why do people romanticize a relationship that didn't end well???

[kara]

Any ideas? Is this your experience as well?

[thefunkisalive]

Hey there,

 

I just figure it to be my ming playing the "what if" game. You know, "what if that didn't happen like that and what if it went like this." Because we had or have strong feelings about some people, and we might think to far in advance with the relationship. Like the song "Castles in the Sky" if you havent heard you should try and find it! I also beleive that it is mostly people like you and I that are a little more creative than the norm and have great imaginations that go through this enough for us to ask ourselves the question you asked. I see it as harmless and let my mind wander freely with it.

[Venéa]

Definitely. When you have shared your life with someone for a long time, and loved them completely. When you split up, despite how rotten the circumstances may be, you are always going to wonder "What if this happened...would things be better now?" It's harmless, and seems to end when you're over that person anyway (and have a new partner to think about and romanticize )