What to do? Advice needed

[treeboy]

I've known this girl for a long time, her parents are good friends with my parents. I usually only see her once or twice a year. Lately when I've seen her I think we have a lot in common and I really like her, we seem to get on well. Recently she asked me to her house to help her with some maintenance she was having trouble with. I've since been there and emailed her since and she said I was a great guy. I replied and asked if she wanted me to give her any musical tuition, because I think she is interested in that sort of thing. I did not receive a response. I then saw her again a couple of weeks later and she said she got the email and would be interested in the tuition, and to ring her to organise it. I haven't called yet but I will.

 

I am currently receiving treatment for Social Anxiety disorder (I believe she is having treatment for a similar thing). I have never asked a girl out in my life. I haven't asked her out, but have twice asked her (in a very informal, spur of the moment sort of way) if she'd come over, but she said she had other things organized (which may be true, but with Social Anxiety skepticism is magnified ten-fold).

 

Because I don't have the social skills required to ask her out (my therapist has told me to ask her to go for coffee or lunch as friends), am more sensitive of rejection then any 'normal' person. I suppose I just want some advise on what to do, I've never felt this way about anyone before.

[Thinkalot]

Follow your therapists advice, and start with small steps. Ask her for a coffee or lunch, and don't expect too much to start with, that way you are less likely to feel let down. She may be nervous too! At the very least, you may gain a good friend. Give it a go! After you've seen her a few more times, you'll have a better idea how she feels about you, and be able to tell where to take it from there. Good luck.