Guest Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 I am new to this but don't know where to turn. My 23 year old daughter first got hooked on chatting and in turn left her husband of only 3 weeks, (had been together for over 6 years), to move hours away from every one to live with a married couple with 2 kids. We have always been very close, she has been my best friend for ever. She was and is lying to everyone about the reason she moved from here. I've tried to talk to her but she has in a very short time turned into someone I hardly know. It is breaking my heart and I am afraid she will disappear from our lives for good. I realize she is an adult but this has changed her so drastically that it is frightening. Every thing she has done in the last 6 months is completely out of character from the person she was. Either she is denying any problem or she really can't see it. Does any one know someone that has had this problem, or any suggestions on what to do. I am desperately looking for suggestions. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 27, 2004 Share Posted January 27, 2004 Here are some information sites for you: http://psychcentral.com/netaddiction/ http://www.chem.vt.edu/chem-dept/dessy/honors/papers/ferris.html http://www.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/cybaddict.html Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Thanks for the info, but I have already read every site I can find on it. All talk about the addiction phase but none have suggestions on what to do or how to help. My daughter is no longer addicted to the INTERNET she is now obsessed with the "friends" she has met on-line. The computer is no longer her obsession, it is the "friends" that she has gave up everything for. Link to post Share on other sites
metal_chik Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 That sounds just like my cousin a year or 2 ago(yes you!). Maybe she'll eventually grow tired of her new "friends" and find something a lil more normal to obsess about that won't interfere with the other parts of her life. That whole leavin her husband thing still trips me out...I never dreamed the net was so powerful! Good luck with everything. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 That sounds just like my cousin a year or 2 ago(yes you!). Define: "you". -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
metal_chik Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Take a wild guess, u always were purdy smart Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted January 29, 2004 Share Posted January 29, 2004 Does this mean your cousin is still obsessed? Or did your cousin get "bored" with it all? This is all new to me and I really am just looking for answers. I feel so helpless and it is tearing my family apart. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
lquidmetalspine Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 I am sorry about whats going on in your familly. But believe it or not, yours is not the first. The internet tears more famillies apart then almost anything in the world. It is very strong. The only advice I have to give is to pray, and wait it out. She is doing something she thinks is fun and right, but she doesnt know that. Be her support when she needs you, and just wait it out to see what comes out if it. Not to be a preacher kind, but prayer is a strong weapon against things that are not right. Link to post Share on other sites
flannelpajamas Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 It sounds like I'm in the minority here, but I don't think it is the internet so much as that your daughter is very young and perhaps searching and desperate for a change. She may have felt these feelings long before she became 'addicted,' and the internet was just a means for her to break away from a life situation she didn't want or felt overwhelmed by. I think that especially because you say now she is addicted to the friends rather than the computer. I feel for you and wish I could give you some good advice. What about her children. Where are they? Link to post Share on other sites
flannelpajamas Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 Oops, I guess your daughter does not have children.........or does she? Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted February 1, 2004 Share Posted February 1, 2004 No, she does not have any children, for that I am thankful. And I agree, waiting it out is probably the only thing that can be done. Aside from the prayers I say daily for her and my family. I do believe the INTERNET had allot to do with it, I have researched for hours on the subject and for some people it affects them, for whatever reason. It is the same as one person can drink and may become an alcoholic another person can drink and will not become one. I also agree at this point in time this is what she feels is the right thing to do for her. I did call her and explain some of my fears and at least the lines of communication are opened a little. So hopefully with allot of prayer and love she will see it is not the right path for her. I think just putting it in black & white was therapeutic for me, must admit this is a first for me, have never posted before. And all of you responding was greatly appreciated. Thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
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