Da Escobar Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Just wondering, because I'm 18, soon to be 19, and I still live with my parents. After a 7 k car crash (which was my fault ) basically eliminated all the money I own in this world, I've had to drive a car under my parents name which they won't let me take out at night (If they will let me out at night at all). My question is, say I start going out with a girl whose between 17-20 who can drive, would it not be able to work out if she picked me up for our late night trips? No doubt it would be embarrassing to me, but would a girl even bother with that? Link to post Share on other sites
legallyblonde289 Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Just wondering, because I'm 18, soon to be 19, and I still live with my parents. After a 7 k car crash (which was my fault ) basically eliminated all the money I own in this world, I've had to drive a car under my parents name which they won't let me take out at night (If they will let me out at night at all). My question is, say I start going out with a girl whose between 17-20 who can drive, would it not be able to work out if she picked me up for our late night trips? No doubt it would be embarrassing to me, but would a girl even bother with that? wouldnt bother me. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 My gf has a nicer car then I do. When we drive in her car I am the one behind the steering wheel I just hand her the keys when we get to where ever we are going... she always hand me the keys when we get to her car and I drive. So what I am saying is ask if it would be cool if you drove your dates car... Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 My gf has a nicer car then I do. When we drive in her car I am the one behind the steering wheel I just hand her the keys when we get to where ever we are going... she always hand me the keys when we get to her car and I drive. So what I am saying is ask if it would be cool if you drove your dates car... Well yea, but I would maybe wait until he stated dating her awhile for that. It doesn't seem like he's uncomfortable, I think he is worried about the girl being turned off. When I was in college my ex boyfriend didn't have a car and I did, so I drove us around everywhere. It wasn't a big deal, but as the above poster has mentioned, I used to let him drive my car when we would go out on dates because he would always try to tell me how to drive! It was very annoying! Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 at the end of the day, it doesn't matter who owns the car; it's what you do to each other whilst inside of it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 Around your age, I owned the car, I picked him up at his place, I drove my own car*. It never happened, but I think I would have found it silly (not to mention sexist) if he had asked if he could drive my car -- for what? to put some balm on his own bruised male ego? That is, it would have come off as petty, or demonstrated his insecurity about his 'manhood' and/or brought to light his basically sexist attitude...and then I'd pro'ly have had to dump him. It's 2010. There's nothing "wrong" with a man being a passenger in an automobile that is being driven by a woman. It doesn't make him any less (or more) of a man than he already was before he got in the vehicle. *When I got a sports car, guys wanted to drive it all the time. But that was for the thrill of it...not because of any underlying sexist leanings. So, that was totally different. Them asking to drive my car in this case was good for MY (female) ego! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 It wouldn't have bothered me at your age. In fact, I was largely the driver in my relationship back then. But now, at 32... I'd consider a guy without his vehicle undateable. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 If you're newly dating, it would be better to just sit in her car while she drives than to ask to drive. Not only does it sound silly and sexist... but if you end up crashing it... Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 No, it probably wont matter at all. Still, a piece of advice... whether or not the of your car (and possibly license) had anything to do with alcohol.....it would be a brilliant idea to never ever make her feel like she is your designated driver. Link to post Share on other sites
Neutrino Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 My gf has a nicer car then I do. When we drive in her car I am the one behind the steering wheel I just hand her the keys when we get to where ever we are going... she always hand me the keys when we get to her car and I drive. So what I am saying is ask if it would be cool if you drove your dates car... I would never let a date get anywhere near my private car... My BF of >6 years was finally after 3 years allowed to drive my private car after I was satisfied he was a good driver (and would pay for any damages he caused) - nobody else touches it - even my parents. My work-car only a legal partner is allowed to drive anyway - so that is an easy one... We both love our wheels, so we take turns in driving or even go somewhere with 2 cars just for the fun. Link to post Share on other sites
BubbleFreak Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 I wouldn't have any problems driving my bf around if he didn't have a car, since he does so many nice things for me anyway. But if whoever you date has a problem with it, why not catch public transport? That's what my bf and I used to do when we both didn't have cars. Used to walk around a lot too. Hmm... even caught the ferry for fun instead of walking over a bridge:P Link to post Share on other sites
WheatusDirtBag Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 I hate to be the only one to say this...but this would bug me. I am traditional and old fashioned and I don't find it "sexist" that I want a guy to do things like drive and pay on dates. It's 2010, but men and women are still different. Until it's possible for a man to have a baby, I will always see things this way, too. I like to feel taken care of in a way by men. I also like my man to be responsible enough to not get into so many car accidents that he can't drive me around anymore. That would be the bigger problem I would have anyway, not the fact that he can't drive me. More the reason WHY he can't drive me. Why did you get into so many car accidents OP? That tells me that you're not a very responsible driver. This would also bug me. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 My question is, say I start going out with a girl whose between 17-20 who can drive, would it not be able to work out if she picked me up for our late night trips? No doubt it would be embarrassing to me, but would a girl even bother with that? if you're pretty good looking you could probably pull it off Link to post Share on other sites
Author Da Escobar Posted June 2, 2010 Author Share Posted June 2, 2010 I hate to be the only one to say this...but this would bug me. I am traditional and old fashioned and I don't find it "sexist" that I want a guy to do things like drive and pay on dates. It's 2010, but men and women are still different. Until it's possible for a man to have a baby, I will always see things this way, too. I like to feel taken care of in a way by men. I also like my man to be responsible enough to not get into so many car accidents that he can't drive me around anymore. That would be the bigger problem I would have anyway, not the fact that he can't drive me. More the reason WHY he can't drive me. Why did you get into so many car accidents OP? That tells me that you're not a very responsible driver. This would also bug me. Wow, you seem to imply a lot from me talking about one car crash (however detrimental to peoples views of me as a driver and my wallet). Besides that one crash, and the fact that I have a bad habit of wearing away my breaks at times, I think I'm a decent driver (though, admittedly I have moments of lapsed attention). Drivings the only thing thou, I am completely willing to spend whatever money I need to on a girl if she's worth it (and will even go as far as to borrow from friends, which is pretty bad in my opinion). if you're pretty good looking you could probably pull it off Haha I think I can do it. Anyway, if the girl isn't interested enough to pick me up when I need it (not all the time, of course), then why should I bother anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Maxxx Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 My gf has a nicer car then I do. When we drive in her car I am the one behind the steering wheel I just hand her the keys when we get to where ever we are going... she always hand me the keys when we get to her car and I drive. So what I am saying is ask if it would be cool if you drove your dates car... Same with me and most of the time if we take her car someplace she hands me the keys. I never asked for this it is just what she does. But I don't mind if she wants to drive either makes no difference to me. Link to post Share on other sites
KismetGirl Posted June 11, 2010 Share Posted June 11, 2010 if the biggest problem in a dating scenario at 18 is that you havent got a car you're fine To be honest when I was 17-20 I think it was nice to have a guy pick me up, but I certainly never refused a date just because he didnt have a car. I often drive on dates, particularly as I live in a city where many people don't bother owning cars. Now, I will say that if a guy doesn't have a car because he is a lazy bum with no ambition who can't be bothered to get a job, that is another thing altogether, but that has nothing to do with the lack of car itself. So, assuming you aren't a big jerk and all else in your world is well, the lack of current vehicle shouldnt be an issue. Though I don't know where you live and I realize in other places in the country people need cars to get around.... But I gotta tell you, if you met a chick who refused to date you solely on the basis of your not having a car she's a shallow bimbo and I'd look else where anyway. tata. Link to post Share on other sites
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