Is 2 weeks too long for second date??

[cantstandya]

Ultimately I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do but I figured I'd try to see other people's opinions.. (preferably a girls opinion)

 

Met a girl off of an internet dating site.. We texted for a few weeks before finally meeting up this week.. The date went well.. No lulls in conversation and I feel like we made a slight connection.. She's cute and friendly and seems like a good catch..

 

Throughout the date she mentioned me possibly seeing her place in the future and also said if i ever wanted to check out any of the places in her area she would be willing to explore.. (since we're both kind of new to the area..) We set up a 2nd date the following day through text messages but it's not until next weekend..

 

I think if I were most guys I'd be happy with the situation but I tend to over think things.. Even though we have a date set up for next saturday (10 days away) is it ok for me to call before then?? She's pretty busy which is fine, I am busy as well.. (not as busy as her but still have a lot of stuff on my plate..) I wanna show interest but I don't wanna seem "too" interested, because that'll send her runnin for the hills.. What to do, what to do.. Call over weekend just to say hi?? text instead?? Or skip the weekend text and just wait til the night before??

 

thanks

James

[xRJ85x]

Actually, I'm in this situation too. Not a second date, but actually a first. A girl I met lives an hour away, so really only weekends are best for dates. I called her this past Monday and we scheduled a first date for Sunday (so 6 days apart). So far we haven't talked to each other since then, but I'm gonna text or call her about a couple details of meeting up. So basically how long is too long between dates, and should we be talking between them if it's the first or second time?

 

Not to threadjack OP, as you can see we're in almost the same situation.

[Bogo123]

I had a second date set for 2 weeks cause I had final exams. What I did was text her every couple days, just enough to keep the momentum going but not so much that it annoys her. Our second date went well. You definitely want to contact her though, whether its through texting or calling. Stay on her radar, especially since she's most likely got other guys messaging her online. Too long of a period of no contact and the good feelings she has associated with you might fade.

[cantstandya]

dang.. my first thread is THREADJACKED!! lol nah it's all good..

 

Your situation is a tough one too.. You can always just send a text (which is pretty non-threatening) a few days before just asking how her week has been going.. Or call, whichever you prefer and think you'll less likely mess up.. No harm in just asking how their week is going.. IMO..

[cantstandya]

I had a second date set for 2 weeks cause I had final exams. What I did was text her every couple days, just enough to keep the momentum going but not so much that it annoys her. Our second date went well. You definitely want to contact her though, whether its through texting or calling. Stay on her radar, especially since she's most likely got other guys messaging her online. Too long of a period of no contact and the good feelings she has associated with you might fade.

 

Staying on the radar is definitely a good way of putting it.. I'm thinking 3 days is a good time period.. Shows I have stuff going on and I'm not obsessing over her but am still interested in how she's doing..

If she's gonna date someone else she's gonna date someone else and there's nothing I could do to stop it.. I might as well "poke my head in" once or twice before the second date, just to bring back the good feelings she has associated with me..

 

Ugghh dating is awful..

[Confusedalways]

Ultimately I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do but I figured I'd try to see other people's opinions.. (preferably a girls opinion)

 

Met a girl off of an internet dating site.. We texted for a few weeks before finally meeting up this week.. The date went well.. No lulls in conversation and I feel like we made a slight connection.. She's cute and friendly and seems like a good catch..

 

Throughout the date she mentioned me possibly seeing her place in the future and also said if i ever wanted to check out any of the places in her area she would be willing to explore.. (since we're both kind of new to the area..) We set up a 2nd date the following day through text messages but it's not until next weekend..

 

I think if I were most guys I'd be happy with the situation but I tend to over think things.. Even though we have a date set up for next saturday (10 days away) is it ok for me to call before then?? She's pretty busy which is fine, I am busy as well.. (not as busy as her but still have a lot of stuff on my plate..) I wanna show interest but I don't wanna seem "too" interested, because that'll send her runnin for the hills.. What to do, what to do.. Call over weekend just to say hi?? text instead?? Or skip the weekend text and just wait til the night before??

 

thanks

James

 

I'm a girl- it went well! She's obviously into you. It would be nice to shoot her a text to "stay on her radar," absolutely. What I would do personally is be like "oh my gosh, I just saw ____" and mention something you may have talked about on the date. Even if you didn't actually see it, I'm really guilty of doing this to guys. For example, I talked a lot to this guy about how this one restaurant near me drives me crazy because of how overrated it is. So, I might text something like "my cousin just dragged me out to (restaurant), if only she knew!" Or something along those lines.

 

This does 3 things:

1. Shows you remembered some little thing you talked about

2. Keeps you on the radar

3. Shows that you're thinking, but not obsessing about them

 

good luck, it sounds like it went really well!

[Confusedalways]

Actually, I'm in this situation too. Not a second date, but actually a first. A girl I met lives an hour away, so really only weekends are best for dates. I called her this past Monday and we scheduled a first date for Sunday (so 6 days apart). So far we haven't talked to each other since then, but I'm gonna text or call her about a couple details of meeting up. So basically how long is too long between dates, and should we be talking between them if it's the first or second time?

 

Not to threadjack OP, as you can see we're in almost the same situation.

 

First dates are tricky. Six days apart, I mean there's nothing you can do about two people who live far apart and are busy during the week. I think a nice "looking forward to seeing you sunday, here are the details" text would suffice. Communication will become key between dates as you go into the second!

[Sivok]

Definitely keep up the flirty text messages and maybe call if something you texted leads to a story. In my experience, 'staying on the radar' and maintaining that connection after the first date is extremely important - else the 2nd date would just feel like another first date

[xRJ85x]

First dates are tricky. Six days apart, I mean there's nothing you can do about two people who live far apart and are busy during the week. I think a nice "looking forward to seeing you sunday, here are the details" text would suffice. Communication will become key between dates as you go into the second!

 

Thanks, I was thinking of doing that.

[cantstandya]

I'm a girl- it went well! She's obviously into you. It would be nice to shoot her a text to "stay on her radar," absolutely. What I would do personally is be like "oh my gosh, I just saw ____" and mention something you may have talked about on the date. Even if you didn't actually see it, I'm really guilty of doing this to guys. For example, I talked a lot to this guy about how this one restaurant near me drives me crazy because of how overrated it is. So, I might text something like "my cousin just dragged me out to (restaurant), if only she knew!" Or something along those lines.

 

This does 3 things:

1. Shows you remembered some little thing you talked about

2. Keeps you on the radar

3. Shows that you're thinking, but not obsessing about them

 

good luck, it sounds like it went really well!

 

Wow.. Nice wording.. It was nice to see you say she was obviously into me.. I was thinking of doing something similar to what you do.. We made plans tuesday but i guess i'll wait til tomorrow afternoon to follow up..

 

 

Sivok.. that's good advice as well.. Gotta keep the momentum going..

 

thanks guys

[ConflictedGuy27]

"keeping the momentum going" by popping up with a call or text may work just fine; but you should also appreciate the anticipation built by staying silent.

 

In my opinion, 2 weeks between dates is a bit long, if you seriously don't have things going on.

 

I'd suggest backing off once that date is scheduled to give you things to actually discuss during your next date.

 

Plus, if there's any real interest, she'll reach out and contact you if you're silent enough after you've made plans that far in advance.

 

I have no online dating experience, so perhaps I'm off base; but traditionally, once the date is set and considering you built enough attraction leading up to making the plan you'll do well to leave her alone.

[cantstandya]

touche.. I see where you're coming from.. It's a little different though since it's her bday this weekend, which I forgot to mention.. I suggested that we hang out on a weekend night since she is a teacher and we had to pack it in at 12ish.. I knew her bday was this weekend and she probably had plans already so I kind of phrased it for next weekend and she went with it. It kind of blows but atleast it's a date..