Mac91 Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 An hour away, would that be long distance? Lol I might be dating this girl... but she and I are in two different universities... and, we both don't have cars so... I dunno, anyone been in the same situation? Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 Well it's all relative really. Some people drive over an hour to work and back every day so my thoughts are 'no' this isn't really long distance. Presumably there are trains or buses so you can travel to be together at weekends? I'm not sure it really matters what the definition of a LDR is anyway. If you like the girl, you want to date her and seeing each other at weekends (if you can) works for both of you then go for it. What have you got to lose? Good luck, hope it works out for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 heck no. Try dating someone on a different continent/hemisphere. Story of my life;) Anywhere that can be gotten to within a day is not long distance. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 heck no. Try dating someone on a different continent/hemisphere. Story of my life;) LOL Same here! A 30 hour flight really sucks!!! Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted June 5, 2010 Share Posted June 5, 2010 Yeah I agree with Little Tiger and Pyro. It takes me about 10 hours by plane to get my boyfriend who lives in another country, so a hour isn't a LDR to me. You can take a bus or a train to someone who lives a hour away, it's really not that far. Anyway, if you really like her, go for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mac91 Posted June 5, 2010 Author Share Posted June 5, 2010 Ok thanks guys, well, she agreed to go out with me tomorrow. So, if all works out, I just wanted to plan for the future... just in case and the bus routes are like 4 hours... but I think i can get my roomate to drive me or something haha. Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 Don't listen to these people. Personally I think someone who lives on another continent is CRAZY, not LDR. So there. My bf lives about seven hours from me driving, and even though there are flights to airports near him, he isn't in a big city so he has to drive 30 min to an hour to pick me up at an airport nearby. It is definitely difficult. I call a LDR a R in which you can't see each other frequently -- maybe you live horribly far apart, or maybe you just don't have good transportation to see each other regularly, or maybe you can't afford to hop a plane/train/auto to see her. You can make it work if you want it to, though. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 OP, having done this, both the intercontinental and 'hour drive' versions, to me, if I can't easily and conveniently personally interact with my love interest, it's LDR. IOW, if I have to 'plan' a 'trip', it's LDR. My wife (stbx now) lived about an hour away (60+miles) by car, but we saw each other other, sometimes multiple times per week. It started out as a 'LDR' but quickly adjusted to a relatively normal dating and engagement dynamic. If I were having to drive to SoCal (about 200-250 miles) every weekend, or fly, that, to me, would be a true LDR. Hope it works out Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 Don't listen to these people. Personally I think someone who lives on another continent is CRAZY, not LDR. So there. My bf lives about seven hours from me driving, and even though there are flights to airports near him, he isn't in a big city so he has to drive 30 min to an hour to pick me up at an airport nearby. It is definitely difficult. I call a LDR a R in which you can't see each other frequently -- maybe you live horribly far apart, or maybe you just don't have good transportation to see each other regularly, or maybe you can't afford to hop a plane/train/auto to see her. You can make it work if you want it to, though. Err, I don't see how the airport being 30 min away warrants driving instead of flying. Unless finances are a big issue and you don't have cheap domestic flights there. Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 Don't listen to these people. Personally I think someone who lives on another continent is CRAZY, not LDR. So there. If you saw and met who I am with then you would see that she is worth every moment that we are temporarily apart. Link to post Share on other sites
LittleTiger Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 If you saw and met who I am with then you would see that she is worth every moment that we are temporarily apart. Ditto! :love: Except mine is a 'he'! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyro Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 Ditto! :love: Except mine is a 'he'! they say that good men/women are hard to find and that is true for us. Link to post Share on other sites
carvidep Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 I call a LDR a R in which you can't see each other frequently -- maybe you live horribly far apart, or maybe you just don't have good transportation to see each other regularly, or maybe you can't afford to hop a plane/train/auto to see her. You can make it work if you want it to, though. I am in a transatlantic LDR but I have to say that I do agree with stace79 on this one. If you're only an hour apart but your schedules rarely line up, you can go through a lot of the same emotions that us longer distance kids do. Hopefully you won't have that problem. Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 Err, I don't see how the airport being 30 min away warrants driving instead of flying. Unless finances are a big issue and you don't have cheap domestic flights there. The challenge is that the airports near him are little podunk airports, not major cities like Atlanta or New York or LA. To get to him, I have only a few options. I can drive seven hours to get there, but I lease my car so I worry about going over my mileage. I can fly into one of two regional airports for a somewhat reasonable price, but he has to drive an hour or more to get me. Or I can fly into his local airport (which is TINY), and I pay an exorbitant fare. Also when I fly to his local airport, it almost always is as long a trip as driving, because I have to change planes in Atlanta. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 Tip for flying into 'podunk' airports on the cheap: Earn miles from non-flying activity and fly on award tickets. Also, if you shop selectively, podunk airports can be great cost-saving centers because their fares are subsidized. I fly out of one regularly which only has one airline and one destination, San Francisco. Make lemonade, meaning make the system work for you and your LDR. IMO, there are very few places in the world which can't be reached reasonably. I flew from that little airport to Singapore for 665.00 last November, as an example. No LDR prospects there but the scenery was nice Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 The challenge is that the airports near him are little podunk airports, not major cities like Atlanta or New York or LA. To get to him, I have only a few options. I can drive seven hours to get there, but I lease my car so I worry about going over my mileage. I can fly into one of two regional airports for a somewhat reasonable price, but he has to drive an hour or more to get me. Or I can fly into his local airport (which is TINY), and I pay an exorbitant fare. Also when I fly to his local airport, it almost always is as long a trip as driving, because I have to change planes in Atlanta. My boyfriend lives in a small town and we have this same issue. To get to him I have to fly for 5 hours to Edmonton, then take a hour flight to the small city nearby which only has like 4 flights a day, and then a 30 minute drive to his town. Tickets to and from the big airport in Edmonton to the smaller one come out to like $200 on average, but it beats the alternative of having to drive 4 1/2 hours each way. Anyway I believe that love conquers all, and if you really want to be with someone you will find a way to make it work. Or at least that's always been my experience. Link to post Share on other sites
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