Bluedestiny Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 I'm in my 30's and currently going through a divorce. There's a cute guy at my gym that I've gotten to know, and I worked up my nerve to send him an email asking him to go out on a date. (He is getting seperated from his wife) The email started out fine, we were going back and forth. Then he asked me if I wanted to "hook-up". He confessed that he's had 3 "flings" with other women, and that he doesn't want anything serious just a "friends with benefits" situation and if I'm OK with that and that it would be just physical and not emotional and if I'm OK with being "used". I told him I'm not sure I'd want to be used, although I'm not looking for anything serious either and I'm really attracted to him. Help! Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 What help do you need? He's stated his position pretty clearly. He's married, just looking for some....action.....while he's seperated. What he's stating is what he wants. You stated that you'd probably not be comfortable with that. So he's cute...there are a lot of us cute guys out there...dodge the potential disaster of hooking up with this one and wait for the next one. Link to post Share on other sites
Lecturer Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 Hookups/FWB are fine (although they nearly always end in someone hurt, usually the woman). That said, you started the dialog with him asking him on a date - not meaningless sex. Then, instead of seeing what he said and thinking "yeah, actually, that sounds pretty good", you came on here because you weren't sure. For these reasons I get the impression you are not looking for what he is looking for. I have to advise against this. BTW, this might not be right sub-forum for this Link to post Share on other sites
califnan Posted June 2, 2010 Share Posted June 2, 2010 I believe that intimacy is for marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Iconoclast Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 You're almost divorced....meaning married. He's getting separated...meaning married, and probably lying. Just a little patience. You'll feel better about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Tommy's Girl Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 I believe that intimacy is for marriage. Refreshing. Just think of how many problems would never happen if everyone kept intimacy for marriage only. LS would be dead. Link to post Share on other sites
Samantha0905 Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 Refreshing. Just think of how many problems would never happen if everyone kept intimacy for marriage only. LS would be dead. Maybe so. Maybe not. I'm assuming one assumes if sexual relations were only left for marriage and marriage alone, intimacy would exist? Is that "intimacy" for marriage only? Noun 1. intimacy - close or warm friendship; "the absence of fences created a mysterious intimacy in which no one knew privacy" Wow -- how about that definition?..... I'd like to enjoy that quoted version of intimacy. Link to post Share on other sites
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