girlfriend acting different

[benB]

My girl of 3 years is starting to act different. We usually text all the time, keep each other informed etc. We are home for the summer and she is texting me less and less, calling me less and less, never tells me what shes up to and never makes an effort to see me. Yesterday we barely talked and she ignored me all night only to tell me today that she went to some bar and slept out. She has been acting like this ever since we got home. Now she is literally refusing to come spend time with me. This is getting ridiculous, she should want to spend time with me and she rather go with other people.

 

Should I just dump her now because I know something is different, she never acts like this.

[skydiveaddict]

sounds like you're heading for the friendzone Ben. I hope i'm wrong though.

[LucreziaBorgia]

 

Should I just dump her now because I know something is different, she never acts like this.

 

Yes. You are on the way out, and you'll save yourself some heartbreak being the one to walk out voluntarily rather than have her throw you out.

[IronMaiden]

There's another wolf in the wings. Break up with her before she breaks up with you...

[Odyssey]

OP, sorry to say that it doesn't sound good. People don't usually pull away from things they love....Something or someone is occupying her mind.

 

I hope i'm wrong.

[hardtocope]

OP, same thing just happened to me. A month or two or so of increasing time between contacts, not wanting to hang out as much, no reciprocal behavior (i was always calling her, but she never called me), me always forcing her into spending time with me, lots of ugly conversations, her always getting mad at me about little ridiculous things that I would do or say that she used to find endearing, and then bam! The breakup talk, the admitting there was another person she liked and had been seeing.

 

She is pushing you away in order to be with someone else, I would bet, and it makes it easier on her to push you away, to irritate you to the point where you are really mad with her behavior, so she can then be mad at you which makes breaking off the relationship a lot easier. IMO

 

I'm so sorry buddy. It really, really sucks.

[ADF]

I would bet almost any amount of money your GF has met someone else. End it before she makes a fool of you.

[In-The-Wheat]

Yea man this sucks and you probably are crazy about her, but do yourself a favor and dump her now.

 

Same thing happened to me with this girl I was seeing... Starting doing everything your girl is doing now. After about a week of that bullsh*t I got fed up and tried to confront her. She ignored the call, and then broke up with me over text - yea that was awesome....2 weeks later, my friend sees her out on a date.

 

Cut your losses dude and let the attention whore go.

Edited June 2, 2010 by In-The-Wheat

[benB]

Yeah she is being really shady and sketch, I also noticed that whenever I am with her she is constantly texting her friends she takes phone calls no matter what we are doing like out to dinner, but when we are apart she doesn't give me the same treatment, she doesn't text me at all if she is out to eat. I found that rude. She never wants to see me, we talk less, text less and yes she always gets mad at me for being mad at her and then she ignores me and acts like its my fault. Very manipulating, I'm def checking out of the relationship but its hard because she was all I wanted in a girl. But thanks for the advice guys. What are your stories like? Same type of behavior I assume

Edited June 2, 2010 by benB

[hardtocope]

but when we are apart she doesn't give me the same treatment, she doesn't text me at all if she is out to eat. I found that rude. She never wants to see me, we talk less, text less and yes she always gets mad at me for being mad at her and then she ignores me and acts like its my fault. Very manipulating, I'm def checking out of the relationship but its hard because she was all I wanted in a girl.

Oh Ben, that is exactly what my GF is doing. I was trying to explain the fights we have had on my thread, but that does it so much better. I'm trying to check out too, but it is really, really hard because you and I are still in love, and they are not. We really need to run away. I am afraid I will have to be dragged away from my soon-ex by some well-meaning party. Oh, and ftr, mine has found somebody else, and has told me about it. I am probably insane to think I can get her back, and same probably for you. Really, really sorry for your pain.

 

Does this ever get any better ever for anybody, or is this it 100%, I wonder?

Edited June 2, 2010 by hardtocope

[Odyssey]

What are your stories like? Same type of behavior I assume

Same crap different chick. My ex would say something just to get into an argument with me. She was very hot and cold some days. Like you, most annoying was her phone was practically glued her. After a week or so of my ex's evasive BS, I confronted her with it all and it also forced the break-up that day.

 

Anyway, that was over a year ago. I'm over it now. It's not good to hang onto something, if it's on its way out. Confront it and if need be...let go. And if the crunch ever happens to you, i'm sure you will get over it too.

[DenverBachelor]

Yeah she is being really shady and sketch, I also noticed that whenever I am with her she is constantly texting her friends she takes phone calls no matter what we are doing like out to dinner, but when we are apart she doesn't give me the same treatment, she doesn't text me at all if she is out to eat. I found that rude. She never wants to see me, we talk less, text less and yes she always gets mad at me for being mad at her and then she ignores me and acts like its my fault. Very manipulating, I'm def checking out of the relationship but its hard because she was all I wanted in a girl. But thanks for the advice guys. What are your stories like? Same type of behavior I assume

 

It doesn't get any more "she is seeing another guy" textbook definition than this.

 

Sorry, man. She's not texting her friends, she's texting her new fling.

 

Cease all contact with her and get yourself into NC as quickly as possible. The sooner you do this, the faster you can get this behind you.

 

So sorry. Women never let go of one branch until their other hand is firmly gripped on another.

[hockeyman80]

benB, I feel for ya too man. Going through the exact same thing right now, almost word for word. Even her reactions are exactly the same as the ones I used to get. She should be making you a priority and she isn't. I'm not settling for that, I'll take a girl who bends over backwards for me the way I bend over backwards for her. You should do the same. Good luck man

[benB]

Now she is trying to say that it is my fault and that i have been a bad bf she said so many negative things about me when I have done nothing to her all summer. Talk about manipulation..I'm literally shocked that she would even say that to me after what she has been doing to me. I told her I don't want to date her anymore and I guess I have to go NC. Wow 4 years and now this, this sucks

[WintersNightTraveler]

Way to do the right thing for yourself. Try to stay strong. I know it's hard but you are actually going to get through fine because this is a great start for you. A lot of people have to take that kind of thing for much longer or aren't saavy enough to recognize it like you are. Good luck.