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[blacktape4abluegirl]

I'm writing this letter here as I really am rather puzzled as the severity of my situation and I don't know if I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill or not. You see, last Christmas me and my live-in boyfriend of six years got engaged. While were both so very excited about this. In addition, we are both are very relaxed and unconventional people by nature, so we both agreed on enjoying our engagement period and taking everything easy. Upon our initial engagement talk I expressed how I would like a low key wedding, something simple, intimate and meaningful, he agreed.

Well, about 2 nights ago I was online browsing at local wedding venues, trying to compare prices when I had asked him about what his opinion was on setting a date. He kinda danced around the subject and didn't give me a straight answer. When I asked him why he gave me a fuzzy description of his financial problems, job problems and while I understand that and sympathize with him, I'm not really getting why he seems to be freezing up when confronted with the technicalities of date setting and wedding planning.

What's weird is that I feel like everything in our life is great. Our sex life is wonderful, we joke around all the time and really are best friends. But when I try to get him to open up about his interests in wedding planning he just dances around the subject and it's getting to the point that it's almost rather offense as his girlfriend of six years.

If, after all this time, is he really that nervous to get married? Is he just too comfortable with what we already have? I know my boyfriend kind of has this "dragging his feet" approach to life but I'm starting to feel really hurt and rejected.

Andy advice?

[2sunny]

find out IF he really intends to marry you. why wait? why wait any longer?

 

tell him to take you to vegas or a justice of the peace today and get things accomplished... that way avoiding additional costs of even a simple party. same end result = and you find out what his true intensions are.

[BlackLovely]

I'm writing this letter here as I really am rather puzzled as the severity of my situation and I don't know if I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill or not. You see, last Christmas me and my live-in boyfriend of six years got engaged. While were both so very excited about this. In addition, we are both are very relaxed and unconventional people by nature, so we both agreed on enjoying our engagement period and taking everything easy. Upon our initial engagement talk I expressed how I would like a low key wedding, something simple, intimate and meaningful, he agreed.

Well, about 2 nights ago I was online browsing at local wedding venues, trying to compare prices when I had asked him about what his opinion was on setting a date. He kinda danced around the subject and didn't give me a straight answer. When I asked him why he gave me a fuzzy description of his financial problems, job problems and while I understand that and sympathize with him, I'm not really getting why he seems to be freezing up when confronted with the technicalities of date setting and wedding planning.

What's weird is that I feel like everything in our life is great. Our sex life is wonderful, we joke around all the time and really are best friends. But when I try to get him to open up about his interests in wedding planning he just dances around the subject and it's getting to the point that it's almost rather offense as his girlfriend of six years.

If, after all this time, is he really that nervous to get married? Is he just too comfortable with what we already have? I know my boyfriend kind of has this "dragging his feet" approach to life but I'm starting to feel really hurt and rejected.

Andy advice?

 

If he's your "best friend", why are you so afraid to just talk to him?

It's so simple: "Honey, I notice that you don't give me any definite answers when I try to discuss the wedding date with you. What is the reason for this? Are you sure that you want to get married?"

 

Sometimes men give their women engagement rings just to shut them up. If he proposed but won't set a date, I would think that he never really wanted to get married in the first place. I mean, it did take him six years to finally ask you....to each her own, but I would never let a man waste this much of my time.

 

My fiance was unemployed for a whole year after he proposed to me; the company he worked for shut down. We decided not to have a larger wedding because of the crazy costs. We didn't want to be engaged for too long, so that we could afford a wedding. In the end, we realized that it was more important for us to be married than to have a big party.

Off we go in October by ourselves...saving more than $20,000 and drama from my controlling parents.

 

If your fiance loves you, career and financial problems wouldn't stop him from marrying you. Many couples are poor when they first marry; they work towards having a better life together.