Kristy19 Posted May 30, 2010 Share Posted May 30, 2010 I have a friend that stays in Indiana, a few days ago he told me he liked me and that he wished that I lived in Indiana and that I'm an amazing girl and I seem like his kind of girl and he wanted to give this a shot. Me? I'm shocked and I don't know what to think or what to say because I haven't been in a relationship in almost 3 years and if I do say yes its going to be a long distance relationship and I already know we're going to take it slow, now I already have trust issues with guys but I like this guy there's something about him that makes me smile. I don't know what to do or how to respond. Do I put my my trust issues aside and take a risk or do I tell him no? Link to post Share on other sites
carvidep Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 I have a friend that stays in Indiana, a few days ago he told me he liked me and that he wished that I lived in Indiana and that I'm an amazing girl and I seem like his kind of girl and he wanted to give this a shot. Me? I'm shocked and I don't know what to think or what to say because I haven't been in a relationship in almost 3 years and if I do say yes its going to be a long distance relationship and I already know we're going to take it slow, now I already have trust issues with guys but I like this guy there's something about him that makes me smile. I don't know what to do or how to respond. Do I put my my trust issues aside and take a risk or do I tell him no? Have you met him in person yet? My two cents: If you're uncomfortable, don't be afraid to say no. If you honestly don't know what you want with him, arrange to meet up as friends for a day or two and see if you guys have that chemistry in person or not. That way there's no pressure for you to say yes or no right away. Link to post Share on other sites
madjac74 Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 There are a few factors to consider. Did you ever spend any time together in the same place? Was there any physical attraction? How far away do you live and how often could you guys see each other? Could you handle going long periods of time without seeing him and being intimate? A big thing is your trust issue. You will have to trust someone who is far away and you will constantly wonder what they are doing. And you may oftern assume the wrong things. I had this problem early and it made a difficult situation way more difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTruthChaos Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 I hope I'm not beign too blunt here, but this is something to consider. I was in a LDR where I seemed to make all the effort. I was always the one going to visit him, and it was only when he broke up with me that I realised he had absolutely no plan to ever visit me. Granted that we were 15,000 miles apart (He's from New York, I'm Australian), but if a guy is saying stuff like 'I wish you were HERE' (and not 'I wish I was THERE') - alarm bells would be ringing. It means that if things don't work out, YOU are the one left high and dry, while he's cosy in his hometown. I'm not saying this will happen, and I really do wish you all the best...but just be aware. Link to post Share on other sites
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