Parlanchina Posted June 3, 2010 Share Posted June 3, 2010 (edited) Hello all, I'm new, Please call me Parlanchina and I would be very grateful if you would spare a moment to advice me... Sorry if my English is a little lopsided. I'm 25 years old and I have a wonderful boyfriend, my Federico (27). We have a relationship for 4 years now and he is the best person that I have ever chosen to be with. The one problem that we have is my sickening jealous tendencies that seems to really, really frustrates him. I am jealous when he talks to other girls. I have no idea why. I hate it when he laughs with them and even when he smiles at them. I don't know where this stems from as he almost always spends time with me, spends some of his free time (when he is not working hard on his biologist degree) and our sex life is so good. TMI, sorry. He is so kind and gentle and supremely understanding, but when I get to the point that I am in my 'obsessive paranoia' as he calls it, he seems to snap and raises his voice to me and withdraws from me, causing me to feel more isolated from him. The ironic thing is I have no problem AT ALL when he goes on trips and go to parties with his guy friends. I am all up for his GUY TIME. I love it when he goes with them and have fun with them. But when he goes to parties together with other girls (biology majors too), I feel so anxious and my heart almost collapses. This isn't normal... My heart feels heavy with fear that they will see what a rare guy he is and that they will want them for their own. I always make him feel guilty when he hangs out with his female friends whether for his monthly group research papers or when some girl invites him to a party outside the school. It's just I am so scared he will see them 'cuter' or 'sexier' or 'funnier' than me. That he will like their curly hair better or that he would want her around because she's so much more interesting. I would sincerely be grateful for anything you can impart... Edited June 3, 2010 by Parlanchina Link to post Share on other sites
fazz Posted July 29, 2010 Share Posted July 29, 2010 im sorry i ant help but but just thinking to share... i have exactly the same problem. Love my guy and he is the best compared to all my exes....but the problem is he is too nice and he has been single for 2 yrs before and most of his friends are single girls.....and they are friends... and the problem is he is being too nice and not really good in saying NO and of course all these girls are all over him. I kinda believe that there's nothing between him and them and he always want me to come when he meet them...but just the way he greet and laugh and spend time with them making me soo jealous. jealous to death. Its so funny that i clearly not enjoying the scene, but i need to share his existence w those girls and why would i do that either...because its painfull to see him being surrounded by girls!! seriously...... wtf... Ive been thinking for a while maybe i should trust him and just let him go...i dont wanna see those anymore coz it hurts me. I dont know who is crazy here. his social circle is indeed not common and hostile for his girlfriend...... i just dont know....because like what happened to you, he snapped at me because actually its all abt my insecurities but WTF i'm so normal to react that way considering his abnormal social circle? I dont know.....(( Link to post Share on other sites
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