Is it wrong for others not to know their place?

[jean-luc sisko]

I'm a bit tired of people I know claiming they're resentful I'm smarter than they are.

 

Isn't life being about accepting oneself for who you are?

 

Why compare oneself to others, it never made sense.

[Trimmer]

How, specifically, are they communicating to you that they are resentful, and what they are resentful of? Are they saying that, literally, or are you inferring it from indirect evidence?

 

Also, if someone is less smart than you, what is his "place"? What do you mean by that?

[jean-luc sisko]

How, specifically, are they communicating to you that they are resentful, and what they are resentful of? Are they saying that, literally, or are you inferring it from indirect evidence?

 

Also, if someone is less smart than you, what is his "place"? What do you mean by that?

 

 

Their place in that others have superior talents to them.

[Trimmer]

So, you didn't answer my question as to how they communicated to you that they were resentful...

 

Their place in that others have superior talents to them.

So are you saying it is important to you that others accept and acknowledge that you have superior talents to theirs? Do you expect them to actually acknowledge that they are inferior, or what exactly would satisfy your need?

[jean-luc sisko]

So, you didn't answer my question as to how they communicated to you that they were resentful...

 

 

So are you saying it is important to you that others accept and acknowledge that you have superior talents to theirs? Do you expect them to actually acknowledge that they are inferior, or what exactly would satisfy your need?

 

 

 

they always moan and whine that they feel bad for me being smarter than they are.

 

But that is not my problem. How can it be? Life is about self-acceptance.

[Ross PK]

I've never heard of anyone whining to someone because they're smarter.

 

Sure you ain't trolling? Lol.

[2sure]

It would be easier to help you if you could demonstrate some of your superior intelligence. Just as an example.

[Ronni_W]

Their place in that others have superior talents to them.

jean-luc,

Just because you have a higher IQ or better memory retention does not mean, at this point, that you have "superior talents" to those with lower IQ or who can't remember-and-regurgitate facts as well as you can.

 

The actual talent is in how you use your IQ -- once you've cultivated your intellect to the point of having reached its higher potentials, only then you will have earned/worked for the right to say that you are of "superior (intellectual) talent".

 

It's the same as we wouldn't call a big pile of rock "gold" just because it has the potential to yield the precious and valuable metal.

 

As far as dealing with others' comments about your IQ, have you tried recognizing and expressing your admiration of their latent talents -- his or her sense of humour, optimistic outlook, compassionate nature, ability to be humble, etc. That is, why not start cultivating your IQ and using it to your advantage...so that you can eventually claim "superior" status in this particular area?

[donnamaybe]

It would be easier to help you if you could demonstrate some of your superior intelligence. Just as an example.

 

LMFAOROTF!!!! THANK you for that!

 

I doubt the problem is so much the circumstance as the way it is handled.

[Trimmer]

But that is not my problem. How can it be? Life is about self-acceptance.

I would agree. So why don't you focus more on your own self-acceptance, instead of agonizing over their acceptance of you?

[witabix]

they always moan and whine that they feel bad for me being smarter than they are.

 

But that is not my problem. How can it be? Life is about self-acceptance.

 

Its all relative, someone with an IQ of 70 will think an IQ of 90 is smart.

[jean-luc sisko]

It would be easier to help you if you could demonstrate some of your superior intelligence. Just as an example.

 

I know more about a variety of subjects than they do.

 

And I am a lot mentally sharper.

[jean-luc sisko]

Its all relative, someone with an IQ of 70 will think an IQ of 90 is smart.

 

All relative yes, especially as the concept of IQ has been discredited.

[D-Lish]

I know more about a variety of subjects than they do.

 

And I am a lot mentally sharper.

 

Would you consider yourself superior to them with regard to your spelling and grammar skills?

[ADF]

Have these people actually told you they resent you for being smarter than they are, or do you just percieve yourself as smarter?

[Ronni_W]

Why compare oneself to others, it never made sense.

How, then, are you making sense of the fact that you are comparing yourself to others? Or do you mean it's okay to compare oneself to others only if one comes out, in one's own eyes, "smarter, sharper and superior" after one's comparison?

 

Or. Maybe the people to whom you're referring are not resentful of your perceived intellectual superiority but of your comparisons and seeing/treating them as if they actually are somehow "inferior"?

[jean-luc sisko]

Have these people actually told you they resent you for being smarter than they are, or do you just percieve yourself as smarter?

 

Yes. And I think they should just live with it.

[Feelin Frisky]

Truth be told, you're not smarter. Your brain is probably more highly developed as a result of your motivations to learn and success at doing so. That's how it's explained in the new science of neuroplasticity--we don't assume static intelligeneces set by birth because it is proven untrue. Trouble is there is a strong backward culture in which "sameness" is held high and that sameness is usually a huge bag full of ignorant notions rather than up-to-date knowledge. My niece just got dissed as almost no one went to the sweet 16 party thrown by her parents. She learned of text chatter where her peers faulted her for reading and like being smart and $hi+.

 

Until neuroplasticity becomes a governing design criteria in education, education will continue to process uniform units like those kids on the conveyor belt going into the meat grinder in Pink Floyd's "The Wall". They naturally resent anyone who asserts their independent reasoning even if there is absolutely no intention to embarrass or shove them down. I experience this $hi+ too. Everyone wants to see my doctorate. But neuroplasticity and motivation coupled with being in the right places at the right time has enabled me to develop vision other people can't wrap their heads around in any short order.Yielding to the system and being an academic or achiving a doctorate would definitely have kept me from finding myself uniquely gifted by my own intuitions.

Edited June 12, 2010 by Feelin Frisky

[jean-luc sisko]

How, then, are you making sense of the fact that you are comparing yourself to others? Or do you mean it's okay to compare oneself to others only if one comes out, in one's own eyes, "smarter, sharper and superior" after one's comparison?

 

Or. Maybe the people to whom you're referring are not resentful of your perceived intellectual superiority but of your comparisons and seeing/treating them as if they actually are somehow "inferior"?

 

Part of wellbeing is to focus on one's own life.

 

I couldn't care less if I was born smarter. Such is life, some are born better looking or born more materially well off.

[Taramere]

I know more about a variety of subjects than they do.

 

And I am a lot mentally sharper.

 

I'm trying to get a flavour of the kind of environment where someone who produces the posts we've seen from you thus far might be considered intellectually superior. Do you live/work in an institution for people with learning difficulties?

[Toki]

I've worked with a couple of people, who were absolutely brilliant to the 10th power, and beyond. Such as, the lead engineer who designed the Lunar Module for Apollo 11... this guy could spin intellectual circles around me without any effort whatsoever, and I loved taking in every morsel of information he could provide, and that I could retain.

 

The thing of it was, is that he never made any attempts to belittle me, or dance around the fact that he knew way more than I did (He was getting well into his 70s by the time I knew him). I think he was actually unaware of just how far ahead of the curb he was, or if he did know, he wore it with amazing grace, and tact. Neither of which, you have shown.

 

Be a mentor, and teach people who are interested, even if they aren't as intelligent as you are. You'd be surprised, that not all people are as unintelligent as they would have you think.

[witabix]

.................

 

You'd be surprised, that not all people are as unintelligent as they would have you think.

 

Yes, the 'I am not as dumb as you look' ones.

[ADF]

Part of wellbeing is to focus on one's own life.

 

I couldn't care less if I was born smarter. Such is life, some are born better looking or born more materially well off.

 

How about you pick one of your areas of expertise and expound on it a little?

[jean-luc sisko]

I'm trying to get a flavour of the kind of environment where someone who produces the posts we've seen from you thus far might be considered intellectually superior. Do you live/work in an institution for people with learning difficulties?

 

Well, I have a lot of knowledge of politics and current affairs, and have more life wisdom than people in my peer group. For this, they resent my talents and feel envious and inadequate.

 

Or is sufficient evidence for intelligence education? I value education highly, but I find many persons with degrees are fools who know little of the world around them. Society must move away from the idea that book smarts is the epitome of intelligence.

[jean-luc sisko]

How about you pick one of your areas of expertise and expound on it a little?

 

Political science

Marketing

UK political history