theedge Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Hello all, Just wondering what people do, when it comes to increasing self esteem. I met someone online a few weeks ago. When we 1st started chatting, she was evaisive and told me little about her. I never pressure people in to telling me anything, when they want to they will. Anyway, we have chatted online a few times and I tend to be nervous around women. This particular girl seemed so closed off, I almost instantly took it as not interested. After a few chats she became more open, but I was still nervous. I had the bonus of her not being able to see me. I noticed she took a lot of pictures with a webcam and she was very attractive. I asked her if she wanted to view each other as I had one too. After we turned our cams on I started making horrible typos and she said I was typing horrible that night. Then as the conversation kept going she asked "whats wrong with you?....are you nervous?" I told her I was, she was nice about it and kept saying, come on just breathe and relax. Still I had such a concern about my look(not that I am ugly) it made it difficult to have a conversation lol Another question I have is that I think she is really attractive and want to convey interest in dating potential. I am usually the type to not say anything, and either the person never realizes or or just considers me a friend only. Now we have been chatting a week or so, hasn't elevated to phone and who knows if she will bring it to that level. I have already told her she is attractive as an off hand comment(she seems a bit on the lower self esteem boat too, she hasn't really expressed much interest in that sense. Regardless, should I pose this question and just get an answer so I don't string myself along while all along she has no interest? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Absolutely. Don't ask her for an evening date; ask to meet her someplace for coffee. Definitely go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Venéa Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Of course you should - once you get over the initial worry of asking her on a first date, it'll flow much easier! Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
asdfg Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Yea just go ask her out for lunch, or coffee like the other guy said. You have nothing to lose, and only something to gain. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted January 28, 2004 Share Posted January 28, 2004 Lunch, coffee, just not anything like a nice restruant, not on a first date. Link to post Share on other sites
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