NoIDidn't Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Whoa! I did NOT just read that! Are you saying that one spouse's insecurity can really be used as a justification for cheating? I'm saying that it will be the excuse used, not that its justified. There is a difference. A woman is married to a man that acts like he can't let her out of his sight to enjoy time with her friends will be annoyed with his need to watch her. That same man needing constant validation of how "manly" he is will add to it. Basically, the woman is giving up a lot to stay in the R with Insecure Guy and he is taking much more emotionally than he is giving. I'm not saying that the cheating is right, or justified - but its understandable when the person isn't ready to leave or doesn't want to leave the Insecure One. I know I rambled but I hope you get the gist of what I'm saying. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 uh, sorry, there is a difference between being subjected to a temptation and having a weakness for that temptation. I'm tempted all the time, I don't, however, have a weakness to them. To say you have a weakness says that its something you really want and you have to check yourself otherwise you just may very well partake. boom, thanks for proving my point. you are married, it shouldn't get to a certain point whether your husband is around or not. being married should be what keeps you from dancing with other men, not the fear of what you will do if he is not around. that is contrary to what you said above. Either its likely you will take things further, or its not......make up your mind. as long as you don't go dancing I suppose, because your H won't be around and that temptation is just too strong for you. rather than breaking up with them? excuses, excuses. nobody is talking about being present with their SO at all times. I had a gf that went on a trip with other women to go Christmas shopping and stay in a hotel, all other women were married, and she didn't go out and buy sexy lingerie for the trip either.........didn't bother me...call me kooky:o Dexter, this will be my last post to you as you obviously lack a full command of the English language. Weakness and temptation are practically interchangeable in the fashion that I am using them. You are basing your ridiculous rant on that one deliberate misreading. I hope it was good for you. To Ignore you go! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Dexter' date=' this will be my last post to you as you obviously lack a full command of the English language.[/quote'] nice try cupcake Weakness and temptation are practically interchangeable in the fashion that I am using them. no, its interchangeable with YOU because of the way YOU are. I said there is a difference between being subjected to temptation, and having a weakness for them. you have that weakness, others do not. temptation and a weakness in handling temptation is not the same thing. Seems you are the one in need of ENG 101.....or ENG 099, the remedial college starter course. You are basing your ridiculous rant on that one deliberate misreading. no misreading about it. you have a weakness for dancing with other men and you yourself said you fear things would go further if your H wasn't around if you were dancing with them....in other words, you have no control. This is something your husband should be very concerned about and I feel sorry for him. To Ignore you go! works for me;) Link to post Share on other sites
Jack & Coke Posted July 2, 2010 Share Posted July 2, 2010 So how'd it go? Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted July 3, 2010 Share Posted July 3, 2010 I think this tread was a joke. Movie, "The Baxter" was about a clueless guy with a fiance that was cheating and flaunting men right in front of his face. The character's name was Baxter. Too much coincidence I think. Besides why continue to post when the original poster is no longer here? Link to post Share on other sites
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