The Greatest Love Story Ever Told

[baldtel]

I wanted to share this with people. I thought it was going to have this hollywood-style happy ending (maybe it still will), but this LDR has been the most amazing and horrible thing I have ever gone through.

 

I'm not a love struck teenager, but a 32 yr old man, who only found his first true love at 28yrs.

 

http://www.thegreatestlovestoryevertold.com/

 

As it stands, Kelli just deleted her facebook account last week.

 

Just so much unnecessary drama. And there really was not need to be.

 

Any advise and feedback is welcome, but I am so worn out by the whole thing.

[baldtel]

Do you mind paraphrasing what happened? I only read the last few entries, but there are a lot of posts to go through!

 

Wow. Summed up.

 

Okay, we met online. Spoke online, webcammed etc etc.

 

I flew out to meet her in the middle of ass end Oklahoma, and I didnt even have an address. Just the town she lived in.

 

Found her.

 

We spent the best 12 days together. Came home sad.

 

She said we should get married. I agreed.

 

Then all the crap happened. Not hearing from her for weeks and months. (this happens ALOT) Find out she has been lying about stuff. Says her lifes a mess.

 

Fortune Tellers ALL say she is the one(taken with a pinch of salt), but her actions say otherwise. I thought she was/is the one. She says I am the one.

 

I cant understand her actions. Why not just disappear? Why keep coming back? I offer nothing unless we are together, which I cannot do, without her. And its what she says SHE wants.

[carvidep]

oh my this is just not a happy situation. I hate being the bearer of bad news (which you can take as only my opinion if you prefer) but the fortune tellers are throwing you for a loop, and so is she. She is most likely NOT the one for you. The one for you is one that does not lie or disappear for months- on multiple occasions.

 

You should be in a relationship in which your heart is happy, not broken.

[aerogurl87]

I agree with carvidep, I've read your blog (well up to part 11 so far) and this girl is just taking you for a ride. She disappears for weeks and months on end, throws random tantrums and cuts you out of her life, but all the while you still stick around. Reminds me of this song called All the Same by the Sick Puppies. And althought it sounds romantic being the white knight come to save your love from herself, in reality it's not very healthy for your psyche. True love doesn't hurt, it only makes you feel alive and happy even when things aren't great because you don't have to worry about your partner leaving you or letting go when things get rough.

[Spiritofnow]

I couldn't agree more with carvidep and aerogurl, and I don't have any more to add, apart from highlighting that the challenges we face in life can be used to make us stronger and wordly-wise if we include the precept of not repeating a behaviour that actually only serves as a source of continual pain and does us more harm than good.

 

Perhaps, its time to choose wisely for yourself.

[BettyBoop]

I cant understand her actions. Why not just disappear? Why keep coming back? I offer nothing unless we are together, which I cannot do, without her. And its what she says SHE wants.

 

I read your entire blog, Terry, and I really do feel for you. You seem like a great guy. Behaviour like that would have made me marry you in a heartbeat - or thought you were a crazy stalker... anyhow.

 

I was with my first love for 4 years on and off. I kept coming back. Sending emails, breaking up, sending emails, calling etc etc...not because I really wanted him - I just didn't want him to be with anyone else, to no longer want me. I think Kelli has the same reasons by the looks of it.

 

She doesn't really want you - if she did, she would, just like you have, done anything to be with you. She wants you to feed her ego - to know she is still desirable by you. At least that is what I think.

 

Do yourself a favor and stop asking questions. She won't let you go - so you must let her go. Honestly, if she really was your twin half - would she really be doing this to you, had been doing it for 4 years? If that is what a twin half does - then I don't want to find mine!

[baldtel]

thanks for this people.

 

I know that everyone is right. Between the fortune telling, the words that came out of her mouth, and her being everything I had ever asked God for in a woman, I guess I was being stubborn. Alittle.

 

She is the only girl I ever wanted anything to go anywhere with. The only one I have ever opened up to and the only one that fancied me, that I actually fancied back.

 

Her mouth said one thing, and her actions said another. I figured once she had gotten out of Oklahoma and away from bad influences, it would work out, but I guess I was wrong.

 

Sure, I know for a guy, in theory, its easy to go out and get another girl.

I would just like to point out that though all the bad stuff happened, she still had a lot of the qualities that I found desirable in a possible partner. So I feel like it is difficult to move on, not necessarily from her, but from what she represented.

 

I'm 33 in a few weeks and I have never met anyone that came close as it did with her.

 

I have been attracted to a few people since we were together last, but I cannot get the green light and open up. She's the only one that made me feel like that.

[RegardingMe]

Truth is I don't believe anyone else will ever measure up. I know when I met my special person, my miracle, first time true love, the reality of him didn't measure up the to the fantasty. I will tell you the first time I met my true love in person there was a zing! I got to marry my true love.

 

The reality is....I would like to believe that if we met in person we would be togather. I am not sure we would. We were both able to open up and be our authentic selves, we probably wouldn't have in person.

 

However, we were honest with each other. Would he have been the right one if he was pretending?

[Lovin a scrapper]

It is unfortunate for you that these things have happened but being born and raised in Oklahoma, Im not appreciating how you are coming across with your words about my home so its hard to feel to damn bad about what went down with you and her.

 

I may even be from "ass end" Oklahoma. I would be careful what you write if I was you. You never know who is reading.

 

Jeff

[Lovin a scrapper]

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I may even be from "ass end" Oklahoma.

 

I did take as "ass end" was the town in Oklahoma.

[baldtel]

It is unfortunate for you that these things have happened but being born and raised in Oklahoma, Im not appreciating how you are coming across with your words about my home so its hard to feel to damn bad about what went down with you and her.

 

I may even be from "ass end" Oklahoma. I would be careful what you write if I was you. You never know who is reading.

 

Jeff

 

Hi Jeff

 

Sorry you were offended.

 

'Ass end' is refered to in the UK as being in the middle of nowhere. I myself, live in the 'ass end of no-where' and it doesnt bother me at all. Upon driving to Granite from Oklahoma, I can confirm it was surrounded by a lot of land and there is not a lot for several miles in every direction.

 

Whether you care for the story or not, I guess is down to you. This is a story about a long term relationship not Oklahoma.

[torranceshipman]

33 is relatively young...ditch this girl as the longer you are with the wrong one, the less chance you having of bumping into Miss Right in that romantic little coffee shop

 

Seriously, true love does NOT feel like you do right now, and it does not ACT the way she does either. True love comes with respect, a wish to always see your partner happy, treating them with consideration and kindness, the idea that your partner is secure and safe in the love you have for them, that they come first and that they are so special to you, and thoughtfulness. She demonstrates none of that. The right girl is still out there

 

I was older than you when I met the love of my life and we are engaged now so don't worry - it will happen

[Lovin a scrapper]

Hi Jeff

 

Sorry you were offended.

 

'Ass end' is refered to in the UK as being in the middle of nowhere. I myself, live in the 'ass end of no-where' and it doesnt bother me at all. Upon driving to Granite from Oklahoma, I can confirm it was surrounded by a lot of land and there is not a lot for several miles in every direction.

 

Whether you care for the story or not, I guess is down to you. This is a story about a long term relationship not Oklahoma.

 

 

My apologies to you as well. I wear my emotions on my sleeve and I was out of line.

 

I know the trials and tribulations about LDR's, I have been in one for over two years. Thats why I come in here.

 

You say she was from Granite? Believe it or not that is very close to where I grew up. Ill admit there isnt a whole lot out that way unless you like rattlesnakes. The real ones. I wasnt making a crack on your situation.

 

I dont give advice on relationships, I leave that to more wise people on here but you seem like an honest and sincere person and I hope your situation works out for you just as you want and deserve.

 

Jeff