issue at play? Link to post Share on other sites
califnan Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 LOL, so it's that rare for male posters on LS to claim that their wives enjoy sex? How sad. For them. ---------------- Certainly not rare, I would hope. Just saw a parallel between two posters, who had been thought to be the same one - that's all.. Link to post Share on other sites
califnan Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Many of these responses are awfully cute, funny.. Reminds me of a cartoon email I received about the mind of a woman (elaborate, detailed, extensive - going on and on) .. and the one track mind of a man .. ha Link to post Share on other sites
sally4sara Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Its been a long time since I found myself thinking about anything during sex other than the sex I was having. I cannot remember what I thought about during sex that wasn't about the sex I was having. When I thought about something different - it was probably still about the sex I was having - my thoughts being that the sex I was having sucked. It would have to be something along those lines for me to have thought about something other than what I was doing and how good it felt. Link to post Share on other sites
Lecturer Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 This is actually a very useful topic for discussion as it is something that is a real difference between men and women. I know my wife struggles to silence her brain during sex - it really frustrates her how she can be having a great time, and the next thing she knows she (at least partially) is thinking about laundry or some stupid domestic BS. There was a study with mice where, during intercourse, the mice would be distracted with cheese (as I recall). Researchers found that the males did not respond at all, however, the females would notice the cheese and respond. It seems the female brain is a parallel processor while the male brain is a serial processor. Well, I know how irritating multi-threaded apps can be to code, so I guess that makes sense . And what do men think about during sex? Easy: Don't cum, don't cum, don't cum, is she liking that? Don't cum, don't cum, hmm what should I do next. Don't cum, don't cum, I bet she'll love this! Don't cum, OUCH I guess not... Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 And what do men think about during sex? Easy: Don't cum, don't cum, don't cum, is she liking that? Don't cum, don't cum, hmm what should I do next. Don't cum, don't cum, I bet she'll love this! Don't cum, OUCH I guess not... Hahahahahaha. You made my day. Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Don't cum, don't cum, don't cum, is she liking that? Don't cum, don't cum, hmm what should I do next. Don't cum, don't cum, I bet she'll love this! Don't cum, OUCH I guess not... haha..that's funny, never realized how much some guys are holding back the big moment. More women are probably the opposite--am I gonna make it? am I? yes! no wait, maybe not--yes yes--no don't do that--yes do that come on big boy! Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Women have highlight reels, and women have fantasies, just like men do. I use them to try to get myself to the point where he is at that moment. This was especially true when I was in the Mommy mode, and it was so hard to turn my brain off from all the tasks it took to raise children properly. But, when he took me away for the weekend, or today, spends loads of time in non-sexual foreplay before the party begins, I ONLY think of him and how good it feels. Sorta like, when I was his girlfriend....:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
crazycatlady Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 I thought guys thought totally unrelated stuff to keep from cumming too soon. You know, MIL naked, FIL naked, the quadratic equation. I won't say that random thoughts don't run through my head: "Is the door locked" "did I put up the leftovers" "**** forgot to pay that bill" but if H is on the ball (and he usually is) those thoughts are in and out without really hitting conciousness. I tend to be completely centered on what he's doing to me or what I'm doing to him - though in that case its often what I'm going to do next too in my mind, and how I can drag out his pleasure enough to make it intense without making it uncomfortable. Oddly enough when its all about him, like a morning quicky, I rarely find any thought but him and what's going on crossing my mind. When I'm getting mine, that's when I'm more likely to have random thoughts cross my mind. But nothing sticks. CCL Link to post Share on other sites
Lecturer Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 haha..that's funny, never realized how much some guys are holding back the big moment. More women are probably the opposite--am I gonna make it? am I? yes! no wait, maybe not--yes yes--no don't do that--yes do that come on big boy! Hehe, well, I'm exaggerating a little bit . I think you are somewhat right about the female side though - my wife at least. It is very hard for her to orgasm and takes a lot of time and careful effort. It is rare that I have to focus so hard on not cumming too soon (it does happen though ... sometimes things are very hot lol). It is actually much more common that I'm trying to keep myself at a balance of arousal so that I'm still hard but not going to go too far too soon.. trying to pace myself to match my wife so that we can finish together. It's an exhausting bit of mental work, but certainly worth it! Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 More women are probably the opposite--am I gonna make it? am I? yes! no wait, maybe not--yes yes--no don't do that--yes do that come on big boy! My turn to laugh! You made my day! I really think it's unfair that I have to spend so much energy making sure I come (yes yes, that feels good, no no, losing it, thinking about something my coworker said, **** get back to how it feels, I better shift position, do something, oh wait, ah yes that feels good) and so little energy on pleasing him. If I think too much about him I forget about myself and I have one of those bf who WON'T come until I do. I always feel selfish during sex, but bf doesn't seem to mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Sounds like you are uncomfortable actually talking about what you think about during sex with your SO. There you go again, big fella, making up stories about what people post here. Maybe you are right ... Or, maybe I just didn't feel like responding to your post at the moment, Or, perhaps I am so sick of how you torque every post to "mean" what will serve you in your half-baked arguments that I am not interested in engaging with you "for reel." Could be that it's been so long since I did the deed, being chaste and all, that I cannot remember what I was thinking back then; Or when I started thinking about it, I got all fired up and melty so that I could not even type without needing to phone my absent man for some immediate and intense phone sex, And finally, maybe I thought it was funny and I felt like making a joke. Now I believe I've told you this before, but I have a strong sense that somebody's putty badly needs troggling. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 It's a pretty personal thing, you know? Anyway, why does it matter what women other than your wife think about during sex? It is little indication of what your wife is thinking about. Why does it matter if your wife "edits"? Is there a trust issue at play? He explained that. It's something men are honestly curious about and deflective answers or attempts at humorous avoidance or worse, comebacks that try to belittle the OP and quite less than helpful. I myself however think there are as many answers as there are women and all of them depend on mood, attraction, whether he's any good or w/e. Link to post Share on other sites
nowomanocry Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 What women think during sex? Who cares mate lmao As long as you happy )) Link to post Share on other sites
Spark1111 Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 Hehe, well, I'm exaggerating a little bit . I think you are somewhat right about the female side though - my wife at least. It is very hard for her to orgasm and takes a lot of time and careful effort. It is rare that I have to focus so hard on not cumming too soon (it does happen though ... sometimes things are very hot lol). It is actually much more common that I'm trying to keep myself at a balance of arousal so that I'm still hard but not going to go too far too soon.. trying to pace myself to match my wife so that we can finish together. It's an exhausting bit of mental work, but certainly worth it! So, introduce the great equalizer, the one that levels the playing field and helps turn a woman's ability to arrive at the same destination as you in the same amount of time without trememdous effort and slowed performance. ;) Our little friend, G.E. (General Electric, thank you!) Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 The problem with trying to get this kind of thing by a conversation with one's spouse is that it's impossible to know how much "editing" is going on. Even if it's not edited, I have no way of knowing if what my wife does or does not tell me she thinks about is typical. The above kind of contradicts this.... Yes, I "really" am married, to a woman who actually ENJOYS sex, and doesn't claim that it's an "unimportant" part of a loving relationship. So when she tells you she really ENJOYS sex.... you're not sure whether she's editing" because it's impossible to tell? Are you accusing her of lying, or being 'economical with the truth? is there something you suspect she's withholding? That's really quite interesting. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 She might be behaving as if she enjoys it so much because she fears him ... Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 So when she tells you she really ENJOYS sex.... you're not sure whether she's editing" because it's impossible to tell? Are you accusing her of lying, or being 'economical with the truth? is there something you suspect she's withholding? Maybe she ENJOYS it because she is thinking about someone else That's what this is really about, isn't it rewe? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 She might be behaving as if she enjoys it so much because she fears him ... Meh.... what's to fear....? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 Maybe they think "did I leave the Iron on?":confused: Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 My turn to laugh! You made my day! I really think it's unfair that I have to spend so much energy making sure I come (yes yes, that feels good, no no, losing it, thinking about something my coworker said, **** get back to how it feels, I better shift position, do something, oh wait, ah yes that feels good) and so little energy on pleasing him. If I think too much about him I forget about myself and I have one of those bf who WON'T come until I do. I always feel selfish during sex, but bf doesn't seem to mind. Glad you liked it I've found what helps me whenever I get a little stuck, is focusing on how hot he is,or the particular style of the act is, at that moment. Maybe I have my eyes closed. So open them! Only problem with that is that I like to kiss at the same time, and seeing his eyes too close and not in focus is weird. lol One thing I never do though is think about other stuff-- I see a lot of posters talking about did they leave the gas on, type of thing. Not with me--the house would burn down. I'm very present in the moment. I like to time it together and I can get over-stimulated. Or I like to cum second. Um...that's a problem. But his O puts me over the edge and makes me get goal orientated. Finding a man that can go that extra minute or two after he cums...lol The other answer is a warning from him. "You have exactly a minute babe!" I don't know whether the OP is worried about what his w is thinking, unless she acts bored. But then, I'm not one to think of other guys. I hope my guy doesn't either think of other gals. I think that's rather rude! Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 I don't think during sex. It takes away from the experience. Link to post Share on other sites
crazycatlady Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 So, introduce the great equalizer, the one that levels the playing field and helps turn a woman's ability to arrive at the same destination as you in the same amount of time without trememdous effort and slowed performance. ;) Our little friend, G.E. (General Electric, thank you!) I am so glad i was not drinking anything when i read that Spark. You would have owed me a keyboard. We call it my purple friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 Meh.... what's to fear....? In another current thread, 4reel declared with authority that in order to love, a woman must respect and FEAR her man. Link to post Share on other sites
AmeliaApple Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 I think about other women, other men, porn that I like....lots of fantasy. I've never been one to just go through the motions (even if I get bored with the routine at times...I'm still able to orgasm). I sometimes fantasize about my husband while we are having sex...but he's more "tame" that I would like to be. So I do think about other men and scenarios that I wish I could explore. Link to post Share on other sites
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