AvaSylvian Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 I fell in love with a man who is married but who has been separated for years. He is in the army and says that he hasn't gotten the divorce yet because he will lose the extra money for the marriage and he wants to make sure his daughter is taken care of financially. His wife doesn't work or anything. I bought all of this until I recently got saved and see that it is not biblical for me to be seeing this man. But I've fallen in love with him and my feelings are strong. I know it is wrong to be with him, but something in me wants to give our relationship a chance...despite the fact that he is still married. How can I get over this? I know it's best to leave him, but I really want to stay. Link to post Share on other sites
califnan Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 Even if he were divorced, it could be difficult with the first spouse always in your life.. But definitely walk away as long as he isn't free. Only after walking away, and starting to heal - will you know the relationship for what it was.. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 until he is legally free of marriage, he's taken. I know that's kinda turning it into a nutshell, but it doesn't sound like he's interested in divorce, even though he's not interested in his marriage either. I know he's doing the best he can by his child, but honestly? What business does he have starting up another relationship when he's already with someone? as a Christian, your responsibility is to leave this guy alone, because he can never be yours to date or keep as long as he remains married, your heart notwithstanding. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 What a sad and naive view of life to have. Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 If you feel you cannot walk away from him by your own strength, ask God to help you and reveal to you the truth. I believe God will give you strength and desires to do the right things. What you are doing right now isn't merely a matter of unbibilical, you are walking into a painful situation for yourself. You are a new beliver, probably you know there are a life of self-lead, and a life of God-lead which lead to an abundant life. At this tough moment, it is the best time to know how much God cares. Hope things will work out for you Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 You gave your life over to Christ. Follow scripture. God only wants what's best for you. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 Link to post Share on other sites
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