Alcoholic Mom

[Melodylove]

Hello,

yeah I know there are many topics or just websites on google about alcoholic moms but none didn't match mine.

My issue is not living with an alcoholic mother and having problems with her or she was in rehab and still is alcoholic.

I think I have one of those unique problems. Since I was 15 I've read many books about alcohol or alcoholic mothers but nothing didn't quite gave me the one help I need with my mom.

So I'm asking you about the problem if someone can help me

 

So this is my story.

I was born to an alcoholic mother but we had a beatiful family. My father is everything I have and I love him and I would die for him but unfortunately my mother is someone who I hate and disgust and can't stand out.

When I was about 6 months she started to abuse me and terrorise me (sorry for my bad english but my first language I speak is not english) but then when I was 4 she ran away with another guy whom she loved and who was perfect for her. Because my dady doesn't drink alcohol and when he drinks, then really only sometimes and only few drinks.

My parents divorced when I was 6 and I had every 2 weekend to spend with her. At first I really liked it she was cool a great mom but then later when I've started to realise how cruel and full of hate is I've didn't wanted to visit her again. But I didn't had the strenght to say her, that I don't like her so I was suffering her brutality. She never hit me when my parents divorced (though she was doing it still in the marriage) but she was talking to me nasty and called me really bad names like idiot, stupid girl, dumb and many others. I've always came home to dad and was crying. He thought I'm just too emotional that's all.

When I was 13 she gave birth to my little sister ( we have the same mother but different father) and my sister is everything to me, my little angel. Since she was born I've stopped visiting her at weekends and this is where she got mad and didn't spoke to me for 2 years.

I visit her mom (my granny) but only when she's not there.

Here comes a big problem. She abuses my little sister too and does the same to her too and I don't want that

she drinks every day and night and has depths and problems. The police is searching for her and even some mafia and other ones and everything comes through me. Every call and every police visit comes through me because I have the same surname as she uses now and it's really bad for me. I want some pause from her but I can't. She's still there and she always be. When she dies all of her depth goes on me and my little sister.

Sometimes when she's too drunk (I've never seen her sober since my sister was born) she's emotional and cries and promises us a good futuer but that's all...Only plain words I just want my mommy to hug me and say 'I love you'

I really want some advice and please don't tell me about the rehab, because she doesn't see herself as alcoholic so she can't go againts her own will.

please help me I want it a stop

[candymoon]

Oh Melody. What a mess and sorry you're going through it.

 

There is not much help to be given to an alcoholic when they don't want help. All you can do is keep your distance as you have.

 

I know that part of you still wants her mother as someone who loves her and not this sick addict who cant love anybody. But that won't change until she hits rock bottom with the booze.

 

That being said, Your sister now really concerns me. Your mother is being searched for by the police? Is it possible you can secretly call the police and tell them where she is? No one will have to know it is you who called. Being in jail will dry her out temporarily... and get your sister away from her and into a social service program. Perhaps you, as the next of kin (if her father is not able) can raise her while your mom is away.

 

If you can't call the police there has to be a child services in your area to call and let them know the problem. Those services are anonymous too and no one will know you called. This way your sister gets away from her without your mom having to go to jail.

 

Hope things look up for you soon.