Disillusioned Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 This is not some pitiful, gloomy, soulful-eyed lament... more like one hoarse shout for order. I'm sick of the way people think the idea of a platonic relationship is a joke. I bet most people have never even looked it up in a dictionary (thinking gives them a brainache)... that, or else they avoid platonic relationships because it would interfere with their scores. I say that if these dating service shills and sex workers are going to browse the personals, they should do us all a favor by leaving the platonic ads the hell alone. Being interested in a platonic relationship is sort of like beer goggles in reverse. I've put ads on a certain site I won't name (knowing I wasn't going to take the responses seriously, of course), and the women who answered---I'm pretty sure some of them were guys pretending to be women---probably didn't even read the ad, they'd just send me their pic or some stolen pic, either wanting a 1NS or trying to lure me into joining their dating site. Truth is, these people who answer these ads don't have a clue how to behave toward another human being. Oops, I take that back, they do know how to behave... badly. Needless to say, they didn't score any points from me. If any of those kind of responders are reading this, then you need to call a spade a spade and stop trying to bait the platonic folks. It doesn't work, and you get nothing from it. BTW when you score, how do you redeem those points? Is there a whorehouse version of frequent flyer miles? Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Its true that many people cannot understand the concept of a platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex, but most people who are sceptical can be won around eventually. Not that you should have to, but some people are ignorant, what else can be done. I have mostly female friends and my closest friend is female but I have had trouble in the past from guys who can't understand me being close with a girl but nothing more. Its like they can't get their head around it, I find it perfectly normal though. Depends how close you get I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted June 9, 2010 Author Share Posted June 9, 2010 Thanks, bro. It's gratifying to know at least ONE other human being "gets it". Link to post Share on other sites
skydiveaddict Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 I'm not so sure. I'm REALLY tired of being single Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted June 10, 2010 Author Share Posted June 10, 2010 I'm not so sure. I'm REALLY tired of being single I myself am REALLY tired of being single... but I'm also REALLY tired of hearing from women who just want a 1NS and then want me to chuck them like an empty beer can. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted June 12, 2010 Share Posted June 12, 2010 (edited) I fully enjoyed being single so cant completely relate. There did come a time that I did begin to long for someone though so, ok.. if I were you Disillusioned, I would start some sort of writing club or reading group with a local library.. or something like that. Plenty of opportunity to have platonic friendships there with maybe a hint of more. Just thought of this because of the interest that you have in writing. Of course, this may not work, but who knows who you may meet in trying? Sorry if this is not to your taste.. but I am sure you get what I mean. Be what you want to attract, I say. Take care, Eve xx Edited June 12, 2010 by Eve Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 Be what you want to attract, I say. Been what I want to attract for the past 25 years. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 This isn't helpful advice in the least, but I think relationships are basically 99% luck. When people give advice or tutelage on how people can attract others, I think most of the times its useless. I don't think attracting people is something that can be learnt or taught because in my mind, its all chemistry, and chemistry is out of our hands. Maybe i'm wrong though. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted June 16, 2010 Share Posted June 16, 2010 Been what I want to attract for the past 25 years. Does beginning a writing club of some sort sound feasible to you though? That was the main emphasis of my post. Take Care, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted June 16, 2010 Author Share Posted June 16, 2010 Does beginning a writing club of some sort sound feasible to you though? That was the main emphasis of my post. Take Care, Eve xx The problem with that is the joiners expect their writing to be appreciated. They don't join to be hit on. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 The problem with that is the joiners expect their writing to be appreciated. They don't join to be hit on. Attraction is its own leader and so (ideally) is friendship. Hence I would not worry about that. Unless of course you have an unusual method once attracted to a woman? The point would be that you are fulfilling something that you are good at and can bring others together with the same interest. I am sure that you would get a mixture of people within any gathering... then boom bam.. platonic friendships... with a hint maybe of more. I am glad that you are confident. Even more reason to start something as such. Or of course you could just keep whining like a big jelly baby.. (JOKE) Take care, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted June 17, 2010 Author Share Posted June 17, 2010 I am glad that you are confident. Even more reason to start something as such. I'm glad I bought my Realdoll last year. Or of course you could just keep whining like a big jelly baby.. (JOKE) I'm not whining, I'm ranting. God did a lousy job when he designed human nature. BTW you need to work on your sense of humor... your jokes are duds. Link to post Share on other sites
Eve Posted June 17, 2010 Share Posted June 17, 2010 Evidently there seems to be a block of some sort between us, so I shall leave you to find info, or share a rant with someone more on your wavelength. All the best with things. Take care, Eve xx Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted June 18, 2010 Share Posted June 18, 2010 I take it you have already been through the branches of friends of friends to the ends of those often fruitful trees in your search? You sound like you want to build something real and deep eventually and want to start slow. Its difficult to progress that way sometimes so you could do with meeting someone through someone else you know or out of the blue. Maybe enrol on a short course in something you enjoy and open up a new branch of friends. Link to post Share on other sites
mixwell Posted June 29, 2010 Share Posted June 29, 2010 I've put ads on a certain site I won't name (knowing I wasn't going to take the responses seriously, of course), and the women who answered---I'm pretty sure some of them were guys pretending to be women---probably didn't even read the ad, they'd just send me their pic or some stolen pic, either wanting a 1NS or trying to lure me into joining their dating site. I'm not trying to be biased to your overall opinion but this right here is common sense.. Cmon dude hardly anyone legit looks for a platonic relationship online.. In public or other conditions I agree with you but a website is a horrible way to create a platonic relationship with a person of the opposite sex because in the back of that person's mind they will still think you want more although that may not be your intention. I think it is hard for a female in general to grasp the idea that a male could want to communicate with her as just friends since like 99% of the time men persue women with more than friends in mind.. In essence you can blame it on the male population for making these females distrust you and think you're full of BS although you may be genuine in your persuit for a platonic relationship with a female.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Disillusioned Posted July 2, 2010 Author Share Posted July 2, 2010 In that case, maybe female clones are the answer. That would be cool... I'd have to sign a promise to take care of her and not force her to do housework or do perverted things to her, and in turn, she'd be inhibited against feeling angry or selfish, or falling out of love with me. Heh, imagine how today's career-driven uberwomen would feel once these clones started becoming big business and replacing them... Heck, I'd gladly donate a fifth of all my paychecks to female clone development! Link to post Share on other sites
thekaysal2000 Posted July 9, 2010 Share Posted July 9, 2010 I am a woman and would enjoy a one man relationship yet most men I meet want to jump into bed before knowing my underwear size. Is this what it takes to have a one on one??? I want a companion and all the goodies that goes with it, not a one night stand. I can get that at the local bar. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted July 9, 2010 Share Posted July 9, 2010 Let me guess... YOU were on CRAIGSLIST and the PLATONIC section didn't get you the pretty little female friend you wanted. The low stress in your mind way into getting a gf... Look if you haven't had a seriouse relationship in 25 years YOU ARE NOT TRYING. INTERNET sucks for dating... ESPECIALY if you are a MAN! I'm not going to lie to you... I'm SO EXCENTRIC that I border on INSANE. IF I CAN GET A GF EASILY! then so can YOU! There is no trick... you just have to go out in the real world and play the numbers game... BE YOURSELF. put yourself in a position to let women REJECT YOU. ENJOY the journey.... ENJOY IT! FLIRT/TOUCH/KISS... ask women out... do all the things that put them in a position to reject you... Soon enough you'll have plenty saying YES... OH YES. and you can reject the ones you DON'T WANT. Link to post Share on other sites
gamma1 Posted July 9, 2010 Share Posted July 9, 2010 I am a woman and would enjoy a one man relationship yet most men I meet want to jump into bed before knowing my underwear size. Is this what it takes to have a one on one??? I want a companion and all the goodies that goes with it, not a one night stand. I can get that at the local bar. So many women get suspicious of men who don't want to jump in bed immediately. I don't understand why. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted July 9, 2010 Share Posted July 9, 2010 The problem with that is the joiners expect their writing to be appreciated. They don't join to be hit on. Platonic: 1) of or relating to or characteristic of Plato or his philosophy; "Platonic dialogues" 2) free from physical desire; "platonic love" Or, another one: pure, spiritual affection, subsisting between persons of opposite sex, unmixed with carnal desires, and regarding the mind only and its excellences If you want to meet a woman who isn't out to score and think a platonic start is the way to go, than a book club is definitely a better place to find a mate than some anonymous website - we all know it's Craislist-. But really, it sounds like you did the experiment to reinforce your own prejudiced view of human nature and would rather keep your views than listen to helpful advice. Rant away. Link to post Share on other sites
jstalltxga Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I say just be comfortable with having female friends. you can really never have too many friends. I'm 26 and I have plenty of female friends. the smart ones can give you good dating advice, and if you are lucky set you up with a friend. that being said i'm in the boat with you about simply having trouble making these into relationships. it is tricky. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted July 10, 2010 Share Posted July 10, 2010 I say just be comfortable with having female friends. you can really never have too many friends. I'm 26 and I have plenty of female friends. the smart ones can give you good dating advice, and if you are lucky set you up with a friend. that being said i'm in the boat with you about simply having trouble making these into relationships. it is tricky. I don't have any CLOSE female friends. I mean I have people I'm friendly with but no girl I would DARE call up and have an hour long talk with or see a movie with ect... BUT I HAVE A GF. The reason I have a gf among other things is because I KNOW BETTER then to be friends with GIRLS. Doesn't EXIST. Once you have a guy and girl spending alone time, and getting togather for private hangouts, phone calls... ect. One or Both people are crossing boundaries. Link to post Share on other sites
asrgal Posted July 15, 2010 Share Posted July 15, 2010 Well, I am a female and I don't want a guy that has tons of close female friends (I think that would make a great new post). Anyhow, it would make me worry - yep I am a woman. I think women have the same problem it is hard to find a good guy out there, someone who actually is in there for the real thing etc. Call me old fashioned, and yes I do fine with my job and can support myself just fine, still I love a man to be a man. Society is all messed up anymore, I want a guy to be more successful than me, I want him to make me feel safe and secure etc. Hard to find real men out there anymore :-( I feel your rant! Link to post Share on other sites
pinkp Posted July 23, 2010 Share Posted July 23, 2010 I cant believe there is a man complaining about this. It's funny. Link to post Share on other sites
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