Lindsey Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 I ran my first 5K in April and thought about running the 5K for this race tomorrow. Well I figured why not just do the 20K! I've been working on running more and can get up to 9 miles right now. The biggest problem isn't physical for me, it's mental! I'm so anxious right now and not in a good way. I'm so worried about how things are going to go tomorrow, not just during the race but personal things around the race. The biggest factor is my H. One of the things that he agreed to in working on our marriage is to start supporting me in things like this. He attended my first 5K because I told him there is nothing more I'd rather see at the finish line than him. I ran that in 30 minutes so he didn't have to wait that long for me. This race is different. I'm estimating about 2 1/2 hours but the bus to drive to the start leaves between 1 and 2 hours before the race. My H is dropping me off to catch the bus but either has to wait around for me or go home and then have to come back and find a place to park after things have got busier (the finish is in our downtown and the farmer's market is going on too). I'm worried that he'll just get pissed from having to wait or if he comes back that he won't be able to find his way, not be able to find a parking spot, etc. I know my H, these are the kind of things that will set him off! But he says he wants to be there for me... I don't know why I'm letting this bother me so much! I'm also getting pressure from some of the guys at work. H is on a flag football team with the guys at work (we work together). There practice is at 11 tomorrow also. He originally told them that he wasn't going to practice because he's going to be with me. He can make the practice I just think he doesn't want to go. So I've had to hear it from the guys at work about how it's my fault! UGH! I don't really need this! He finally told them today that he was going to make practice but I'm still hearing how he should skip the race so he can make it to practice on time! All I want to do is shout to them that this is HIS part in working on our marriage! I just needed to vent! I shouldn't be this stressed out the day before the race but this has all been piling on all week. I don't want to be at work, I cannot even concentrate! I just want to relax! Link to post Share on other sites
tman666 Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 Well, I'm no relationship expert, but as long as you've communicated to him (keep in mind, communication involves the other person understanding your message, and that us guys can be awfully thick sometimes) that it's important to you for him to support you in the race, in my opinion, he should skip his lame-o flag football practice and go and cheer you on. Better yet, he should be running with you. One thing I know with certainty is that it's hard to meet your physical goals if you associate yourself with people that do not share in or respect those goals. It might be best in this situation to leave him out of the picture (i.e. catch a ride with a friend or take a different bus) so that you can focus on your goal independently of what explicit or implied "timeline" he's put on you. Link to post Share on other sites
GrayClouds Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 (edited) If you want him their, tell him he is important to you and having him there matters to you and would mean a great deal if he came to coach you on. Then reward good behavior, ignore bad. ( also remember this is suppose to be fun, and if you do not make it fun for you is will be absolutely no fun for him. It is just a race, your not going to win it, there is no prize money, but you can have fun and if not why do it.) Edited June 4, 2010 by GrayClouds Link to post Share on other sites
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