gilly6 Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 been married for 20years, 2 adult kids and a 7 year old. Been unhappy for a long while. this could be a very long post but will shorten it. main issues, here goes. early in the marriage most weekends for the first 5 years my husband would get drunk and not come home. binge drinking still does occaisionally, maitains no infideltiy. seperated for a week about 16 years ago he slept with a women, i found out a year later when he was served with child support papers. (turned out he wasnt father) has never defended me against negative comments by familiy( mainly his). we used to live next to a psych lady who verbally abused me and our kids and threatened to attack me, he never once took a stand on our behalf, when i asked him to defend us he siad "what do you want me to do about it" very selfish does what he wants when he wants. could write pages of this stuff. but will skip to more recent. new years eve my husband went out of town and met an old female friend at a pub for drinks, did not tell me about this. i found out via face book and saw a message he left saying he would like to meet her and he left mobile number. when i asked him what he had done new years eve he said he stayed home at his auties house, so he was found out by me to be lying. i have been going to see a counsellor regarding the above. i want to know any other people in the same place and how they got out. i feel lonely trapped. thanks Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Sounds like you have been duped from DAY ONE. Sorry, he's always cheated on you. Get out of that relationship. Life is short, and you need to find out what it is like to have someone who actually loves you, instead of being a narcissist. Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Yeah, dam the torpedoes and full speed ahead. Get out of there--he sounds like he's no winner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gilly6 Posted June 1, 2010 Author Share Posted June 1, 2010 yep he is def a narcissist. yep i have been duped and i guess deep dwon i know it. Just need the strength to leave. thanks for your honest responses, i feel i need to shake myself and say "wake up to yourself" lol thanks guys Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 How do you feel trapped? Link to post Share on other sites
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