GoldfingerCymru Posted January 29, 2004 Share Posted January 29, 2004 Need Advice. My future fiance broke up with me 3 months ago. I havent mailed for 6 weeks, until last week to apologise and explain some of the changes made in my life. I am thinking about sending her a valentines day card with a poem in it. Should I, just to show I still love her ??? Here is the poem, so any ideas would be greatly appreciated as I miss her as much now as I did then. A snowflake falls from the sky, From the power that sits on high. Each unique, just like a star, One so close and yet so far. With beauty and such grace they fall, Onto the earth, one and all. Each person has one single flake, Not their's to keep, not their's to take. One unique flake fell in'75, That made me love and feel alive. If I am yours, will you be mine, You beautiful, unique valentine. Cheers Guys and Gals. Link to post Share on other sites
Nameless Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 do it...lol... i mean, wutdya gotta lose... Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldfingerCymru Posted January 30, 2004 Author Share Posted January 30, 2004 Laughter aside - I don't want to push her further away. I want to show her that I do care for her a lot without annoying her by sending the card. It's really a tough decision, but the poem is from the heart and I'm not sure what her reaction might be. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 30, 2004 Share Posted January 30, 2004 Hi Goldfinger respect to you for not emailing her for 6 weeks, i'm in the same boat & i've stupidly pushed her further away i feel, by mailing her. There's so many unresolved things in my mind.. I feel she may take sending things as blackmail, as mine has, although a simple card without the poem may be ok. Please tell me how you managed to do it for so long, so i can do the same. It's so hard when we love them so & they're always in our minds! Do people change their minds, mine has before, so i live in hope she will again. Take Care Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldfingerCymru Posted January 30, 2004 Author Share Posted January 30, 2004 It has been hell every day, but I don't want to push her away - although I am not sure if she has gone for good or not (although she initially says a second chance is not going to happen). I have never felt like this for anyone else before (and I have been married - shotgun style). I have read a few 'get your love back' books and have tried to use some of the advice - although none of them fit my particular situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldfingerCymru Posted January 30, 2004 Author Share Posted January 30, 2004 PS. Monkey This is the first time we have split, so I don't reallyknow what to do or say. PM me your e-mail and I will send you a copy of the letter I wrote after the 6 weeks no contact - just in case there may be some lines in it that may help yourself. Alan Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Monkey, it's like this...if you don't leave her alone you will push her away permanently. Leave her alone and you might see her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldfingerCymru Posted January 31, 2004 Author Share Posted January 31, 2004 lost, Do you think I should send the card with the poem ?? If I din't want her back, I wouldn't be posting here - I want to show her I care and on the other hand I don't want to push her away. That is if I haven't lost her for good. My male friends all say I have, but a lot of my female friends say there is a chance if I play it right. Any advice would be helpful. Goldfinger Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Chicago man i know your right. My problem is, if you can call it a problem, is that i'm very sensitive & i read into things too much, & that things hurt me as this has. Somedays i get very upset about this because my life is now a little in pieces as i am back in my small village where i grew up, i don't want to be here, i want to be with the person i was going to start a new life with. & when i get a mail from her telling me to forget her & not to talk of the things she promised me, it's so hard to just leave it. But i know now i have to & i've realised that i am trying to make her say something she, at the moment, doesn't want to. I understand this. She is famous for changing her mind & her current feelings aren't neccesarily going to be her future feelings. That's mabe up to me! Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Originally posted by monkey She is famous for changing her mind & her current feelings aren't neccesarily going to be her future feelings. That's mabe up to me! No, it's not up to you. It's up to her. SHE has a habit of changing HER mind. Everyone loves the no-contact rule, except when it applies to them. Write yourself a post under a different username, take some NYquil, come back 20 minutes later, and respond to your post--That's the advice you should take. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Yes man, but my actions could help her. Yes the decision is hers, but if i was to carry on my past ways, there is only 1 way it will go. But if she sees me giving her space & as she says, just talk of nice current issues, her attitude & manner will change towards me, she tells me this. Although her mind may be made up, made up minds are there to be changed. I understand the no-contact rule, this never applied to our situation, keeping in touch was the rule, but i was decieved & things that were told me, dramatically changed when i was 6000 miles back over the ocean, i was gutted & i think anyone would feel the need for answers. I overdid it, now i give her, her own way! Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Here's something.... Step1: Read post 7 again. Goto Step1 Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Originally posted by monkey Yes man, but my actions could help her. [...] Although her mind may be made up, made up minds are there to be changed. I can see you're being stubborn, and I don't know how to relate it to you. With that attitude up there, tell us how you do. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Hey, i'm just gonna leave her alone & play by her rules! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Entiendo! Estoy intentando ayudarte. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Yo se, estoy agradecido. Tengo que cambiar. gracias! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted January 31, 2004 Share Posted January 31, 2004 Bien. Link to post Share on other sites
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