JSDR Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 okay me and my gf have been going out for about 2 years. We are having problems about almost a year ago i cheated on her. and that's where i F**** up really bad and i regret so much i just wish there was a time machine. i don't know what the hell i was thinking. i hate myself for that. but the only person you can blame is myself. But every since then im been trying my best to get her trust back. There is days where it seems like everything is okay but then there is also some bad days where she brings it up and that she doesnt trust me at all. Im just trying so hard to get that trust back. i clean the house, i cook, i jus mainly do what a girl wants in a man. jus the only thing that is not good is TRUST and i had it. Like when shes out doing her thing i always stay home. And when im home she doesnt think im home she thinks im some where else. but i always send her pictuers and i always text her of where im at sometimes i even send her videos threw my phone to her and it jus feels like that isnt enough. its like what else can i do? There is also times where i can NEVER go out and till this day i feel the same way. but for her she goes out every every weekend. Im jus asking how much do i got to do to get her trust back? There is times when i ask myself am i wasting my time? I jus dont know what to do anymore? The other thing about are relationship was there was a time were we wasnt together between the 2 years. it lasted for almost 3 weeks i can say. But what happen was when she started to go out with her friends alot she met some guy i guess and i remember her telling me she jus met someone and this was when she came home to me like at 6am in the morning and when she came home at that time it jus felt fishy so i jus didnt say anything. so a couple days pass and she finally told me that she met someone and i ask who and she wouldnt tell me so i jus found out myself. When i found out everything just went all bad so we end up taking a "break" but at the same time she would go hang out with this guy and still see me. which that didnt make scence at all. There was times where she went to hang out with him and then she would come to my house mainly for a booty call i guess but during that time it felt like we was trying to work things out but then she would still visit this person. The only thing she did with this person was kiss but who knows what else she did. When i was going threw this i jus gave up and didnt talk to her for a week. and i guess she found out i was going to the gym with a "FRIEND" (girl) and i guess she was getting all jealouse or whatever. but i didnt care cause she was still seeing the dude and she was just friend to go to the gym with. but the week when we werent talking felt pretty great i kept myself busy. So one morning i get a phone call at like 7am and she wanted to hang out and sleep. Then ever since then we have been trying to work it. Till this day there is some days where everything is good, but other days is bad. My question is why did you come back to me? if you was to come back to the person wouldnt you think that shows that they want to work it out and that you accepted it?The other thing is should i trust her going out? Should she be going out? I am just so lost right now. i want to be with her, like i picture so some much for our future. Shes the most beautiful thing i ever had in my life. and i dont want to lose her. There is times where i wish i can erase everything in her head lol but men its so hard. like i dont know how long is this going to last. all i want from her is just give me this 2nd chance and let me show everyone that they is always a 2nd chance. i know for a fact i want to be with her. i jus need her to help me out. it takes 2 to work it out, but she doesnt see that. i dont know i am so lost right now. please help! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 There is also times where i can NEVER go out and till this day i feel the same way. but for her she goes out every every weekend. i can understand that one. while I am betting you are thinking that is unfair, she isn't the one that has proven she can't be trusted when out with friends............yet. Im jus asking how much do i got to do to get her trust back? an effin' sh#tload!!! There is times when i ask myself am i wasting my time? you might be, only time will tell. When i found out everything just went all bad so we end up taking a "break" but at the same time she would go hang out with this guy and still see me. well then I'd say you are both f####d in the head. she doesn't sound like anyone worthy either. she led this other guy on. nice, real nice. I guess I can quit responding to the rest of your post....sounds like both of you could be trusted as far as you could be thrown. Link to post Share on other sites
scatterd Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 If you both want to work this out go to counseling no the two of you need to be on the same page.Their is damage there and time heals all but relationships take work.If she is not willing to do this you guys will not work.Somethings are just to big to do with out help.Sit down and ask if she is willing and make a new commitment to not see other people.God Luck Link to post Share on other sites
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 OMG this sounds like from a movie and a guy is a prisoner on some life TV show of his life and he has to prove where he is 24/7 so he can't run away....but you not ever trying here...hmmm whaaaaaaaat? bro....you living like a slave to her she will never respect you for that, she trusts that you are pathetic or at least acting like one. You made an error, you say sorry, she sais no, well ok move on you tried, no need to be slave will not change anything, grow some bolls!!! i clean the house, i cook, i jus mainly do what a girl wants in a man. jus the only thing that is not good is TRUST and i had it. Like when shes out doing her thing i always stay home. And when im home she doesnt think im home she thinks im some where else. but i always send her pictuers and i always text her of where im at sometimes i even send her videos threw my phone to her and it jus feels like that isnt enough. its like what else can i do? There is also times where i can NEVER go out and till this day i feel the same way. but for her she goes out every every weekend. Im jus asking how much do i got to do to get her trust back? There is times when i ask myself am i wasting my time? I jus dont know what to do anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Aries77 Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 It will take TIME. If you REALLY want to be with her, you've just got to get through it. All within time. My ex-boyfriend cheated on me in college and denied it to my face, and it really hurt. My philosophy is Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater...but I DID give him a second chance...didn't work out, but anyway - it will take time. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
RedRussian Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 "My philosophy is Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater...but I DID give him a second chance...didn't work out" So you never trusted him after that again and still gave him second chance without the trust, no wonder it did not work out.And it is almost impossible to regain woman's trust so stop it! Stop being this growling pathetic house Beeach. Repeat to your self "She is not my world, she is not my world" you will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Aries77 Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 "My philosophy is Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater...but I DID give him a second chance...didn't work out" So you never trusted him after that again and still gave him second chance without the trust, no wonder it did not work out.And it is almost impossible to regain woman's trust so stop it! Stop being this growling pathetic house Beeach. Repeat to your self "She is not my world, she is not my world" you will be fine. Wow, RedRussian, you sure like to use some strong choice of words here, eh? I honestly can say that it didn't work out in my senario because of something else, not because I didn't trust him or something. So....in any event, my advice is to keep on truckin...she'll get over it in time, that is, if she really wants to be with you and wants to work it out. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted June 10, 2010 Share Posted June 10, 2010 Hey JSDR---Is the only reason you want her, is cuz she is beautiful---I certainly hope there is a HE*L of a lot more to your relationship, than looks----if that's all their is, you better start looking at yourself, and what is really important in a partner, as far as you are concerned. You are both cheating on each other, so you DO NOT HAVE TO GROVEL Your relationship should be equal, and between the 2 of you their should be some strong boundaries, with consequences for both of you---the consequences need to be something you will both implement if the boundary is violated Both of you need to sit down and talk about dating, passion, relationships, and see what each of you really wants----LONG TERM RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT MAKE IT---IF THE WHOLE THING IS BASED ON LOOKS. Sounds like right now you are both to immature to know what either of you really wants!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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